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transgender
hi im 14 and im physically a female but i want to be a male i like the clothes and everything with it in school i act and sometimes talk like a boy. my best friend when we are out of school refers to me as a boy
i need help i really do think im transgender???????????????
and how do i tell my parents??
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Hey! I'm fourteen and transgender as well. :)
If you feel like you are a boy in a girl's body, then you're a trans boy just like I am. Keep in mind, though, that gender identity (the gender you are on the inside) and gender expression (how you express your gender) are two separate things. In itself, acting and talking like a boy may make a person masculine, but not necessarily male; similarly, acting like a girl may make someone feminine but not necessarily female.
What I'm trying to say is whether or not you are transgender is about what gender you feel you are on the inside. How you act and talk has NOTHING to do with your internal gender identity. I consider myself to be rather feminine, but that doesn't make me any less of a boy. :)
Here are a few things to ask yourself:
- Do you feel that your internal gender identity and biological sex do not match?
- Would you prefer to be perceived and treated as a male rather than a female?
- Would you be more comfortable living as a male than as a female?
- Think about the person you will be in the future. Do you see yourself living the rest of your life as a man?
- Do you plan on altering your physical appearance so your gender identity and physical gender match? (Note: this doesn't necessarily mean undergoing hormone therapy or surgery, as some trans men are comfortable with simply wearing men's clothes and wearing a chest binder to make their chest appear more masculine.)
- Remember that gender is a spectrum. You can be male, female, both, neither, a mix of the two, genderfluid. . . Whichever you feel you are on the inside. Gender is not a binary -- not everyone fits into the "boy" category or the "girl" category.
Here are a few links that you may find helpful:
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The last link is not an article but a helpful test. It takes a while to complete, but it is very accurate. It is called the Sex And Gender Explorer or S.A.G.E Test and covers many aspects of gender identity and expression, biological sex, and brain gender patterns.
I hope this helped. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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Hi dear transgender I know. What you been going too cause as my self I dress up like a boy and even think like one but pls don't think about any surgery I use to think just like u belive me but you only 14 you have your whole iife ahead of you you don't know that that what you are until you let GOD in your heart just belive and he will guide you to the right path.....and don't worry about your parents you are them blood they will be with you either way...wish you all the best..
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You are 14 years old and while you are still very young what I know about this subject says you may very well know if you are a boy trapped in a girls body. While this is a problem people have faced for years medical science is just starting to accept the fact that this is so.
None of us here are doctors so medical advice is not possible. Frankly I doubt any of us understand your situation enough to offer you any type of advice that will truly be beneficial. I am purposely going to put the cart in front of the horse, so to speak. So you know what I know about what you may be facing. I will get to your question after that.
What I do know is at 14 you will have to wait at least 4 more years if you want gender reassignment surgery. There are several reasons for this. Among them is your body needs to finish growing and going through puberty and you need to be at least of adult age which in most states and countries is 18. Next you need to be evaluated by a psychiatrist and live as a male for a period of time before the certification doctors require before performing this type of surgery will be given to you.
How to tell your parents is a tough question. Depending on how well educated and how well versed they are in this area will depend on how accepting of what you may tell them they will be. They may think you are just a Tomboy. A phase that you will eventually grow out of. If you are truly a boy trapped in a girls body, something I believe in what you are saying you feel. Then your problem is going to harder to make them understand.
I did find while searching for a hotline support group to offer you the following website. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). Through this website you should be able to find a local support group that can help you better than I can with this question.
What I do know is you are going to need professional help both in discussing this with your parents and in whatever decision you may make in the future. Give this website a try and find a local group to call and ask for help. Lastly if you cannot come right out and tell them ask your parents to find you a psychologist to work with as you are having some problems you are not comfortable talking to them about.
Another alternative is that by law at 14 you can make your own doctors appointments. You can make an appointment with your family doctor. Your visit at this age is totally confidential and if you are accompanied by mom or dad they must wait in the waiting room while you are with the doctor. Nothing you say to the doctor can be told back to them as you have by law medical confidentiality. You must give your permission in writing to release you medical information. Once with your doctor you can discus with him or her what you have told us. Then he or she can refer you to a psychologist.
All though mom and dad may be questioning of the doctors reasoning for the referral they should not try to refuse you seeing the psychologist. Once you have met with the psychologist he or she will help you with telling your parents.
FYI: There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. This is how you were born. Promise me one thing. Regardless of when, if or how you decide to tell you parents; If ever you get so depressed over this that you can't bear it. You will pick up a phone and call 911 for help. There is help out there. I hope this website will be able to help you find the help you need.
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How long have you felt like this? I have a few transgender friends, and I am apart of the LGBT community so I can somewhat understand what you're going through. Have you always felt like you're a male just trapped in a female body? Many people who identify as transgender say that they've known since they were little kids.
The first step is to admit to yourself that you're transgender, if you really believe that you truly are, and accept it. Because it's okay. There is nothing wrong with that.
The next step is to tell your parents WHEN YOU ARE READY. Don't feel like you HAVE to tell them just yet, tell them when you're ready. You should just sit them down and speak from your heart. Tell them exactly how you feel and what is going on your head. They probably won't understand exactly, because they aren't transgender (I'm assuming.) so you have to do your best to explain to them. They may be shocked at first, and they may possibly get upset and I guarantee they'll be very emotional. You need to give them time though. I'm sure your parents love you more than anything, and they will come around. They just need to let it set in.
If you ever need support, you should check out dailystrength.org because they have an online support group for people who are transgender. The community on there is wonderful, everyone is incredibly supportive and they don't judge whatsoever.
Also, if you ever need to talk, you can message me on here. :)
I wish the best for you!
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