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I DONT LIKE BRINGING MY BOYFRIEND OVER
okay so i hate bringing my boyfriend over my house. my parents dont let us shut the door anymore because i guess they see we are getting more serious..they know he is in a gang so now they think he is a criminal...which he isnt. my dad thinks im going to become a chola (thats a girl gang member in my boyfriends gang) and all i hear is how they think hes a nice guy but hes a bad influence. they treat me like i have no brain and cant make mature decisions every since i got a tattoo. its like the tattoo labels me as "DANGER SHE IS GOING OVER THE HILL" kind of kid. AND IM NOT. i make smart decisions. they think im going to turn into my older brother and get myself locked up. what do i do? i dont want my boyfriend coming over anymore and when i go to my boyfriends house im not aloud over for longer then 4 hours. and yes we are sexually active and im planning on asking my mom for birth control...i want to prove to her im responsible and im looking out for myself. i dont exactly know what im asking...i just want to know peoples opinions on my situation.
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Okay well you have to realize your parents are just looking out for you, they want whats best even though it may seem like they are being irrational now. It may be true that your boyfriend is a great guy, but being in a gang can get people into a lot of trouble and I'm sure your parents know that. They are trying to make sure you don't screw up your life and go to prison or something.
I'm not going to say anything about you being sexually active at 14, because thats when I started too, but I did get on the pill at 14. I know that kids are doing it at younger and younger ages, its happening. I really think that you should sit your parents down and talk to them. Let them know that you want to get on the pill, that you are sexually active, but you are going to be mature about it. Talk to them about your relationship with your boyfriend and that you know he may not be the best example of a model citizen, but that he is really a good guy. Let them into your life, once you do they may give you a little more slack and be a little more understanding. It not then just remember they are just trying to make sure you are safe.
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my advice to you is to talk to your parents, they need to know and you need to prove that you are responsible enough to make descisions for yourself and make the right ones. make sure when you talk to them you keep your cool and don't whine if they argue with oyu. act like you want to be treated. best of luck.
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I think you need to sit down and have a discussion with your parents. Let them know that your BF is NOT that type of guy, and wouldnt do anything to hurt ANYBODY. Give them some examples of the mature things you have done. And no, You are not immature for being active at the age of 14-15. What's new? Most people are like that anyway. But I think you should (after your parents realize how mature you REALLY are) ask your mom privately for birth control. If i were you, My mom (If she agreed) would get it for me but not inform my dad till I was older.. That's how she rolls. Are your grades poor? If so, try your hardest to bring those up. Do little things around the house like taking care of dinner for mom, or cleaning the bathroom up. Little things like that can raise your maturity level in your parents eyes quite a bit. HOPE I HELPED! Email me if I did!
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Well, lets see first of all I am not judging anyone. This is just my opinion. Gangs gets bad wraps because of all the media attention on the "bad" ones(I'll call them). Where you hear of drive by shootings and stuff like that. I guess as parents they fear for your safty more than anything because of it. A tattoo aint that bad its just tattoos are like symbols of rebelion you could say.
You need to prove to your parents you are a good person and you don't like trouble of any kind.
Hope this helps.
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You probably won't like my opinion on your situation but here it is anyway: You're having sex at 15 years old, dating someone in a gang, and you already have a tattoo. Don't get me wrong. I love tattoos. I've got one so far myself. But if someone is willing to break the law about age, they're probably not too concerned with the sanitation laws either. Parents aren't as clueless as we like to think. They've had longer to learn about life than we have and they've been our age at some point. They're worried about you because they love you and they can see consequences that you can't yet. "Bad company corrupts good character." If you want your parents to trust you to make mature decisions, then you should start making them.
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well, seriously i think its a little inmature being sexually active at such a young age and no birth control, you should've ask for the birth control first so you can show how mature you are, be careful =)
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