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Q: hey! I hope you are in love like I am in love or at least you have been in love like I am in love right now. :)

I want to make a CD for my boyfriend's road trip and I need help with a list of cute love songs that I can use for this mix CD.

Please list as many songs as you can think of that you like.

I rate everybody.

Thank you!

Hey,

So here are my top 20 love songs that I think you might enjoy.

1.Lucky In Love- Jason Mraz/ Colbie Callait
2.Bubbly- Colby Callait
3.No One- Alicia Keys
4. Crazy Love- Michael Buble
5. Angel of Mine- Monica
6.I'll Be- Edwin Mccain
7. Everywhere- Michelle Branch
8. You get me- Michelle Branch
9.Jai Ho(You are my destiny) - Pussycat Dolls
10. Our song- Taylor Swift
11. Sweat Pea- Amos Lee
12. Unchained Melody- Righteous Brothers
13. We Belong Together- Gavin Degraw
14. Can't Help Falling In Love With You- The Ateens
15. With You- Jessica Simpson
16. I'm Yours- Jason Mraz
17. Still the one- Shania Twain
18. These Words- Natasha Bedingfield
19. Love like this- Natasha Bedingfield
20. You get Me- Michelle Branch

Q: hey brianna ok well let me get straight to the point....ive been out with alot of guys....ALOTTTTTTTTTT of guys,,like 10 in the past 4 monthes...and i bet hats not gonna be the end...so anyways..people r now saying that im sortof a player...and like thats not it at all...im just looking 4 the right guy...and non of them r the right ones..ther all a bunch of bad boyfriends..excpet 4 one..but we broke up.... so i dont rly want them to call me that..and i guess its b/c some of my relationships arent vry long..but thats jsut b/c they arent it...well..do u think people r just jelouse? or not? cuz its gettin rly annoying...like im not a player at all..what should i do? should i lay low..and not date anymoe guys 4 alittle bit?

Hey,

So I believe that it is none of those people's business who you date. If they don't like how many people you date then they can shove it. Don't stop dating for their sake. People can say whatever they want don't let it get to you. It's a waste of time.

Like the person below me said, if you want a long term relationship you need to get know these guys before jumping into a relationship.
If it were me I'd take a long look at the person before I started dating them. First of all I would look at the kind of person they are. Are they the type of guy who is a known player? Avoid him like the plague. Or are they type who loves to party at all cost, with know thought to consequences. Somebody smart coined the term. "You get what you pay for." In this situation you need to make sure you don't forget it.

If you want the qualities of prince don't try to find them in a toad. A toad is a toad and they can't be anything other than themselves. I garauntee you that if take a minute and really listen to the way the person acts around their friends you'll have a window into the person they really are. One guy asked me out but, I knew the way he acted with his friends. (He was completely irresponsible and immature.) I politely declined. He spent the rest of his year hitting on girls and trying to have sex with them. Which made me happy I avoided him like the plague.

Basically, use your instincts if you don't want to keep dating toads. Wait for a little bit before jumping into a relationship with someone you don't know. I promise you you'll know a prince when you see one.

Q: I don't have many friends because I'm reserved and not really social. I am way outgoing when people get to know me though. But because I am not outgoing around strangers, it's rare for people to notice and talk to me. I was wondering how you met some of your best friends? Any other suggestions on how I can make new friends besides joining clubs?

Hey,

I met my best friend when I moved to a knew state when I was ten. We were both staying with our families in a hotel. Basically she asked me if I wanted to play and me being shy said I wasn't sure if my mom would let me.

Well she asked my mom for permission and sort of cajoled me into playing with her. We had a great time and even though we both moved two different towns about thrity minutes away we still mantained our friendship. Even today though we live hundreds of miles away, she's still my best friend and we speak often.

Now obviously chances are you won't be moving any time soon so I can only say what has been said before. I know it's completely cliche but the only way to meet a friend, someone that you can really talk to is to join a club/sport. That's were a lot of people spend their time after school. Which really gives you a chance to get to know that person. Because not only will you be able to talk them during class/at lunch you will also be able to bond with them over something else.

