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Last Update: October 15, 2008
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I went to the hospital to get an ultrasound on my abdominal cavity and I asked the technician to check for a baby really quick(ive been wondering if i was pregnant) and I would have been 6 weeks pregnant at the time. She said she wasnt supposed to do it but she can check really quick. She slid the "wand" over my uterus for about 5 seconds and said "no baby".
What im wondering is if she could have seen anything that early on to know if i am pregnant or not? And she did it so quick!! I know she knows what shes doing so she doesnt need a long look to see if i am pregnant but should i trust it? Was it too quick of a scan or was it reliable? At 6 weeks, she would at least have seen a gestational sac right? (link)
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Pregnancy tests are cheap and quick now. You can buy a 2 pack for 10 bucks. Worth the peace of mind. (reliable too)
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I feel so lost. I was working as a cashier 5 months ago and I stole a gift card worth $33 from my job. I am 30 years old and have never gotten in trouble in my life before that. I was arrested in front of my coworkers and humiliated, went to jail, went to court and faced petty theft misdemeanor 1 charges. I got the sentence reduced to M4 disorderly conduct in hopes of not totally ruining my life. I have applied for many jobs and gotten turned down for all. I am getting married in a year, have no money. I have applied for minimum wage jobs and am qualified for much better jobs. I do know that I can get it expunged in 2 years, but how do I live until then?How do I feed my kids? I paid my fines,went to theft course, paid restitution, paying $550 in civil fines. And will be punished for the next 2 years. My life is falling apart for $33.00. Ending it all has entered my mind, I feel worthless!! HELP! (link)
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Don't declare the misdemeanor. Mow yards. There are self-employmnt options. My gardner charges 50 for just mowing, so that's 200 a month. My pool man charges 35 for 20 mins. you could be a handy man- honey-dooer. I have friends that quit teaching to do odd jobs for construction companies and make twice as much as teaching.
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First off, I'm a 25 year old male. A few years back, my first girlfriend and I broke up and remained friends. She started dating this guy who was a manipulative con artist. I called him on it, he told her I was trying to get back with her, and she broke off our friendship and threatened me if I ever spoke to her again.
In the end he did con her, and she still treats me like a stalker and threatening person. This would be easy to get over if I just didn't keep running into her and her clique.
How do I finally just get over the issue? I've long given up on making anything of this broken bond, and just want to stop letting this girl's existance bother me whenever I run into her. (link)
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unfortunately, we almost never get over strong emotions if we see the person or things that remind us. I can only get over things if I never see the person or see things that remind me of it. The other way is to make friends again with them and build new memories but I guess you can't do that. Avoiding them at all cost is the only way I know how.
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I would like to know if you would date someone online and then eventually meet them? As for me, There's a couple different issues to this matter. Here in my area, there aren't a lot of nice girls around here, but when I'm online, I find someone who is nice and hot, but they live too far away. It's probabily someone I wouldn't meet either way. What are your opinions on this matter? (link)
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I tried it, it was a disaster. They all have a lot to hide. They have other relationships going and they never get off dating online- they cheat. They have chemical addictions, married, kids, problems, drama, difficulty getting along with people.... try it with caution and standards.
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i cant stand to be home anymore my parents are always complaining about crap i didnt even do they annoy me sooo much, but i cant just get up and leave, anyone have advise? (link)
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Have they always complained about "things you do"? Has it always bothered you? I think the reason it bothers people live with parents is that we all have a "time to leave the nest" button. We all have a time when everything bothers us and we have to leave home, a job, a partner. Few people don't have it and they are those 40 something people still living with mom. I was a guest at my sister's super nice house on christmas for 16 days. It was great the first 7 days. She has better snaks, cable, maid, jacuzzi... I felt like I was in a 5 star hotel. Then came the little comments, requests, her kids dirty looks, we all started to feel like fun was over so i left early. You might be psychologically ready to move out even if chronologically you are not. I would try to hit the "snooze" button on your independence clock and take a deep breath and wait for the right time. Try to help your parents understand how it feels, on a saturday (silly as it might sound) ask them to do a role reversal and act out what bothers you and they act what bothers them. Like freaky friday. Good luck
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i've been dating this guy... its been about 6 months and i think i love him.... but i dont know for sure... he is pretty crazy about me i think but at one point he kinda cheated on me. so im worried it will happen again. this is wat happened we took a break and then mended everything and that day it all got better he went to a party adn this chick wanted him adn was laying down completely naked on the bed downstairs. she called his name and he walked downstairs he saw her and got excited started walking towards her adn they made out then he was like oh shit.. and stopped he called me and told me everything immediately so i forgave him. but still ya know. i want to be loyal to him but i too have had a few problems... and cheated twice with my ex when he left to basic training for the army... he doesnt know but i want to tell him.. i was really drunk and know i will never do it again and i want to be with my bf so badly how do i tell him and how do i stay loyal. and how do i get my mom to like him also cuz thats a bit of a problem too (link)
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When there are breaks in a relationship, it opens the door of insecurity and people start looking for a plan B(someone else for backup). He does not have to know about the ex because it's in the past. Staying loyal will be difficult because as you said, you just "think" you love him and you have a history of trouble and infidelity. Problems bring on more problems. You need to be in love for sure, not break up, not be apart, have support from mom,,etc... Otherwise you are certainly headed for disaster. I would not tell him about the ex because that will be ammo for him later and he will never trust you and resent you for whatever he felt when he "sort of cheated". Godd luck
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My parents are fighting. They are not considering a divorce but one in a while they just go at each other. It's really sad and since i am the oldest i want to do something about it. My little sisters get sad and cry when they fight and i want to help them. What can i do to make them realize what they are doing wrong? They both blame each other for things but truthfully it is always equally both their fault! I really need some good advice. Please don't give me the "talk to them" answer because right know i don't want to start anything else. Please help me. I really want to fix this becuase everytime they fight it bring up all these past things from like 15 years ago! Who cares about those things! Please help me. (sorry if this is long, i just feel very unstable and sad right now). (link)
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I had that growing up. My brother and I staged fake similar fights and they would get this look of "oh, oh" then they would talk in code (which we understood and they said, "they are becoming like us lets stop fighting). I also faked an eating disorder and let the counselor know about it and "let her " figure out that it was b/c of parents fighting, she talked to them. I don't know if you are old enough to have a boyfriend but if you are and have one (even a fake one) ask them for advice on "similar" problems you are having. Staging the fake fights really worked for me. Good Luck
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Someone told me (a teacher, but I'm not so sure how credible she is, she's pretty old) that you can get a scholarship for being a certain ethnicity. Huh?
