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Online Dating
I would like to know if you would date someone online and then eventually meet them? As for me, There's a couple different issues to this matter. Here in my area, there aren't a lot of nice girls around here, but when I'm online, I find someone who is nice and hot, but they live too far away. It's probabily someone I wouldn't meet either way. What are your opinions on this matter?
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I have strong views on this subject because I have met 2 serious boyfriends via the internet.
The first, we dated ove rthe internet and phone before we met, which sounds so geeky and i wouldnt recomend that again but we had every intention of meeting.
We met, in public which is very improtant, it was kind of a wierd date because we arranged to meet on a mini break, it meant my family had a holiday and got to meet him too and we spent the days together and then i slept in my familys acomodation without him.
That was best for us as my mum had his mobile number so we kept in touch and she knew where we were at all times.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, we fell in love and were engaged for 2 years.
We split but that was for health reasons.
I met my current boyfriend on www.love.lycos.co.uk, (which is where my mum met her new husband too ;-)) we didnt date over the net, we became friends first in real life, and fell in love. We live together now and have been together for 3 and a half years.
So yes, it can work out beautifuly, but that doesnt mean you wont meet horrible people too and people who say they are something they're not, but that can also happen if you meet someone in a pub or a library, theres always risks whatever the situation.
I wouldnt recomemd Internet dating" tho, ie where you are boyf and girlf before you've even met in person, it can be a horrible suprise when you meet up if you dont like your new girlfriend.
Dont forget, if you do meet up, do it in a public place, for the first few dates atleast, and make sure you tell someone where you are going, who you are going with, and let them know you are safe.
Good luck :-) xxx
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I tried it, it was a disaster. They all have a lot to hide. They have other relationships going and they never get off dating online- they cheat. They have chemical addictions, married, kids, problems, drama, difficulty getting along with people.... try it with caution and standards.
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I personally, would never meet someone online. I'm not into online dating, so that would be my personal choice. However, generally, a person would have to take in account their age, and what exactly their looking for or expecting of the relationship, if they did choose to meet. If you're a minor, I say "No way!" There are way too many predators out there, luring in young teens. If you're not a minor, looking for a good, solid person and you really want to do the online dating - I would suggest signing up with a legitimate site where they do background checks, and if you feel as though you do like someone, I don't see anything wrong with meeting them. You still may want to bring someone with you and/or meet in a public place, just for safety purposes incase the person happens to be a creep or a crazy psycho.
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You asked for opinions, so I will give you mine.
#1~ You said that when you meet someone online that they are nice and hot, but are you sure that you are seeing the real person? It is so easy to find a picture of someone hot online and post it as your own. You could be talking to someone who is really not your type at all, but because you cannot see them in real life, there is no risk of getting caught.
#2~ People can actually be a crazy person and you wouldn't know it because you have no way to find out. I would advise caution.
#3~ If you are in no shape to find someone that is close to you, how do you think it is going to go when you are talking to someone 1000 miles away and no way to get there? If you were to find that right person online, how would you get to her? You may be setting yourself up for heartbreak.
I met my husband through my brother, but we started talking online first. He was close to me (in the same town) so I had no worries that we were going to have no way to see each other. Online relationships are tricky. You never know what could possibly happen. If you are going to pursue a relationship with someone online, at least try to make it with someone that is close to you in your area.
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