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13/f
so my best friends boyfriend likes me A LOT!
i told him to stop but he still keeps flirting.
he keeps calling me, he gave me a song and he write me a lot of notes. What should I do???
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talk to him face to face. he needs to know your serious and that you don't want to hurt your best friend. tell him to stop or you will seriously consider telling your best friend about this. best of luck.
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Okay I have this MAJOR crush on this guy but he moved away last semester. We talk on the messanger (msn) all the time. I've told my bff that I like him. But she flirts with him (online) ALL the time. She knows I am in love with him. Yet she's acting like they're married. She ALWAYS descides the guys I like she likes! What do I do? Confront her about this. Or ignore it. I still wanna be friends
_HELP ME OUT
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defineetly comfront her. tell her before you say anything that she needs to know that your not just saying this and that you don't want to ruin your friendship ith her. make sure she knows that you liked him first and that you don't feel right that she flirtts with im. she may play it off with saying that it's just over messenger but tell her that it still hurts you and mkaes you upset. make sure you tell her everything. best of luck.
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There was recently an incident between a male teacher of mine and a female student that occurred at his house. But it's not exactly what you think--kind of but, let me explain how it happened:
My teacher is an attractive 25-year-old guy that teaches physics so the majority of his students are 17-18...maybe a few 16-year-olds. He's really cool, fun, etc. He gave us all his number in case we ever needed anything...that had to do with Physics. Well a girl called him one night and he tried to help her but she asked to go to his house so he could help her. I know for a fact that she was the one that asked to go to his house--he never asked her to come over. And yes, as a teacher he probably should have said no but he wasn't thinking that anything would turn out the way it did. Long story short though, she started accusing him of making advances and such and all the parents found out about it.
My mom now wants to pull me out of his class. I think it's ridiculous I know the girl and she constantly flirts with him and she asked to go to his place at night. I'm not saying that he's not in any fault because he shouldn't have let her come over but I know he would not make any advances. She's lying through her teeth and everyone knows it. She's talked several times about wanting to hook up with him and shes constantly bending over in front of him and all that.
I'm completely 100% on his side and I do not want to be pulled out of his class. He's an amazing teacher and I actually understand everything the way he explains it. Not to mention there's only a month of school left. So what should I do? I need to either convince my mom or if she still pulls me out of his class I was wondering if I should still go to his class instead of my new teachers? Any advice? (link)
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well, tal kto your mom about this. make sure you mention everything that you said when you explained it here. gtet your point across and make sure you mention about the girl, only one month of school, etc. best of luck, hope i helped.
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16/f. I feel extremely hurt right now. Ok, so my mom basically defends my dad in any situation whatsoever, even if he's wrong. That includes defending him in fights between me and him. I used to get into a lot of fights with my parents but now that's kind of been reduced because I've learned to not overreact to things and just to be the better person in the situation. My dad gets into a lot of cranky moods. He'll be really nice sometimes and cranky other times. My mom knows he's always cranky and admits it. The thing is, he always takes his moods out on me-almost on a daily basis. When he does that, I kind of talk back (not fight), which, as a person with feelings, I think I have the right to do when someone picks on me for no reason. So, he just picks these fights with me all the time when I never did anything. Once, in a blue moon, but not very often, though, I'll admit that maybe I'm the one who starts a fight (but what teenager doesn't fight with their parents?) In cases like these, my mom steps right in to defend my dad. Trust me, she gets FULLY involved and gets even more mad at me than my dad is. But that doesn't happen real often. However, when my dad picks these almost daily fights with me, she NEVER EVER defends me and even finds little ways to defend my dad. I'll go to her after the fact, when my dad's not around and be like, "why does dad vent his moods out on me every day?" and she'll be like "he's cranky, just ignore him" So, clearly she agrees that he's not treating me well. So she without fail defends my dad when it's my fault, but never defends me, when it's (more often) his. Oh and also, he's moody to her a lot to and she doesn't do anything about it. Plus, he's even cranky to my friends and one is even afraid to call our house anymore. Today, I talked to my mom about the situation and asked her why she never defends me. She was like, "I'm not getting involved in your fights with him" and then I said "you get involved in the rare occasion that it's my fault" and she had no answer. Another thing she said was, "He's the adult, you're the child". And she just kept on saying "don't drag me into this." It really hurts me that she fails to see that even though I'm a "child" I have feelings too. And it really hurts me that she never ever defends me and I'm her DAUGHTER! She doesn't care about my feelings. She must be afraid of him somehow but, I don't know why and I don't know why she's always (since I was born) doing this.
