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Unfair Boss
Ok so heres the deal. I have a really good and easy job. Im basically a concierge at a resort. I get paid good money for doing almost nothing. There is only me and one other girl that have this job. The problem is that my boss is totally unfair and my coworker gets everything her way. For example, the past 2 weeks she has gotten a extra day off and i got none. I keep my mouth shut all the time but i just got hit with the last straw. We are changing our schedules for the summer time and it was supposed to go into effect on a saturday which would mean my coworker would be workin on friday. shes arguing and doesnt want to work friday. neither do i. but my boss gave her her way and shes now off friday and i have to work for her when its supposed to be my day off. i tried sayin its not fair but everyone expects me to be so easy going that it doesnt matter what i say. i still have to work. and it makes it more difficult because my boss is my girlfriends dad and i live with them. (by the way i am female too). im soo fed up at this point that if it were any other job i would quit but its too good of a job. how can i get them to take me seriously??? i really need some advice.
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i know hhow this goes, at my one job my two bosses are buddy buddy and talk down to the rest of us, dont give us credit, and take whenever they want off.
my other job the managers gave other girls more hours, i was a waitress making good money, and i was stubborn and walked out because i couldnt take it anymore. i totally regret it because the money was good. i should have let it go or talked to them calmly.
so my advice from my mistakes is to talk to your boss. let him know ow you are feeling. he might now realize how unfair he is being. you dont seem to complain much. and she does,, so maybe he is just accomodating her requests because you dont speak up. so i would tell your boss you think its unfair, etc. and try to work out a comprimise. dont let your stuborness get the best of you and quit because i did that and regretted it becasuse i made good money.
i wish you luck..hopefully your boss is understanding
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I've been in a similar situation. My boss always gave me the lousy hours and the jobs no one else wanted, even though I was better qualified than the other employess. But in my case, my boss was my mom. And what it boiled down to was: she was so worried that the other employees would accuse her of showing favoritism to her daughter, that she went to the opposite extreme and treated me worse than anyone else. It really stunk!
That may be what's happening with your boss. You have more than just a regular employee/employer relationship with him. Living at his house makes it almost like a family relationship. And he may worry that if he gives you the hours the other girl wants, she'll say he's being "unfair" because of your relationship with him and his daughter.
I know that doesn't change anything, but maybe it will make you feel a *little* better knowing that he's not just out to get you. But anyway... since you really like the job and it's a great situation for you, I think it's probably best not to say anything. However, if there are certain times that you REALLY want off, don't be afraid to ask for it. Just be sure to let your boss, and the other girl, know well in advance that you'll be asking for that time off. If everyone knows ahead of time, it won't appear like you're getting preferential treatment, and he'll probably be more likely to let you have it.
Good luck! =]
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well, you could try to talk to him. catch him when he's alone and ask if he can talk. tell him calmly that you think it isn't fair. explain why you wouldn't like to work on friday. or, you could talk to your girlfriend about it. maybe she can put in a word in with her dad. your boss may be doing this because of stress or maybe he doesn't want you dating his daughter so he gets "even" by not being fair to you in your job. talk to your girlfriend and your boss. best of luck.
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Try talking to him when you know he's alone. Say very seriously (but not rudely being as that could be awkward since you live with them) that you are disappointed in what has been going on. Maybe he didn't give a day off because you never asked for one? Maybe you should ask for a day off. Tell him that you love your job but you feel used when he makes you pick up the slack for the other girl. And you'd like a day off too once in a while.
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Well, in a sense you dug yourself a hole by never speaking up until now. But that doesn't mean that they shouldn't be taking you seriously. Unfortunatly, you'll get people like your boss a lot that just prefer to favour one person for whatever the reason may be. If you really want to make a deal out of this though, just go and pull him aside and talk to him head on. Explain your point, but try not to be too accusational. Just explain how it's not fair that he'd volunteer you to take someone elses shift without ever asking you. Either he'll listen to you and respect what you're saying, or he wont and there's nothing you can do about it. That's unfortunatly the way jobs go.
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