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what should i have done?
my bf. of 9 mnths got drunk at one of his friends houses, his friends were pressuring him to drink. he is 16 and i think he should be able to say no by now! i don't have a problem with him drinkin. no, he shouldn't be drinking b/c he is only 16. well, he called me sober that same night after he had drank. he said he was scared he might have done something bad and was going to lose me if he did. the next day we tlkd and he found out that him and his guy friend went and hung out somewhere and his guy friend left him with some girl b/c they were chattin. my bf. found out all they did was makeout. after some SERIOUS thinking i decided i loved him too much to leave him. i told him i'd try and over look it. and then he asked if a peck kiss was cheating. and i said yes, he said he had peck kissed his ex a few days back. which really hurt when he told me that! i overlooked everything and forgave him. that was on april 26th that i forgave him. and it is now may 1st. everything is fine i haven't brought it up since that day. and the only reason i didn't leave him is b/c i love him with all my heart and can't picture my life without him. did i do the right thing? what should i have done?
thanks in advance.
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He told you the truth. A relationship isn't always going to be where each person did everything 100% right. Maybe you should tell him that if he drinks again you KNOW you can't forgive him. If he loves you as much as you do...he won't do it for fear of losing you. If you really like this guy and you really think deep down in your heart that he can ghange and that this all was a big misunderstanding then yeah you did the right thing. If you think that he really does like his ex and that you think that he is the type of person who would do this all again... then you need to dump him before you get hurt.
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I will say that the excuse he gave is probably one of the oldest ones in the book. In all honesty, I do not believe that he did not know what he was doing because he was drunk.
Here is what you need to think about. Does this problem he created matter to you? If it does, you need to let him know about it. If it does not, then you should probably just let it go. However, considering the fact that you are here asking for advice, then it bugs you.
This is a personal decision that is best made up by yourself. You need to talk to him and find out if you trust him enough to still trust him. Without trust, there is not going to be a healthy relationship.
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