I also think that you just really have to put yourself out there. I know it's extremely hard to be outgoing but you just have to take that leap if you want people to notice you. I've had that problem. Sometimes when strangers talk to me I sort of get a thick tongue and don't know what to say. I find that when I relax and stop worrying about how I'll come off, or if I'll say something dumb I fair way better and don't have trouble opening up.

Also, maybe try getting a part time job. Get a job in a place were a lot of teens work (if you're a teen). Like a movie theater or Mcdonalds. I knew someone in my senior year of highschool who worked at the movie theater and was friends with some of the people there. They went to school together so they were able to become best friends.

Q: In the beginning of 7th grade, i met this boy. I remembered him out of all the students in my classes combined becasue when we first met, he said, "I dont remeber your name, you're the only girl who i don't remeber."
ofcourse, it made me feel speical.
so i liked him for 2 long years and i still do now, since i lived away from the same high school as the one he goes to i had to go to another high school. he was a westmen i was an eastmen.(

Hey,

So here's the thing. When a guy says "give me time" its almost certain that said guy is leading you on. That's just what guys say when they want to play mind games. Seriously after two years this guy is trying, and succeeding to get over on you. Move on. I guarantee you that if he truly like he you he wouldn't need "time". Because when men really want something or someone they'll make time. Don't waste another moment of your time with him.

Q: All my friends are so much prettier and skinnier than me, and it lowers my self esteem. They are always the ones that get all the guys attention, and I hardly get any. I know it shouldnt matter at all, but it still bothers me. My friends dont treat me badly or anything, but im always worried that they are secretly thinking lower of me. Any suggestions on how to quit becoming so jealous and to stop thinking Im not good enough for my friends?

Hi,

I think that the only way that you can stop being so jealous of them is to realize that you are your own person and while you may not have the same looks as them, you are an individual who still has a lot to offer and are pretty in your own way. Could it be that you don't get any attention because you yourself don't believe that you aren't pretty/ beautiful enough. I don't think your friends would be friends with you if they didn't think you weren't good enough. You just need to have more confidence in your own beauty and stop comparing your looks to other people's. ( I've done this myself so I know.) If you always compare yourself to other people you'll never be happy. Just be confident that in your own way you are beautiful and you are worthy of your friends and a guys attention and I promise you guys will be lining up to be with you.
You have a lot to offer. Looks and otherwise. There is no need to be jealous or insecure.

Q: 20/F

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We have two very close friends who have been dating for a while. We go to parties at their house fairly often. When I get drunk, I'm very open, and I have showed my boobs a few times (I know it's bad). The thing is, I do these things because I was raped, and in a weird way it makes me feel like I have control again. It's hard to understand unless you've been through the same thing.

Anyway, my boyfriend was cool with that, but lately my male friend has been asking to see them A LOT. Him and his girlfriend are in a very open relationship, so she doesn't care. Lately, though, he'll walk up without asking in the middle of a room full of people at the party and pull my shirt and bra down. He always pulls me on his lap and says that if I wasn't with my boyfriend, him and his girl would have been all over me and that if me and my boyfriend break up I better come to them first. I know this is all my fault because I laugh when I'm nervous and I have a problem saying no, but it's starting to bother both me and my boyfriend. The last time we were at a party, I was so drunk I could barely walk and I was walking to the couch and he grabbed me, pushed my head down, and acted like he was having sex with me. I would try to talk to him about this, but he's a big guy, very short tempered, and has a house full of guns and weapons. The last time a girl told him she wasn't okay with the way he acts, he got really upset, so I'm really afraid to say anything. The thing is, he knows I was raped, so I don't understand why he acts like this sometimes.

I know it's my fault, you don't have to tell me that, but is there any way I can ask him to stop without him getting mad? He takes everything to heart, and if I said I'm uncomfortable with it, it would be pretty bad.

Hello.

Listen to me. "Don't Ever EVER blame yourself."
I don't care if you showed breasts once. That does NOT give you him the right to touch you. Ever.
I don't know what you went through when you were raped, But I think the only way to get control is to STOP going over there. I know you want to stay in control but getting drunk is like the exact opposite. The ONLY way to stay in control is don't go over there. This guy sounds dangerous and explosive. A very bad combination. He knows your history and still doesn't mind taking advantage of you. He's trouble. No there is no way you can ask a volatile creep to stop sexually assaulting you. For your own safety stay far far away from him.
Also I think maybe you should see a counselor about your issues. Research counselors in your area. Some of them may be free.You can also join a support group in your area. Or you can call a hotline where you can discuss it with someone. It sounds to me like you have a lot of residual issues over what happened. Sometimes talking to someone about your issues with control can help.

