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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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I would like to know if you would date someone online and then eventually meet them? As for me, There's a couple different issues to this matter. Here in my area, there aren't a lot of nice girls around here, but when I'm online, I find someone who is nice and hot, but they live too far away. It's probabily someone I wouldn't meet either way. What are your opinions on this matter?

You asked for opinions, so I will give you mine.

#1~ You said that when you meet someone online that they are nice and hot, but are you sure that you are seeing the real person? It is so easy to find a picture of someone hot online and post it as your own. You could be talking to someone who is really not your type at all, but because you cannot see them in real life, there is no risk of getting caught.

#2~ People can actually be a crazy person and you wouldn't know it because you have no way to find out. I would advise caution.

#3~ If you are in no shape to find someone that is close to you, how do you think it is going to go when you are talking to someone 1000 miles away and no way to get there? If you were to find that right person online, how would you get to her? You may be setting yourself up for heartbreak.

I met my husband through my brother, but we started talking online first. He was close to me (in the same town) so I had no worries that we were going to have no way to see each other. Online relationships are tricky. You never know what could possibly happen. If you are going to pursue a relationship with someone online, at least try to make it with someone that is close to you in your area.

I want to get a completely new hair makeover for college. I'm going to at least get my ends trimmed and relax my hair, and MAYBE go on to put in some hair extensions or highlights.

Anyone know how much this might cost? If I relax my hair, will it still be slightly wavy? I don't want it to be limp (so if it does end up limp, I'm going to get hair extensions/weave to volumize and plump up my hair).

Here are some information for you to think about. I went and read up on this the other day, because I was wanting to do the same.

Hair extensions- The best kind to get is the Great Lengths ones. They are 100% human hair and last longer. However, if you do this, make sure you get a professional that knows what they are doing. Any professional will not be offended by asking questions. These are the questions I would ask, outside the normal hair questions of maintenance and procedure:

1. How long they have been doing hair extensions?
2. Do they have any before/after pictures to show their work?
3. Do they have any references?

Make sure they have a license as well. See if they have had the actual training for their specialty. I would ask these questions on anything that you have done other than a cut and highlights.

If you are doing hair extension, get the best kind because you do not want your hair looking unnatural. Here's the problem though the price for this to be done is anywhere from $400 to $1500 dollars. This also depends on which area you are in.

I would suggest not relaxing your hair. They use chemicals and it can damage your hair. I would suggest doing something called Japanese Thermal Reconditioning. It straightens your hair and last for a while. The cost for this is around $400 as well.

Highlights can vary in price depending on several factors: location, extensiveness of highlights and length of hair. It will be a safe bet that they will range anywhere from $40 to $200.

For more volume in your hair, I would suggest getting your hair layered. This adds more depth and volume to your hair.

A link for hair extensions:
http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip034.htm

A link about Japanese Thermal Reconditioning:
http://www.garymanuel.com/services/therm.html

Is it okay to use other face wash products as well as proactive? For example, I often use a Clean&Clear Facial Wipe for a quick freshening up or to remove make up when I don't feel like going all out and washing my face with Proactive. Is this okay to do or should I stick to one product at al time?

Here's the thing with facial cleaners, they tend to dry out your face. If you haven't noticed any signs of dry skin, then it will be okay to use both at the same time. However, it may make the proactive less productive when using with another product. If you are not seeing any signs of the proactive doing it's job, then it will be okay as well.

I feel the need to change my room, and I mean like moving my bed and everything around atleast once a month. And sometimes more then that so it's usually everytime I clean my room. Why do I feel like I have to and sometimes if i dont I like cant sleep... and is it normal?

Sometimes people are not satisfied with the situation they're in (for instance, you are bored, things seem out of place in your life so you are trying to control your surroundings). It is not unhealthy until it starts affecting your relationships and life. If that is the case, I would suggest seeing a doctor about OCD occurrences.

What do you know and think about electrolysis, can i remove ALL pubic hair with it? does it hurt? does it leave marks? ANy advice on how to permanately remove UNWANTED HAIR?!?!?!

Here is some information I found for you:

http://www.101lifestyle.com/beauty/bodycare/body/bodyhair.html
http://www.hairremovalforum.com/info.htm
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/skin_stuff/hair_removal.html
http://www.revolutionhealth.com/healthy-living/womens-health/body-basics/body-care/unwanted-hair
http://www.hairfinder.com/hair-problems/removingunwantedhair.htm
http://www.hairfacts.com/methods/electro/electrolysis.html

dirty sanchez?

cuz i tried looking it up on the internet and porn popped up

and i dont reealy want to see that
sooo yea
=]]
help?

If you are wanting to know the definition of something, here is how I get the information.

