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I don't have many friends because I'm reserved and not really social. I am way outgoing when people get to know me though. But because I am not outgoing around strangers, it's rare for people to notice and talk to me. I was wondering how you met some of your best friends? Any other suggestions on how I can make new friends besides joining clubs?
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Hey,
I met my best friend when I moved to a knew state when I was ten. We were both staying with our families in a hotel. Basically she asked me if I wanted to play and me being shy said I wasn't sure if my mom would let me.
Well she asked my mom for permission and sort of cajoled me into playing with her. We had a great time and even though we both moved two different towns about thrity minutes away we still mantained our friendship. Even today though we live hundreds of miles away, she's still my best friend and we speak often.
Now obviously chances are you won't be moving any time soon so I can only say what has been said before. I know it's completely cliche but the only way to meet a friend, someone that you can really talk to is to join a club/sport. That's were a lot of people spend their time after school. Which really gives you a chance to get to know that person. Because not only will you be able to talk them during class/at lunch you will also be able to bond with them over something else.
I also think that you just really have to put yourself out there. I know it's extremely hard to be outgoing but you just have to take that leap if you want people to notice you. I've had that problem. Sometimes when strangers talk to me I sort of get a thick tongue and don't know what to say. I find that when I relax and stop worrying about how I'll come off, or if I'll say something dumb I fair way better and don't have trouble opening up.
Also, maybe try getting a part time job. Get a job in a place were a lot of teens work (if you're a teen). Like a movie theater or Mcdonalds. I knew someone in my senior year of highschool who worked at the movie theater and was friends with some of the people there. They went to school together so they were able to become best friends.
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just go out more, to an arcade or the movies, even the mall... if your shy then take a confident friend with you and just smile and go up to people and say something as simple as "hey". The fact that you've made the effort will help to break the ice.
Also, when you're around your friends, and perhaps in a conversation with people you don't really know... just try and add to their conversation by sayign comments, laughing along and most importantly smiling... give people the impression that you're open and up for talking :-)
and finally... try and become more confident in yourself, don't worry about what you're going to say, just try to relax.
hope it helps
feel free to get in touch if you need any more advice :-)
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this is one really embarrassing but it happend .well one of my best friends is a boy and we meat by ....
one day i went out for recess and i was playing on the swing with a few of my friends and jacob [my best friend now ] walked infront of me and i kicked him in the face because i wasnt payind attention and ended up kicking out one of his teeth !i walked him to the nurse and said i was sooo sorry and thats how we meat .he said thankz a few days later because he got ten dollars for his tooth and invited me to go to the pub down the street after school there we got to now each other and there we just keep hanging out .
meating jacob happend in the 5th grade .
one other of my friend amy we meat in kindergraden because when i didnt know her she copeyd what i drew what i said where i walked.
i told her to quit it and she did and after words i would always go to her making sure she still wasnt copying me .and after that strange way of meating we have been friends ever sence and she stopped coping me and its been like 6 years sence so thats a good thing .
one other of my friends [this one is very strange !![i worned you ]haha.
ok kayliegh went to a day care and went on my bus one day in the morning kayliegh asked me if my brother was scott [my last name]i said yeah and she told me hes hot i asked how she knew my brother and she said that he would drive by to go to his friends house up the street .i thought it was a lil creepy when she startded like his friends that went up there as well but hey kidz will be kidz.
hopefully my storys helped you and i sorry it was so long .and you can talk to me if your lonely .hopefully you also get friends but you gatta know that all the ways i meat my friends was acsadente i didnt mean to kick some one or what ever haha just try to talk more and people will notice you joun a club or something thats a good way to get active and meat people
god bless you !
katie
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well i kind of have the same problem. but im kind of growing out of it. you could always just start out by saying hi, and giving compliments. stuff like that. just simple things can lead to friendships. just try to feel confident. it always helps to be less shy. it really works for me. try to be other people, and do something you normally wouldnt. dont be afraid to be more outgoing. just push yourself to say hi to people. and maybe talk to them about sumthing they like. stuff like that. and then soon enough you will be more comfertable. maybe your like me, and maybe you'll grow out of it too. sometimes its just a stage. just try to get yourself into situations where you need to be more outgoing.
♥ nicole
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aw, its gonna be ok. alright, how to lighten up to people...let me tell ya. before you go up to someone and talk to them take a deep breath and think to yourself "if they dont like me then its there loss". just be yourself sista....it should be enough
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what do u have to loose? i would just try and talk to them or atskool is were i met one of my best friends cami we were sitin next to eachother and we would talk sometimes and then we became friends i guess...just try and talk to people in the same class as u find a common intrest and go from there...hope i helped
xoxox
tina
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i use to have the same problem::
i know it doesnt seem like it would help just be a happy person and people are drawn to you. try to comment in conversations people will notice you go places with a friend and her/his freinds dont worry im sure it'll b better!
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