Here are some links.
http://rapecrisis.com/services-counseling.php
http://www.rainn.org/

Here you can talk to people and there is a search bar to find counseling centers in you area.

I just read the additional info you wrote about him being okay hitting a girl. I reiterate, he's a MONSTER! DON'T LET HIM NEAR YOU.

Q: My boyfriend and i broke up less than 3 weeks ago.He was my first bf,and i was his first REAL gf.We were great,had so much fun all the time and he randomly broke up with me because he was "getting sick of me","wanted to be free in highschool",etc.etc.but said he wanted to stay friends.We've basically been talking again,hanging out (less than we used to) and trying to be "friends". When we hungout yesterday, we were a little drunk and he came out to me and said he likes me still and thinks about me all the time and swore that im the most amazing girl ever,but he wants to experiment with other girls and crap..which ofcourse made me mad.He kissed me and all that and held my hand ,made sure i didnt get wet out in the rain,etc.etc. but ofcourse he was kind of "drunk". We made plans to hangout today too,and ofcourse he was sober this time.We got up early and me and him just went on a cute little adventure and went to all these places.He wanted to show me his old town so we visited there and he took me to this beach he used to go to and we chilled and ate and all that.And we had to sneak into one part of the beach and he held my hand and said "lets pretend like we're a couple so we don't get caught" blah blah but after a few seconds he stopped.Then we went back to my house and watched a movie,but didn't cuddle or kiss or anything..but still had a good time.I am trying to not talk about our relationship when im with him and just be happy and have fun and just see how things go.I didn't think he'd hangout with me all day today alone if he didn't like me...and same with yesterday and i felt as though the alcohol brought out his "true " feelings (as sad as that sounds).I just like him so much and I don't know how often i should hangout with him,or what i should and shouldn't say when im with him..or what!? help!

Hiya,

You need to listen to my words: FORGET ABOUT HIM. This guy broke up with you because got sick of you. and wanted to be free. If a guy told me that he was sick of me, I would drop him like a hotcake. Why are you even spending time with this guy? Being friends with him is one thing. Going on "cute little adventures"is another. Sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds. He doesn't like you enough to actually get serious with you, because he wants to be free. And yet he's willing to kiss you and I'd bet money that if you bring that up later he'll blame that on the alcohol. Don't waste your time.
If alcohol is the only thing that will bring out his true feelings that's a BIG problem. I think it's okay to be friends with him but don't start dedicating all of your time to him. Because he's going to start getting the impression that you are only we he wants you and will take advantage of that. (which to me is what he sounds like he's doing already.) Make yourself busy. And don't tell him you like him unless he's willing to date you. I think he said best what he's really thinking "Let's pretend like we're a couple"
He wants to have all the perks but still play the field. You can seriously do better.

Q: I have a best (guy) friend i have known since elementary school. We live in Tampa fl. We are both 13 and in 7th grade. He asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. But I didn't like him like that. But now it's near the end of 7th grade and I'm like in love with him. He knows I like him. But since we are best friends we hang out alot. I've even been inside his house. But if we go out and break up we won't be friends anymore. Because he dated a girl that he had known for a while and then they broke up over something he won't tell me about. Now they are enemies and I don't want it to turn ot that way with us. So wat should I do. I have tried so many advice columns but none replied. Pleeeeeeease help.

Hey,

Listen, I think that if you like this guy and you are truly friends you should give this thing a chance with him. Now I know it's a great risk to date someone who is your best friend and I know that you don't want to end up enemies like the other girl you mentioned, but if you really want to be with this guy you got to leap. Being afraid that you won't be friends anymore is just going to cause a world of regrets later on. Trust me, I know. There were many guys who I wish now, I had just told I liked. I think you and your friend should have some sort of agreement before you get into your relationship though that even if you relationship goes south you will stay friends.