So, what are your thoughts, and more importantly, what in the world should I do about my mom? (Sorry it was long) (link)
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welll what you need to do is sit your mom down and don;t yell or loose your temper just talk to her and how you feel. make sure she knows how you do fell and then talk to your dad. tell hom that he always picks fights and make sure you mention about your friend that doens't even want to call your house anymore. that should get your point across and just make sure oyu stay calm and tell him everything you fell. best of luck.
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me and my stepdad fight all the time, my mom always takes his side even though he is unreasonable. he tells my mother how to parent me and raise me even though i am 16 years old. it makes me so mad how he patronizes me and treats me like im 5, my mom pretends not to notice. i hate it..... ive tried talking to her all she does is tells me he loves me and that i should listen to him.
any advice?
thanks
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the thing you need to do is not talk to your mom about it but your dad. you deserve to at least have a father that listens to you. talk to him about how you feel and don't talk to him when he's angry with oyu. sit him down and talk to him calmly. best of luck.
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i'm 15/f and i have never had an actual boyfriend and i've never kissed a guy. I feel so behind from all the other girls at school. I just don't feel like i want to take on all the drama that comes with a relationship.
I'm not ugly or anything and i think guys don't ask me out because i'm kind of one of them. I love video games and playing guitar, and skateboarding. The dresses and stuff don't really get me.
I'm worried about being single for the rest of my life! I want to keep my guy friends though, they're like my brothers and i'm worried that if i ever get a guy he won't let me hang out with my boys! (link)
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soon enough a guy will ocme along and like you for who you are. don't worry abotu being single because guys love it when you can be "one of them". i think you should try a little to become into some girly stuff. i mean i'm not saying you have to have a total transformation but just a little more feminine, do you see what i'm getting at? oh and please odn;t take this the wrong way i'm not saying anything insulting or trying to. but, try a little. best of luck!
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Ok...so my friend had her BF and his friend over and i came over and we watched saw 2 and he put his arm around me and we were cuddling from 8:30 to 11 and he lives in another town and is in the grade above me and i need to know if i should go out with him if he asks me cuz it ends up he cuddled with another one of my friends friend two weeks before me and he HATES her and idk if maybe he hates me too!! help!!! (link)
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it may be a little awkward but ask him about it. say i really do like you but i want to know if i consider dating you, will yu be serious about this, if you can't talk to him directly ask your friends boyfriend to ask him about you and mention something about dating. sorry this is such short advice. best of luck!
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me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and i love her sooo much you know it wasn't that first sight love it was that first kiss that made my world change just that first kiss and all of a sudden she doesn't love me for no reason after she has done everything bad to me and all i have done is love her, her friends hate me and put things in her head all the time, i just want to take her and leave and be alone and happy forever just the 2 of us and just start a new life i love her and i dont know what to do i have done everything she has asked lost firends everything you can think possible and now i have nothing but her i just don't know what to do (link)
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okay. you have 2 choices.
1) talk to your girlfriend aboutt his. tell her all that you feel about her, her friends, and her and you together. make sure she knows how you feel!
or..
2) (which i doubt you'll choose) break up with her. if you gave up everything for her and she didn;t do anything, maybe she isn't worth your time or love. think about this and it may hurt you to do it, but realize, what has she done?
best of luck. sorry if my advice isn;t what you wanted to hear.
