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Acting Like Another Gender vs. Actually Wanting to Be Another Gender
I know this is a weird question, but I'm going to try.
How do you tell the difference between just acting like another gender and actually wanting to BE another gender? I'm a bit confused with my gender myself and am hoping to know how to tell the difference.
Thank you!
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Gender Identity and Gender Expression are two different things. While gender identity is your internal sense of being male, female, both, or neither, gender expression is how you express your gender.
I always felt that I had a gender identity that didn't match perfectly with my physical sex. While I was born female and enjoy doing feminine things, I don't identify as a girl. Then I learned that you didn't have to be either a boy or girl -- you can be both, or a mix of the two, or neither. After living as another gender for a while and exploring my gender identity more, I realised that I was genderfluid. That means I don't identify with any one gender, but sometimes I feel more male, and sometimes more on the feminine side, or maybe just androgynous or in between.
Mostly, I do see myself as a feminine male. That means my internal gender is usually mostly male -- but then again my gender is still fluid -- although my gender expression is more feminine.
Here are a couple questions to ask yourself:
- What gender or genders do you feel you are on the inside? Are you a boy or girl, or are you both or neither, or genderfluid like I am?
- How do you express your gender? Do you express yourself in a feminine, masculine, or androgynous way?
I hope you find out who you are eventually, good luck and I hope this helped you. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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Well, that depends on your sexuality. If you're a girl and acting and looking like a dude rather than being and acting like a complete opposite gender is confusing but I think you'll figure it out on your own. I'm guessing your a girl, so if you feel like a girl stuck in a boy's body or if you're a boy and you think your stuck in a girl's body.
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Gender Identification and sexuality to a point go hand in hand. You could be gay, bisexual, pansexual or straight in either gender you identify with.
It is very possible, as we are finding out today, for say a boy physically to actually be more a girl than boy. In other words she is a girl in the wrong body. If you feel as if your gender does not match who you physically you are not acting you are felling.
Just who you are and what your sexuality will be at your age can be confusing. If this is something you have just started to feel it may be just curiosity and not truly wanting to be another gender. Most people who report wanting to be another gender seem to know this from early childhood.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandfather I realize this is the type of question that talking with your parents would be hard for you to do. If you are having this issue, which it appears you are, then I urge you to find away to talk with mom or dad about this.
One way to break the ice about this issue with them is write them a letter. The reason for the letter is it allows you to get all you thoughts down on paper and written out without interruption.
Your parents will read the letter in its entirety that I can assure you. Whereas in conversation you may not be able to get everything out before being interrupted. Tell them in the letter you are having gender identification issues. You can also tell them that a kindly old man on a advisory site suggested that this would be a way of asking them for help. That he also suggests that they seek the help of a psychologist to help you figure out what is happening.
Please believe this about yourself. You have done nothing wrong. Working with a psychologist will help you find out a real answer to your question that we as advisors cannot give you. Should it turn out you are one of the people that are gendered wrong the psychologist will help you deal with it and give you options for later in life.
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Well OK. When you think about yourself, do you feel like a stereotypical girl, or stereotypical boy? Like... (I know not all girls are like this, but bear with me) Do you ever feel the urge to go try on a dress, or put on make up? When you are around your girl friends do you feel like an outsider, or do you feel like an outsider around boys? Acting like a boy would mean you assossiate yourself with being a girl who is pretending to be a boy or vice versa. Keep in mind that you may be intersex (Equally male and female) Hope I helped :-) oh, and remember: Sexuality has nothing to do with it. You could be gay, bisexual, or asexual.
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