Q: Hey 16/f

So I went to this party on saturday night. It was my ex boyfriend's birthday and the party was at his house. My crush was also at this party. After a few hours everyone was pretty drunk except me and my crush. Everyone kept telling us to hook up and someone even gave us a condom. We thought they were being idiots so we just stayed in the bedroom and talked for a while. Anyways, my friend and I ended up staying over and my crush went home. So at like 3 everyone was deciding where they were going to sleep. I ended up next to my ex on his bed. We shared a pillow and were lying pretty close. He put his hands on my legs and side and we just talked. I fell asleep and whenever I woke up his hands were still there. I wasn't stopping him and I kinda liked it but I don't like him. So now I feel like I've betrayed my crush by "sleeping" with my ex and being so close with him when I wasn't close with him at all. Why do I feel this way? and how do I make it stop?
Thanks

Hi,

I think you feel this way because you like this guy a lot. I don't think you sleeping with your ex boyfriend was doing anything wrong. And you didn't betray your crush because you're not even dating. Don't worry about it.

Q: if a guy asks if you masturbate, will he think its like "hot" if you say you do. i do, but like i dont want to say so if its like a turn off lol. idk. this is a weird question but its anonymous. do i answer yes or no ?

Bonjour!,

Don't answer at all. Is this someone you have been seriously dating? If not than it's odd that he's even asking. If this is someone you haven't known for very long and/or don't know very well then you don't need to tell him a thing. This guy sounds like a perv! Trust me, I've had boys ask me what color underwear I was wearing during class! sounds like this guy is cut from the same mold of the guy I knew. (He was an UBER perv) Don't tell him anything. Who cares if HE thinks its hot. any guy just randomly asking this question is up to no good.

Q: okay, heres the story. i was going out with this guy for well over a year, he didnt put any effort into seeing me though and he hardly talked. he would be rude to me and treat me like shit. when we were together we'd have the best time though. a few days ago i told him i just wanted to stay friends with him. we both cried a little but he didnt say anything. nothing at all. when i asked what he thought he'd just say 'nothing really' or 'just wondering why you're crying'. the other day i spoke to his friend, he said 'i heard you and sam broke up' when i asked how sam was doing his friend replied with 'yeah he seems good, he says its better you are friends'. i want to know why sam cant tell me that though. he just says he doesnt really know. if he likes it better just as friends why wont he tell me! its driving me insane not knowing what he wants or thinks :( i talked to him again today, he was a bit rude to me. its like he suddenly doesnt give a fuck about me, i know i dumped him but if he's got a problem with just being friends why cant he say? i just need some ideas of what people think is going on.

Hi,

I hate to say this but I think that the better question is? Why are you concerned with a guy who you admit treats you horribly. Why do you care now, if he still doesn't care about you now that you're friends. This guy needs to be eradicated from your thoughts. Move on, don't give him the satisfaction of wasting your time wondering about it. Any guy who's playing mind games isn't worth trying to figure out.

Q: Hey, ok let me begin.I just graduated school.I'am seventeen years old.And i personally think i'am more stressed then i need to be.For starter's I had to hold off going to college because i just dont have the money for it.I got some money from finacial aid but it just isnt enough.I would rather work to get the money that i need to help pay for my education.Even though i'am seventeen, sometimes i feel like im 30.Also,my friends,my sisters,and just about every body else i know have jobs and they are living there lives to the fullest but i just cant find a job for nothing.All my friends are going to college this fall and i feel like it should be me.And it also feels like everybody now have boyfriends but im alone like always.I feel some what left out and i feel like every body is getting blessed in someway but me.I have a twin sister who i'am very close to and just recently the family just found out that she is expecting.I think i cried that whole day.My sister was all i really had who havent left me behind but now i feel like things will never be the same between us now with the new baby coming.She,who also has a job,is either with her bum of a boyfriend or sleep from body aches.My older sister,who also has a job,is in college and has a boyfriend.My mother is sometimes down and out do to bills and all and i cant help but to feel like its my job to help her out.even though my dad lives with us and there is 2 incomes,she still acts as though she's not happy.But to the point,i just wanna be happy.I wanna work and go to college and have friends thats gonna be there for me.I also want a nice boyfriend that's honest and great to be around.Am i asking for too much? i havent got to my dreams and goals but thats another story. But what should i do becuase i dont wanna leave this earth without being happy. Thanks for listening,~ladypink~