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this is a weird question haha. i'm 14/f and i'm taller and a little bigger (not fat) than most of my friends. Whenever i hang out with people, i feel so awkward and i feel like i don't look girly. I feel very manly and beastly compared to other girls. I'm also not really good at talking to people haha i know i'm a mess :]
what can i do to feel less awkward all the time? (link)
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well, don't put yourself down. everyone had their own different looks and all of your friends have somehting about them that they don't like, you may not just notice it. it may only be you that notices that your slightly bigger than everyone else. don't worry about it. as i said everyone had their own different qualities and some they may not like. try not to be insecure about it, oh and talk about the newest clothes you bought. or anything on the news. you could even talk about what your doing this weekend or school. try to keep the conversation going even if you say something random! best of luck.
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Well, i went out w/ this guy for 2.5 months, and then i broke up w. him, cause he said to another girl i'll break up w/ her if you'll go out w/ me, and then i broke up w/ him and then he said that that was a stupis reason to break up w/ him, and then he started going out w/ another girl (who's one of my best friends) not even to days after we broke up. And now i lke another guy. And i think that my ex is mad at me, so would you be mad and do you have any good advice about how to ask out a guy? (link)
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of course i would be mad! he was going to break up with you if that other girl wanted to go out with him. he was being a jerk and apparently doesn't value a relationship. your ex is just mad because you broke up with him. i don't think it's a stupid reason at all to break up with someone. i would do the same. talk to your ex and friend about this. if you aren't comfortable with your friend going out with him tell her. i would be afraid that he is going to either cheat on her or break her heart. Tell your ex how you feel and that he has no reason to be mad. best of luck.
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i went on a "date" w/this guy(that i initiated) we went out for dinner, though we both never specified that it was anything more than that, and we hung out for a long time. i thought it went well, and he hugged me at the end.i didn't get any hint he wanted to see me again until he brings it up 3 weeks later randomly in the middle of our conversation.the 3 weeks leading to that i became upset b/c i felt maybe he didn't like me, even though he'd always become real happy to see me around.so even though this is what i wanted to hear him say, i guess 3 weeks of waiting overrode my enthusiasm.and later he convinced me to play intramural soccer w/him, i played one game and after the game he texts me and says "babe you're the best".and this is where it gets wierd: all of a sudden he changes and goes hot/cold switching and letting girls flirt w/him around me and not paying attn. to me. i don't understand. and now everytime i pass him by all he says is "will you play soccer?see you monday." he knows i can't play(it's too late at night) why is he being so annoyingly persistent? why would he care anyways, i bet had someone else had said no i don't want to play he'd leave them alone. i'm confused, i guess my question is how you think he feels about me. thank you for reading this and i'm really sorry for it being lengthy but any help would be very much appreciated. (link)
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well this guy could either be playing hard to get, trying to make you jealous, or being a total jerk! if you really like this guy tell him how you feel about how he is acting and if he doesn;t like it forget about him. that's all i have to say. sorry i couldn't write more. best of luck.
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Ok so heres the deal. I have a really good and easy job. Im basically a concierge at a resort. I get paid good money for doing almost nothing. There is only me and one other girl that have this job. The problem is that my boss is totally unfair and my coworker gets everything her way. For example, the past 2 weeks she has gotten a extra day off and i got none. I keep my mouth shut all the time but i just got hit with the last straw. We are changing our schedules for the summer time and it was supposed to go into effect on a saturday which would mean my coworker would be workin on friday. shes arguing and doesnt want to work friday. neither do i. but my boss gave her her way and shes now off friday and i have to work for her when its supposed to be my day off. i tried sayin its not fair but everyone expects me to be so easy going that it doesnt matter what i say. i still have to work. and it makes it more difficult because my boss is my girlfriends dad and i live with them. (by the way i am female too). im soo fed up at this point that if it were any other job i would quit but its too good of a job. how can i get them to take me seriously??? i really need some advice. (link)
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well, you could try to talk to him. catch him when he's alone and ask if he can talk. tell him calmly that you think it isn't fair. explain why you wouldn't like to work on friday. or, you could talk to your girlfriend about it. maybe she can put in a word in with her dad. your boss may be doing this because of stress or maybe he doesn't want you dating his daughter so he gets "even" by not being fair to you in your job. talk to your girlfriend and your boss. best of luck.