I type in the google search bar:

definition + dirty sanchez

Just like that. Here is what I found.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dirty_Sanchez_(sexual_act)

18f.

Hello.
I've been trying to do some research on the internet before I asked this, and I hope I don't look stupid ha!

I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend on March 22nd. I was supposed to start my period on April 24th, and I kind of did. My periods usually last about 6 days and I bled heavy for a day and then it COMPLETELY went away. I've been getting back pain and my lower abdomen has hurt REALLY bad. I've taken three tests and all of them have come back negative. I'm probably just scaring myself, but I wanted to see if anyone was ever in my situation.

Thank you!

Stressing out about something can make you stop having your period altogether. Since you have taken the tests, there is no reason to believe you are pregnant. If your symptoms keep continuing as they are now, I would talk to your gynocologist.

Let me give you a background story, since about october or november consistently my period has been coming every 35-40 days. Say i start on the 10th one month, the next month, i would start around the 15th or later. so i dont know if thats normal, its never is the same each month, so i dont have a regular period.
My question is, Me and my boyfriend has sex, twice this month, using condoms correctly both times, nor did he come close to cuming inside me. and we didnt have sex on my ovulation days. My question is what is the chance i would be pregnant? I am late, from what i can conclude, but im never on time, ive gone a few weeks late before. Am i stressing about a minimal chance? becuase stress can cause your period to miss or be late.

Please answer, thankyou.

I am not sure how old you are or how long you have had your period, but it seems to me as if you probably have nothing to worry about. I am going to say that you are very irregular and that is the problem. You may need to get on birth control just to regulate your periods.

I'm 16 and im lookin for a new handbag. i want one that's fashionable.. for summer but not so bright and "beachy" because i want to be able to use it at night. Something along the lines with like colors n black because i tend to wear more colors that match with black. i don't want a huge oversized one either please. nothing like a tote bag either thats too "beachy" please help. i want a good price too.. nothing over 50 please!!

Here are a few to look at:

http://www.baghaus.com/product/445/handbags-on-sale-purses-totes
http://www.baghaus.com/product/299/handbags-on-sale-purses-totes
http://www.primopurses.com/item_392/Buckle-Accented-Shoulder-Purses.htm
http://www.primopurses.com/item_284/Black-Top-Stitched-Shoulder-Purse.htm

k so when i was a baby i had a rash on my neck, so my grandmother put this cream on it. turns out i was somewhat allergic to it and i grew this brown mole thingy (it isnt round or anything it kinda is like a bunch of round spots that sticks out) so the doctor said i can have it removed by like scraping it or osmething at the dermatoligist. they'll put anesthesia on it so i wont feel it. but im kinda scared. does anyon have this? and did it hurt when you removed it?

I have had moles removed before. If the doctor uses a lidocaine shot, those hurt. The way I had mine removed was by burning them off. It shouldn't hurt too much with the local. So, I wouldn't worry about it.

So i just got a kitten she's about a month n a half old.. she's like a brown kitty with like darker "tiger strips" almost with little white paws.. i get to name her and i dont know really waht to name her.. i want unique names not like the typical everyday name..

i was thinking
roxy
zoey
chloe
riley

names like that.. but pleast dont tell me which name u like best because i would've picked one if those were the ones i wanted

I like to name my animals after Greek or Roman Gods/Goddesses or Egyptian Queens/Kings. For example:

Venus
Cleopatra
Sheeba
Aphrodite
Athena

i know this may sound disturbing but my bf said that i gave him a boner and next time i should something about it..what does he mean and how? lol

I think he is telling you to have sexual contact with his boner.

Hi, I HATE HAVING HAIR, like I assume many people do. I have been thinking of Laser Hair Removal. What do you know about it. How long will it take to get rid of the hair on both my legs. Can I use it to get rid of my pubic hair? how many hours would that take? Would it hurt more there than on my legs? Please share your knowledge on this topic. I am thinking of it VERY much i just need more information. Thank You!

I figured since you were wanting information about more than just one area, I would search some sites for you. Here are the ones that are worth checking out:

http://www.hairremovaljournal.org/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laser_hair_removal
http://www.laserhairremoval.com/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/laser-hair-removal/HQ00981

These can probably answer your questions better than anyone on here can.

Ok, so here's my situation. One of my friends and I have been fooling around for a while now (about 5 months now). She's fully able to have sex and all that, but the problem is that she wont relax enough or let herself go enough to actually have an orgasm. She's been like this all her life. I can get her close, but when it starts to get too close I guess she realizes the situation and either A) loses the feeling, or if she's really close B) Pulls off me. It's not intentional that she does this, her body just convulses because of the shock and ends up with no climax. So far we've tried a few things. I'm getting her to do kegal excersizes, and we've gotten muscle relaxants (the muscle relaxants actually worked really well considering she had her period at the time, but her legs gave out and she fell down >_>). Anyways, any advice would be appreciated. I'm starting to run out of ideas and I know that the longer it takes for her to have an orgasm the harder it gets overall for her to actually have one. Plus I just feel bad when she doesn't get to finish.