Hello,

I was in a similar position to yours. When I graduated high school I was 17 and forced to take a year off until I was eligible for in state tuition. I felt just like you, as if everyone around me was moving ahead and I was being left in the dust. But through all of that I realized two things. For one thing, the catastrophe I was making the situation out to be was really minor when I reassessed the situation, and second that the most depressing time in my life always seemed to come after I had compared my life to other people's. So you haven't started school yet? It's a bummer I know but think of this time as a way to get to know yourself. Throughout all of my free time I found a major I really want to stick with and now I am way more focused on school that I ever would have thought I would be if i'd started earlier. Don't look at your friend's situations and think "that should be me" because if it was supposed to be you, you'd be their. Everything happens for a reason, I found that out soon enough. Taking the year off I found a school and classes that I could take at an advanced rate and now, I'm going to graduate ahead of my class when before I was behind.

There are a lot of options to afford school there are work study programs, that offer jobs on campus that let you pay of your studies and student loans. I don't think you are asking for too much at all. In fact what you want is similar to what a lot of people want. I know that you worry about your mother but I don't think you should let it affect you too much, like you said she has two incomes. And even though your sister is having a baby this can be a time where you form an even closer relationship with her. With your time off, maybe you can help her prepare for the arrival, you said yourself she is always sleep from body aches. I remember when I took time off I had a chance to form a close bond with my mother, and for that alone I'll never regret my time off.

Q: So, I'm about to sound completely messed up. So i need some help on this hah. Alright, so there's this guy Josh. He treats me like crap sometimes, he doesn't even care, but I've NEVER EVER liked someone SO MUCH as him. I'm like...addicted to this guy. I can't even explain. but all he really cares about is sex, and we aren't even dating. I bet he talks to other girls and blah but i like him a lot..and theres this other guy alex who is nice but one of those feminine guys? Who are really sentitive..but I have a feeling hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. And I don't want to get into that but he'd treat me better. AND THEN there was this guy DRAKE that I was talking to earlier this summer, we hung out and got really close, but now he doens't even talk to me or respond to my textes? And there's no way he could have found out about Josh. I really don't know. Should I stick in the single life and keep juggling this around? Or...? This is so fucked up ahhahaha its killllin me.

Hiya,

Honestly this first guy sounds like a complete mess. I know exactly what you mean about being addicted. I've had that problem too, not being able to walk away from a guy that was a walking disaster. I suggest putting space in between you both. I wouldn't want to be anywhere near an oversexed jerk like him he's trouble. This second guy doesn't sound bad but from the way you describe him you can go without him. Don't lead this guy on. You know you don't like him very much, don't waste your time. This third guy sounds like a real pill, any guy who can't even respond to a text is not worth it. All of these guys are passable. Keep playing the field, the right guy will happen along sooner or later.

Q: 15/f

okay, so im 15 years old and going into my sophomore year of high school. i have never had a boyfriend nor have i ever been kissed. (i know lame) the reason is i dont understand why. i am not bragging when i say this, but people have told me that i am a very attractive girl even model pretty. i am not heavy either. i guess you could say i am shy. i am not slutty like most girls and i have goals. i really dont understand why i cant get a boyfriend or even a boy to kiss me. i guess im picky i dont know? but every boy i seem to like never likes me back

Hi,

I don't think this is such a big deal. If you think about the type of guys who inhabit schools you should be grateful you haven't been asked out. A lot of them waste their time on the slutty girls. I'm sure that the right guy will come along soon don't rush it and don't feel emberrased that you didn't settle.