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So, this guy really likes me, and I really like him a lot. He's amazing, and instead of him calling me "hot", He tells me I'm beautiful, incredible, amazing ect. And I love it, he makes me SO happy.(: But, he always asks "Wanna hang out?(:" and I always say yes becuase I really do, but then at the last minuet, I find myself making up things to get out of it. I still don't know why. My friend asked me the same thing! And I just realized, I have no idea. She thinks it has something to do with my dad leaving when I was like two, and I never got to know him. But I have no idea. Help? (link)
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well, to tell you the truth you may be feeling different about this guy. i know you may really like him but then again you may not. talk to him about this and see if he can help you by letting you ask him if he wants to hang out or something. if you feel comfortable talk to your mom about this and/or a school counselor. best of luck.
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okay well i went out with this boy a few weeks ago. We broke up because he wanted to make out after one day and i said sure tommorrow when we hangout he said okay then he couldnt hang and we broke up the next day to make out with another girl. They madeout like 20 times and i didnt like him until today when i saw him. I have also seen him like a million times before and liked other boys. Now i like like him again and i want to makeout with him or go out with him. But i dont know if he likes me and i dont have the guts to ask him. so please give me tips.
and i dont care if i sound whorish.
and sorry its realy long. (link)
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i know this isn't what you want to hear but, this guy is wasting your time. he doesn't really like you, he just wants to make out with girls all the time. even if you did get the guts to ask him he would probably cheat and makeout with other girls or break your heart. i think it's best that youu move on and forget about this guy. best of luck.
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okay so i hate bringing my boyfriend over my house. my parents dont let us shut the door anymore because i guess they see we are getting more serious..they know he is in a gang so now they think he is a criminal...which he isnt. my dad thinks im going to become a chola (thats a girl gang member in my boyfriends gang) and all i hear is how they think hes a nice guy but hes a bad influence. they treat me like i have no brain and cant make mature decisions every since i got a tattoo. its like the tattoo labels me as "DANGER SHE IS GOING OVER THE HILL" kind of kid. AND IM NOT. i make smart decisions. they think im going to turn into my older brother and get myself locked up. what do i do? i dont want my boyfriend coming over anymore and when i go to my boyfriends house im not aloud over for longer then 4 hours. and yes we are sexually active and im planning on asking my mom for birth control...i want to prove to her im responsible and im looking out for myself. i dont exactly know what im asking...i just want to know peoples opinions on my situation.
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my advice to you is to talk to your parents, they need to know and you need to prove that you are responsible enough to make descisions for yourself and make the right ones. make sure when you talk to them you keep your cool and don't whine if they argue with oyu. act like you want to be treated. best of luck.
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19/f
My boyfriend always thinks I'm cheating on him. In reality, I haven't even spoken to a male in about a year (besides my dad).
He has his reasons because I cheated on around a year ago, but I guess he doesn't understand that I've changed. He is severely paranoid. If I don't answer my phone but call back less than ten minutes afterwards, he assumes I was with a guy. He always asks where I am, who I'm with, and I have to tell him where I'm going all the time (that is, IF I ever go anywhere).
The thing is, it's like he won't let me break up with him. When we first started going out, we would break up all the time and get back together. He thinks it's always going to be this way. It seems like the only way this will end is if one of us dies (that may sound like I'm going to kill him but I assure you that's not what I'm saying!)
The only other way I see this is if I were to cheat on him, because he would never cheat on me. After all these years, I'm surprised he hasn't. But I don't want to cheat on him! I love him so much, but I'm so tired of being in a relationship. Just looking a guy makes me sick. I can't do this anymore.
Well, yesterday he was upset with me as usual, so I just shut my phone off all day. He assumed that I was cheating on him.
I know this isn't the right way to go, but it seems like the only way out. BUT I don't want him to believe a lie, thinking that I cheated on him.
Then again, I don't want to go through all the effort of trying to convince him. I'm just sick and tired of it. In my heart, I want to be with him, but I know he won't change. I can't live like this anymore (no, I'm not suicidal).
