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I think I'm becoming antisocial and have anger isssues thats ruining me
Hi, im a m 15 in the 9th grade. Lately I realized I've been acting antisocial and that I'm slowly developing anger problems and sucidal thoughts seem to come to me more and more everyday. A year or so ago life wasn't the best but it was bareable, I had friends, fun and family was there. In the sence that they where there and we didnt fight as much. I wasn't doing to great in school but I was trying. Friends were there and we had a good time. But this year things changed. I got my grades up from a c/d average to an B+/a average. My friends and me dont talk as much since we dont have many classes together and we have drifted apart. I have maybe one friend who is also drifting apart from me. This is probably because more than 3/4's of my school abuse drugs and alcohol including my friends but i don't want to get into all that. So this obviously would result in them not really talking or being with me so im at home for the a good part now. My parents and everyone have suspicsions about me and drugs and that constantly annoys me. My family always seem to fight with me. My dads senial approaching 60 and my mother just doesnt seem like she can take it anymore. My 2 sisters seem tired. One is 26 that is unemployed and blames that on me and my parents any my other sister 21 is trying to do college but stays at home and cant take it. My mom just today said she doesnt care anymore about me. I recently stopped goign to school when I have problems at home and thats starting to affect my grades. I ask for very little things at home yet my parents always but there priorities and sisters priorities before me and I dont think i can take it anymore. Help please.
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This is the time you stand up alone , on your own because basically , what mistakes did you commit to deserve all those treatment ? I see none . You didn't get involved with drugs and you tried to increase your grades and somehow at home your problems are arising . Don't let them affect you and your emotions because you are who you are and from now on , you need to be strong , as hard as steel , and it won't be easy at first but eventually , you'll be able to face more problems and solve them . In life , not everything will go the way we like . Take this as a hard test for you , don't worry too much because nothing will change unless your family , or friends change in a better way . You were delivered to this world alone , therefore you can stand alone , i promise you that 100% . Stop letting yourself down , don't judge yourself as worthless or whatsoever because you aren't . Show to the world that life can throw you metals and rocks , but you are the fire that melt all of them . Don't think about this too much , it might not bring you anywhere , because the problems didn't start from you and no matter what , be brave enough to defend yourself in any situation and be on the good side and most importantly , be brave and dare to do anything (good deeds) . People can't affect you , only you can or unless you let them to and until forever , just be nice to everyone . What goes around comes around . You can get through this . Might not be now , but one day you will .
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Don't skip school or allow your grades to fall when you worked your ass off to get there. Your mother does love you but is speaking from a very negative place and needs professional help herself. Your whole family does.
What you should do is find an adult be it a relative, friend's parent, teacher, counselor etc and tell them your story and how awful it is at home and ask for their help because you cannot cope and have a ton of stress on you. They will definitely do all they can to change things around for you and give you a healthy outlet to vent.
If you are having thoughts of death or suicide that isn't normal and you should go to an ER immediately and tell them you can't function and are scared you will act upon them without help. There is ZERO embarrassment in either scenario to tell them you are overwhelmed and cannot function and need help.
As for your sisters that's just the way they are. Don't allow them to bother you nor what you mom says as all three need to wake up and find help on their own.
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im sorry to hear that. I was actually the same way my freshman year, excluding the drug abuse at school. But when you become anti-social you think people stopped talking to you when maybe you stopped talking to them. Maybe you should just start saying hey to them if you ever see them. But also try to make new friends, find something you can possibly have in common with. and with your parents just ignore them im pretty sure they're just stressed with your sisters and seeing your grades they're probably just assuming. I would just ignore them. With your anger problems just listen to music it helps alot. if not just get a little alone time with yourself and just try to calm your self. I'm sure your mom didn't mean it, ive heard worse from my mom and she didn't mean it. Just ignore it and keep your head up kiddo. Hope i helped
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