Q: so my parents got divorced when i was 7, im 17 now
even before my parents got divorced. i use to spend alot of time at my moms friends house, they were so close i use to think she was my aunt. anyways he husband became like my dad, at least when i was 7 thats how i thought of him since my dad was never around and i continued to go over there all the time untill i was about 9 or 10 or so, they moved several hours away and we just... lost in touch i was like really devastated because of it they ended up having a kid of there own and thats when they moved, well i got over it and ive done a lot of stuff im not proud of like i drink alot and i smoke pot.. its just how i deal with things. Well recently my "aunt" (moms old friend) got a facebook and found me well my moms real sister had a party today and i went and my moms old friend my "aunt" went with her husband and there daughter..the whole time her husband who i once thought of as my dad hung out with me and i introduced him to my boyfriend and he just said how much he missed me and loved me and if i ever needed a place to go to or stay to call him whenever i needed him and he gave me his number, i t was nice seeing him but i dont know why im so jelous of his daughter like.. i dont know how to explain it, i was also really like mad twords her husband i just felt like he wants to pick up were we left off but im 17 now and he left for quite a few years without saying anything and he wants me back in his life but i dont know how to tell him that i was so upset.. i dont know what to do like i want to be in there life but.. it just feels like i was abandoned dont get me wrong i love my mom with all my heart but she does her own thing with her knew husband and everytime i was with my "aunt" and her husband it was like i was the center of attention and we went places and did stuff as a family i started crying after the party because it was so overwhelming, should i give him chance? he actually wants me to come live with them, he doesnt want me to waste away my life drinking and stuff but.. i dont know what to do i guess im asking if i should let them back in my life? im just scared there going to leave and not talk to me for years and years like they did before or since im almost an adult just grow up and stop complaining about it?? what do i do?

Hello,

I think you should have a discussion with them before you decide whether you want to move in with them or not. Tell them your fears and why you're hesitating. It sounds like the really care about you and I'm sure they didn't intend to hurt you. Tell them that you felt abandoned and that you don't want to feel that way again.

Q: What does bulimia do to your body?
What will it do if I only throw up everyonce in a while?

Hi,

Bulimia may seem harmless at first but it can really mess you up.For starters it hurts your internal organs. It also hurts your esophagus and makes your cheeks puffy because of the acid in you stomach. It causes your teeth to decay, it callouses the finger you stick down your throat. Also it can delay your reaction time to throwing up.

For a better description

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/bulimia_signs_symptoms_causes_treatment.htm

Q: My husband is threatening to leave and my 9-year-old daughter is distraught because I am embarrassed about our home and our cars. We live in an affluent suburb, but we're not one of the rich families. My daughter wants to invite friends from school over, but I'm mortified about their parents seeing our home or cars.

I know these things shouldn't matter. I love my husband, but he says I'm ruining our daughter's self-esteem and disrespecting him by being embarrassed by a life he works hard to provide. What's wrong with me, and how can I get past this? I don't want to lose my family.

Hi,

Here's what you do. You be yourself. And don't let other people make you feel down on yourself. So you aren't the richest person. So what? You're really going to let other people's opinion of your things make you lose your husband. I'm sorry but you have to prioritize. What is the worst thing that will happen if they see that you aren't rich? The sky will not fall and you will not be harmed. They might make comments to their friends but who cares what other people think anyway. I have to agree with your husband, You are on the quick road to running your daughters self esteem into the ground. Are you really going to sacrifice your daughters pride to make strangers feel better about themselves? In my senior year of high school I moved to a neighborhood where I was poor and they were all rich. I never let on because I was so ashamed. Now I look back and wonder why I even cared. What was the worst they could say to me? That I was poor? I already knew that." I should've had more pride. Instead of walking around hanging my head and so should you. You can clean your house and your cars, tidy up, but take pride in what you have. Money isn't everything and if they are too shallow to realize that then forget them.

Q: Ok... I basically just led some guy on... I met him on myspace and he added me because he was just adding random people and I live in the same town as him. Well I always talk to everyone who adds me... I don't like adding people as friends until I at least have one conversation with them. So we started talking and all and he was nice and then we were texting. Today is saturday and we've only been texting since about tuesday. Apparently I'm his girlfriend now :/ I'm sooo confused because I told him I didn't want him to call me his girlfriend yet because I had only agreed to go on ONE date just to MEET him. I told him I'd just gotten out of a bad relationship and everything and he said he understood and would wait and stuff. Then he started being really sweet and he put up on his myspace how I make him happy and stuff :/ I didn't want to seem mean so I did the same. Yeah I know, I'm stupid to have done that... So now, after the "date" which was TERRIBLE because I'm really shy and so was he, he thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend??? :/ I mean... I didn't tell him the date was terrible... I actually told him it was amazing -_- he asked me to my face how it went for me and I panicked... so yeah I've basically led this poor guy on and I DON'T WANT TO DATE HIM. I'm pretty much avoiding him right now. He doesn't go to my school so the only way I'd ever see him is if him and I planned a date or something... but I just really don't like being supposedly taken :/ I hate getting boyfriends because I seriously suck at committing... please help me :( I know I should have just told him the truth and not encouraging him by returning his sweetness... but I just really don't want to date anyone right now :/ plus he's like 17 which is about 3 years older then me because I JUST turned 15 about a week ago. I feel really bad :( help please?