Maybe we'll have a chance together in the future, but we probably won't be the same people as we used to be. Plus, I'm a jealous person by nature, and I will go crazy if he is with other people.
So, how do I go about this? Or what would you do if you were me in this situation?
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i think that this guy is wasting your time. if he calls you all the time and always has to know what your doing, where you are, and who you are with he doesn't trust you enough to know that you aren't cheating. i think that since you honestly don't want to be in a relationship right now, break up with him and when he asks why tell him the truth. that he doesn't trust you enough to know you aren't cheating and that you don't want to be in a relationship. if i were you i would break up with him. best of luck.
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I have just found out that my father is cheating on my mother.
This isn't the first time.
My mom came very close to catching him but things were okay after some time and now its happening again.
I was going to use the phone,and when I turned it on,I heard my dad saying the groses thing[if you know what I mean]
I can't believe it!!
My moms been wanting to have another baby for like 5years and now my dads cheating.
I can't stop shaking.
After what happened the last time I know I CANNOT tell my mom.
But what do I do,I can't let this go.
See,when I was a few days old as a baby the women who gave birth to me abandoned my and my dad.When I was 3 my dad married my mom[step mom]and she's been there for me as a mother ever since.
If she found out she'd probrably take my little sister[shes 6yers old]and leave.Then I once again won't have a mother anymore.And I can't let that happen.
So what do I do? (link)
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i know that this is probably the last thing you want to hear but, you should talk to your dad. make sure you tell him everything your feeling and everything that you heard. Tell him that you know that he is cheating and tell him that it isn't okay. you were already without a mom once and you don't want to loose your[step]mom. Get your point across and if you can't talk to your dad then talk to an adult,teacher, or school counselor that you trust. Make sure if your going to tell that someone that they can help you. best of luck.
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where can you buy woollight (link)
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you can buy woolite in places like grocery stores or drug stores like CVS
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yeah well my little sister and brother are just really annoying and when ever im with my friends they are right there listening in and just standing by us and i cant even say anything becuase they tell my mother and father everything so i cant even talk to my friends at home ill be doing something and they are so annoying they are also really really loud they are by the way 11 and 13 but my sisiter will be 12 in may 8th i pretty much hate them im tired of their shit i just wished i was the only child like mu sister is sooo spoiled and i have to clean up her mess and if i say something to her she goes and tells my mother and my mother always sticks up for her so i get in trouble my brother just always bothers me whatever im doing he has to question like if im texting he will be like why do you always text? and it makes me mad and they all gang up on me all the time and i sometimes want to hit them!!!!
wtf do i do to control myself and any advice on my brother and sister? (link)
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try to control your anger by telling a friend (particularly not at your house so your siblings don't listen in) or a counselor. try writing or journaling your feelings. it can really help. remember that even though they sre annoying they still love you and definetly look up to you. also talk to you parents about this in privite with your siblings there and let them know how you feel. best of luck.
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im a 15 year old guy.
i recently came home drunk and my mom called the ambulence (wasn't even really needed). After talking to my mom about my grades and me not going out for awhile (so i already felt like shit), I go check the mail and I got a bill for $730 from the hospital (she thought it would be like $150 max). I havent told my mom about it yet and i dont know how im going to. I dont know how im going to pay that bill, my mom sure as hell doesnt have the money and i dont either. I feel like im really fucking up my life, i just keep getting deeper and deeper in this shit and i want out. I keep getting caught ditching school (which im not going to do anymore). I used to really be a good kid but in the past 6 months all that has changed. Every time i mess up i think it cant get any worse and then it does. I know if i keep going down this path my life will be trash, and i dont want that I want a fresh start but I know I won't get one, so i really dont know what im going to do. (link)
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i can understand that you want a fresh new start but first you need to fix all the bad things you have done in the past. once you do that start a clean slate and don't ditch school or disapoint your mom. to pay off the bills you couldget a job somewhere, work off the money. even though calling the ambulance wasn't nessasary it's still your fault that you got drunk and you mom got worried. talk to your mom about all that your worrying about. best of luck.
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