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How to Deal
Alright, I'm in love. Starstruck. Head over heels. And not just the lust, or the initial fireworks, and infatuation. This is the real deal, and I know it because I no longer think forst of my own needs. I think first of his, and what he's thinking or feeling, and his perspective on life. There's always been something about him, even before he knew how I felt, that's made me feel secure, and I knew that even if he could never love me back, I wanted to be good friends with him throughout college and the rest of my life. (I'm going into my senior year of high school.) Now, we might be going to colleges far from eachother, and I know that it's a lot of work trying to keep a long-distance relationship working. It's certainly something I'm willing to do, but it's so incredibly hard even when I don't see him for a week, how will I handle maybe a month, even two at a time? I'm very afraid of losing the incredible closeness and trust that we have right now, even though it doesn't seem to be something that should be a concern. Having him by my side in life, and with whatever I do, because we have very similar interests, is something so special to me, and especially in college, having him there to help with classes and to study together and laugh about geeky questions (I guess we're very nerdy ;) ) is something that would really help, that I almost feel I can't do without. I don't really know what to do. (Okay, this site says I'm supposed to include my age and gender. I'm sixteen, and, as you probably gathered, female.)
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well if you really love him, then you'll never lose the feeling you have towards him unless you force yourself to. i know im only 13 but love is complicated, and im 13 and i know how love feels... its..... amazing, so amazing that you cant put it into words...
if you stay together then so be it, but if you fall apart its probably because theres someone else who is suppose to be with you
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Can you apply to same schools? Maybe attend the same one. That would be ideal. If not there is always the phone, email and good old IM. Don't let days pass without speaking in some way. It can work if you really both try hard. It will be hard not seeing each other everyday but it can be done. Keep busy with studies and time will fly. :)
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aww thats so cute! if you really love him then id try and make it work. text message, talk on the fone, IM eachother, write letters, and things like that as much as you can. And try to visit eachother as much as possible. I know its gunna be hard for you, but the love your talking about may never come again. You should still try to be together. and if you can get through this, you can get through anything. About the similar interest part you said, how about you tell him everything thats going on with you and you guys could still laugh about everything together, even if you are away from eachother. It will be hard, and you will have temptations, but if i were you i would def try. if it doesnt work out, then thats the way it was meant to be.
good luck with that!
♥ nicole
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is he going into college this year or do you still have another year until college? if you have another year focus on strengthning yoour relationship and having great times so when you do go away, the love you have for each other will bond you together...you will be able to talk to him online,emails,phone,webcam,mail, sending pics,..technology will make keeping in touch easier..being apart will not be easy..but if this is true love the way you describe it..you have nothing to worry about because true love like this wont die after being apart a couple months..if its strong true love..you will be fine..people who are in love are seperated for months at a time..my friends dad is away in iraq for 5 or 6 months at a time! you can still laugh about geeky questions with him over the phone and im sure you will visit as often as possible..
for now use the time you have together to the fullest...enjoy every moment you two are together.
-melissa-
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ok... well if you do go to seperate colages i think you should definetly keep in touch... amd maybe if you can and have the time you can visit him...but i also think that this sepoartion wil make you guys closer when you are togather...cuz ou know what they say, distance makes th heart grow fonder, of worse comes to worse you can always call him or email him...it isnt as good as taling in person but it seems like tat is all you have for a choice,.,,,thats all i got ...hope i helped and hope you can keep him close bye!
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First off, congrats on finding that special someone. Not many women find their Mr. Right at 16. Thinking of him first is a good thing, but don't go overboard with it. Remember you're special too.
Long distance relationships can work if both parts of the couple both try. Talking daily either on the phone or online will help make the distance seem smaller. Many instant messenger programs are set up to allow webcams so that way you can see him while you're talking to him. Keeping a picture close will help too.
You can mail letters and cards also. I know when I was in college, it made my day to get something in the mail from my boyfriend, even if it was only a one line note that said he loved me. We were four hours apart but it felt like he was on the other side of the globe sometimes.
Frequent visits will make the distance seem smaller. If it's not too far, find a half-way point you can meet on weekends or take turns driving to see each other. Spending holidays together is a given.
Remember whenever you get lonely for him that even though he's not right beside you, you carry his love in your heart.
Once again, congrats on your new love and good luck.
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