Hi,

Okay so everything got out of hand. There is nothing you can do about that now. The only thing that you can do is to let him down now before he gets anymore emotionally attached. It might hurt him but think how better off you both will be afterward. Just tell him kindly, " I like you alot you're a great guy, I think you're a great friend and I just want to keep it that way" Hopefully this will leave him will minimal scars.

Q: So my boyfriend of six months and I got into a bit of an arguement yesterday. Basically, things have been weird for a month (don't talk as much, he doesn't seem as interested), and I've been really blah for the past few days. I flat out asked him if he was still as interested, and he said "Idk. Not really." (This was all over text because we couldn't hang out or anything).

After having to baby the information out of him, he basically said he's felt that way for a month, because I always seem pessimistic, and he's just not as interested. Plus I get annoyed whenever he mentions games. (Hah, which I can admit, I did, because he played them so much we didn't even talk much). I kept asking him what it meant for us now, and what I can do to fix it, and all he did was say stuff like "idk". So obviously, I was very upset. I kept telling him about how I didn't wnat to lose him and stuff, and then this morning, I didn't even talk to him. (In my defense, I had to study for mid-terms, but I also didn't relaly want to talk and make him more angry).

So, today after I finished my second midterm and was getting ready to go to my bus, he was standing outside of my class with my other friend. So they were joking around about stuff as we were all walking, so I started joking too, and then once we got outside, he grabbed my hand. Once we got to the bus, he kissed me, said he loved me, and said "Sorry for last night".

Obviously, I'm hesitant, but I'm happy. I know, it's stupid, and I should try to fix the problem, but at this point I just want to pretend everything's okay. So, yesterday he kind of made a good point in saying that we text too much, so when we're together it's not as special. First, would ya'll agree with this? Also, what are some things I can do in person (Primairily at school) to help us both have some fun?

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Hiya,

I agree with the fact that technology,(texting, emails, im) can cause a serious relationship problem. Texting is an easy way to keep in touch. But it's not as personal. I think you guys should lighten up on it so like he said you'll both be more inclined to spend time together.

I don't know about school primarily because your teachers are around but after you could go on a picnic, find a band or movie that's playing in the local park. Find a carnaval, or just spend time around him watching movies or(I no you said you don't like this ) but watching him play video games or him doing something that you like. You could also take a class together, like pottery. Bake recipes, or have a football game with a group of friends at your school after hours. You could make it a couples games or guys against girls.

Even if you don't like watching him play games, and he doesn't like something that want to do. Do it anyways. It's not necessarily about always doing things you want but trying to gain a togetherness that technology can sometimes cut into.

Q: Me and this guy really liked each other and we had a great time going out and he stated many times that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. He is nt that rich whereas I am a princess. Well on his birthday I finally tell him that I like him and I want him t be my man, but then he says "No". Coz he thinks I'm really rich and he's a nobody.And that he and I can never be together. He says its ok if we're "Just Friends" I tried to reason with him and convince him that its ok but he's just stuck on it and he just doesn't want me. He seems to be normal about it but I'm still in the hope that he will say yes. How can I tell him that its okay? And if you think its not going to work how do i move on?

Hi,

All I think that you can do is try to convince him that money doesn't matter. You should also tell him that money isn't a good reason not to be with something. Let him know that you're dissapointed with the way he's being so shallow. And that money isn't everything. Also try and get to the reason that it bothers him so much. Also ask him why being friends with a rich person is so much different than being the boyfriend of someone who is rich. Also ask him why, he first wanted to go out with you but doesn't now.

If this doesn't help just step back. And let it go. I know it's going to be hard but just try putting other things on your mind.

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