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Annoying
yeah well my little sister and brother are just really annoying and when ever im with my friends they are right there listening in and just standing by us and i cant even say anything becuase they tell my mother and father everything so i cant even talk to my friends at home ill be doing something and they are so annoying they are also really really loud they are by the way 11 and 13 but my sisiter will be 12 in may 8th i pretty much hate them im tired of their shit i just wished i was the only child like mu sister is sooo spoiled and i have to clean up her mess and if i say something to her she goes and tells my mother and my mother always sticks up for her so i get in trouble my brother just always bothers me whatever im doing he has to question like if im texting he will be like why do you always text? and it makes me mad and they all gang up on me all the time and i sometimes want to hit them!!!!
wtf do i do to control myself and any advice on my brother and sister?
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try to control your anger by telling a friend (particularly not at your house so your siblings don't listen in) or a counselor. try writing or journaling your feelings. it can really help. remember that even though they sre annoying they still love you and definetly look up to you. also talk to you parents about this in privite with your siblings there and let them know how you feel. best of luck.
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just realize that your brother and sister love you. you're their role model!! your the big sister, the one to look up to. so of course they're going to follow you around so they can learn how to be just like you. just be patient with them. if you get angry and get upset because they're around you all the time, they're more likely to do it more because they see it bothers you. this is totally normal. my brother used to do the same thing. dometimes it might feel like everyone gangs up on you, even your parents, and it might seem like they always take your sister's side, but i think they are just harder on you becayse you are the oldest. they want you to set a good example for your younger brother and sister. all of this will go away eventually. your brother and sister will grow out of this. for now, just keep your patience up and try to ignore them when they try to bug you.
good luck =]]]
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I am going to give advice as the little sister and as a mother.
The little sister:
I was always wanting to hang out with my brother constantly. He got to do so much more than I did. I wanted to feel closer to him and feel "cool". I know that I was a pest. However, if he had shown me at least some encouraging moments where I could be his sister and he could have fun with me, such as: hang out with me at least once a week for an hour, or even include me sometimes, then I would have felt compelled to leave him alone more.
The best thing to do, keep your cool. Let them know that you need some time alone and with your friends without them interrupting or butting in. If you keep your cool, be courteous and have patience with them, there is nothing to tell on you for.
As a mother:
Go to your parents with your concerns. Do not go up to them with an attitude and make an ass of yourself. If you talk to them and let them know how you feel, things may get taken care of in a mature way. We like to think that our children can come to us for anything, and not be scared to get into trouble. Children tend to forget this part of our love for you.
We try to communicate with you and you cannot keep a mature head on your shoulders. Just think of it this way, you know how your sister/brother acts towards you and it bothers and annoys you? You do the same to us, only we aren't the ones that did anything wrong.
Let them know that you don't mind doing your fair share of the chores around the house, but find that it is unfair to pick up after someone that doesn't pick up after themselves.
Ask for their support in helping you get the privacy you need and deserve. Any parent that cares, will be willing to work with you as long as you are not being bitchy about it. Does that make sense?
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They do it because they know it bothers you. They LOVE getting a rise out of you because they know you'll get in trouble.
Just ignore the "little darlings." Act really nice towards them and be friendly.
If they are bothering you and your friends, go straight to a parent and ask politely, "I'm sorry. I'm just trying to spend some time with my friends. Is it okay if I go out somewhere with them so I won't be distracting my siblings?" Or something like that. No one said you HAD to stay in the house. As long as you're polite about it, you and your friends can just go somewhere else.
I'm sure they'll stop bothering you when it doesn't phase you anymore.
Since you think your sister is so spoiled, talk with your mom about it. Don't bitch at your sister because that will just get you in trouble. Ask your mom to reevaluate the chores list. As long as you are polite and respectful (and your sister isn't around to protest) I'm sure a solution can be reached.
The key is to always remain calm. Don't let what they do go to your head because you know it will just make everything worse.
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