I will say as a person that takes relaxant type medicine for fibromyalgia, orgasms are harder to obtain. So, I would not suggest that one.

Considering I do not know all the techniques you have tried, it will be hard to give suggestions. It may be that she is embarassed to have an orgasm in front of someone. She could have had an experience during an orgasm before that has left her terrified of having one again. Of course, in that situation, I am not so sure that talking about it is the right thing to do. If you bring it up, it could make her more uncomfortable. So, unless she brings it up, I wouldn't say anything to her.

Ask her if she has ever had one before. Then, I would say that try to get her to have one without actually having sex. When she gets to the brink and tries to back away, tell her that everything is okay and to relax. Reassurance could be the key aspect here.

I'm gonna say that toys are a girls best friend in times like this. Try buying something at a "toy shop" and introduce them to her. Who knows, once you open her up and get her to final have a release, you may never stop her again!!

Hi ,

How can I be more woman like ?
How can I be more femenine ,I don't know how to behave when I am around someone I like.
Grew up with a bunch off guys ....
I don't want to look very shy but on the other hand I don't want to look innocent (I am ,I really don't know much about guys)

Help
Have a date soon !!

If you have already met the person you are going out on a date with, then do not change. He asked you out for a reason and I would suggest not changing that, it may backfire on you.

If you have never met this person before, then do you want to have someone meet you and not know the real you?

With all that said, to be feminine is a state of mind more than anything. I would suggest just wearing something comfortable to you, but maybe in a softer color. Then let him be a gentleman and offer to open doors for you. Cross your legs if you are wearing a skirt. Do not talk with food in your mouth. Do not chew with your mouth open. No burping on the date, at least not loudly. Remember your manners: say please, thank you, your welcome, and excuse me. Above all else be yourself, but be polite.

does anyone know an interview or anything or just happen to know how Zack braff and Sarah Chalke feel about doing all those love scenes and stuff in the show? and have they ever been a couple in real life?

I couldn't find any interviews that stated the feelings of the love scenes, but I did find out that Zach Braff and Sarah Chalke are only and have only been friends.

OK, well, I have had my discharge for about 2 months
and I still havent had my period..?
whatz up

Circumstances of your personal life can affect your physical health. Also, it could be stress. Stress can cause you to not get your period. I would seek medical advice from a professional.

in friends was the song RIDE from Cary Brothers a soundtrack for an apisode? It was in one of the last 3 seasons i think? im not sure but i m thinking its one of the season finales

you gys have any idea?

http://www.tunefind.com/artist/Cary+Brothers

This is a list of all the Cary Brothers songs that have been on television shows. I am not seeing where it was on Friends though. Ride was on a few shows other than that.

my bf. of 9 mnths got drunk at one of his friends houses, his friends were pressuring him to drink. he is 16 and i think he should be able to say no by now! i don't have a problem with him drinkin. no, he shouldn't be drinking b/c he is only 16. well, he called me sober that same night after he had drank. he said he was scared he might have done something bad and was going to lose me if he did. the next day we tlkd and he found out that him and his guy friend went and hung out somewhere and his guy friend left him with some girl b/c they were chattin. my bf. found out all they did was makeout. after some SERIOUS thinking i decided i loved him too much to leave him. i told him i'd try and over look it. and then he asked if a peck kiss was cheating. and i said yes, he said he had peck kissed his ex a few days back. which really hurt when he told me that! i overlooked everything and forgave him. that was on april 26th that i forgave him. and it is now may 1st. everything is fine i haven't brought it up since that day. and the only reason i didn't leave him is b/c i love him with all my heart and can't picture my life without him. did i do the right thing? what should i have done?
thanks in advance.

I will say that the excuse he gave is probably one of the oldest ones in the book. In all honesty, I do not believe that he did not know what he was doing because he was drunk.

Here is what you need to think about. Does this problem he created matter to you? If it does, you need to let him know about it. If it does not, then you should probably just let it go. However, considering the fact that you are here asking for advice, then it bugs you.

This is a personal decision that is best made up by yourself. You need to talk to him and find out if you trust him enough to still trust him. Without trust, there is not going to be a healthy relationship.

What does morning sickness feel like? Is it actually a stomach ache or what?
Or does the throat feel constantly gaggy...

I know, strange question.

But thanks to anyone who answers

It is a sudden stomach sickness. You will get instantly sick to your stomach and want to throw up. I do not recall a constant gagging feeling in the back of your throat.

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