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She gets all of the attention.
All my friends are so much prettier and skinnier than me, and it lowers my self esteem. They are always the ones that get all the guys attention, and I hardly get any. I know it shouldnt matter at all, but it still bothers me. My friends dont treat me badly or anything, but im always worried that they are secretly thinking lower of me. Any suggestions on how to quit becoming so jealous and to stop thinking Im not good enough for my friends?
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Girl! I can totally relate!
A lot of my friends just got lucky with them genes, I guess.
Keep in mind, they're humans... worse than that... they're teenage girls. Just know that they are probably thinking the same thing that you are. They are just as worried about the way they look and the way they dress as you are. There will always be some one prettier, smarter, funnier, and skinnier than you... no matter how good (or bad, for that matter) you think you are.
Just remember that ol' cliche, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." And "It's what's inside that counts." You ARE beautiful.
Be good to yourself and treat yourself to a mani/pedi or get a fab new haircut or splurge a little bit on a cute top. You'll feel better in no time! :)
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Hi,
I think that the only way that you can stop being so jealous of them is to realize that you are your own person and while you may not have the same looks as them, you are an individual who still has a lot to offer and are pretty in your own way. Could it be that you don't get any attention because you yourself don't believe that you aren't pretty/ beautiful enough. I don't think your friends would be friends with you if they didn't think you weren't good enough. You just need to have more confidence in your own beauty and stop comparing your looks to other people's. ( I've done this myself so I know.) If you always compare yourself to other people you'll never be happy. Just be confident that in your own way you are beautiful and you are worthy of your friends and a guys attention and I promise you guys will be lining up to be with you.
You have a lot to offer. Looks and otherwise. There is no need to be jealous or insecure.
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I know what you mean. However, keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Guys have a variety of tastes in ladies and I'm sure that you'll find one (if not more!) who prefer your looks over that of your friends. You may even have some secret admirers ;)
I'm sorry if this did not fully answer your question, but it's all I could think of to say.
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that's the same thing that happens here..you really just need to act your self and think you are pretty and trust me..you will get a boys attention when the time is ready...it just doesnt poof. Maybe your friends dont like having the looks all the time because it gets annoying to them when a boy always does stuff with them...
hope that made sense
adn hope i helped
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-Amber Nicole-
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lose those friends, if that`s how they treat you, then what good friends are they? I mean, no one deserves friends that make you feel lower than them. Personally, i`d just ditch `em, even if we were friends forever, or if we were always together, i`d just forget about them.
hope this helps!
xo0x- Kata
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I have alot of skinny friends and i just learned how to ignore their looks and how many guys fall for them by just repeatin these freaky words...i no it sounds crazy but 'im perfect becuase god made me' and whenever you feel like your jealous of them repeat those words...
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well this situation is sort of like mine when i was in the 7th grade, its disturbing and it took me a whole year to just not care anymore be mysefl and carryon in life and hangout with the guys more often dont act shy ***goodluck***
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well do you feel nasty looking cause if so try to help that and if you don't then just think of all the things that are good in you n look they might be pretty but guys just want a peice of ass n with you they want to be your friend so you win in the long run if a guy likes you he just wants some its proven fact dont waste your time until highschool it fuking sucks. youre prolly beautful your just hiding and they arent worth it if they dont see you that way dear. find someone who does and youll love them for it.
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Hey I know how you feel. Everyone would always say my best friend was pretty and not me. and my self esteem kind of dropped too. But you just gotta try to not let it get to you. Just know that your pretty too. And just because they are pretty that doesn't take away your beauty. There isn't much else to say. I still feel this way sometimes. Its completely normal to feel this way. But learn not to care, and im sure some guys would give you attention too.
♥ nicole
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You know that I used to think the smae way, and it is hard to get over. just get some new friends that you can get to know, maybe even boy-friends! Just find somebody that you think needs a friend and go talk to them. Act natural, everybody likes a person that likes herself, if you don't like yourself, no one else will. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. or you can just E-mail me, and don't be afraid to talk to me. I'll always be there, you can betcha that.
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.. well i think you should find someone thaty yopu know you will stay together with forever & will always have time for .. so when ur friends and with those other boys at least you kan look at em and be like " still flirtin huh ?"and you will be the one with thre great relasinship .. dont look as ur self as fat and ugly .. look at urself as different .. no one is ugly and no one is fat thats just name you are who you are .. you should love urself .even if your different ..
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Ok first off what one person considers pretty another may not. I think I can stand to lose a few pounds but my husband says he loves a woman with some curves. Who can figure out men? lol
Make a list of what's good about you-you're a good friend, you're always laughing, you're dependable, you give great advice, etc. If someone compliments you on something (your great sense of style for example) add it to your list. When you start getting jealous, pull out your list and remind yourself how good YOU are.
Do something that makes you feel beautiful. Try a new hairstyle or makeup, get a massage, get your nails done, buy an outfit that makes makes you look great, etc.
Last but not least, your friends love you for who you are and would never look down at you.
Hope this helps.
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well my friends are really pretty also..and im not pretty at all..some have beauty, others dont...i just dont have it at ALL
well just try remembering these girls are your friends and they think your a great person..if they thought lower of you, they wouldnt want to hang out with you!
when your with friends focus more on having a great time and laughing..dont even pay attention to what they are wearing or how you want their hair, etc...just concentrate on being with your friends and having an awesome time
maybe send all your friends emails with those surveys asking "are we friends...whats your best memory of us hanging out.." etc..you can type this survey thing up yourself asking those questions and send it to your friends..when you see their responses you will smile and it will make you feel a lot better
i hope i helped out
-melissa-
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