I'm Russian and I speak Russian, do I qualify? Is there even such a thing? (link)
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Yes, even for russian kids especially if they speak russian (can you read it too?) Check with the department of justice website.
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I have a sketch dude tomorrow and today i was working on it in class out of a book., i started copying this famous painting of a girl and its all mostly dark except she's looking at a candle lite on a table. It's a very dark picture the girl looks depressed. I DONT KNOW WHAT ITS CALLED so i cant find it online to copy it.
if you know the name of this painting or a link to it , thatdd be nice . QUICK QUICK THANKSSSSSS (link)
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there are too many like that to know from that description, just google girl depressed candle painting and do it over with a similar one
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Im a junior in high school and the friend ill be talking to you about is a freshman. I dont know why i should care about her but i really do because were friends. Were into the same stuff in school so i talk to her alot. Shes dating this one guy, and i know him, hes really a nice guy and they seem to really like eachother. But she tells me her parents dont let her see him. I have to admit that breaks my heart. Its innocent love and i think its sweet. I know i really cant do anything so please dont tell me that. Theyre always texting, video chatting, talking on the phone, and meeting up anywhere local they can, its quite sad actually. But they are just so happy together, and it really shows me what love is.I feel bad she cant see him though. Would you have any advice for her? Maybe i could talk to her about it (link)
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Spirituality is not affected by forbidden jr. high romance. Emotions are affected. Anger, happiness, sadness, love are emotions and just like we aren't happy or sad all the time these emotions occur intermittently throughout your life. That includes heartbreak. From Jr. High til now, I have lost track of the number of times I have been heartbroken. My spirituality remains intact. I still have faith that someday I will not suffer from heartaches but rather deal with them and move on instead of wallow in them forever. It took me a year to get over my first heartache yet I don't even remember the name of that boy in 8th grade: it could have been Oscar, Oliver, John, Mario, Drew, ... Time heals all, I know its a cliche but its true. Tll her that
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last night, i had a really weird dream.
i was at the school in the cafeteria except all the tables were moved at it was like 8 or 9 pm cause it was pretty dark and all the lights were on. and all the regular school people were there because there was some sort of social gathering at the school that night.
i put my hand in my sweatshirt pocket to feel my cell phone to check it, as i usually do when i'm home, and i found two of my cell phones and i automatically thought, "ohh it's _____'s" and it was just this guy's who sits at my lunch table.
anyway, so i see him, and i want to give him his cell phone back cause i know if i lost my cell phone at something like that, i'd want it back ASAP. so i was yelling his name -- i saw him from a few feet away -- except it was really loud and he couldn't hear me, and as he was walking away, i yelled his name one more time and he turned around and received his cell phone.
ok so the next thing i know, i'm outside in the pouring rain (it had been raining since the beginning of the dream) and i was wearing the sweatshirt & sweatpants that i usually wear to bed. and i saw my other friend there too, not best friend though. and when i walked outside, i felt the gravel ground under my feet and i realized i was barefoot! and so was my friend. and then the dream ended.
so, i went to dreammoods.com & searched for
rain = To dream that you get wet from the rain, signifies that you will soon be cleansed from your troubles and problems. Rain also symbolizes fertility and renewal.
i didn't quite get wet, though. like i had my hood on and i could feel the rain hitting my head, but i wasn't showered by it.
cell phone = To see or use a cell phone in your dream, indicates that you are being receptive to new information. It also represents your mobility.
so i'm going to gain new information soon regarding a situation i'm in?
To dream that you are barefoot, represents your playful attitudes and relaxed, carefree attitude. You have a firm grasp and good understanding on a situation. Alternatively, it mean indicate poverty, lack of mobility, or misunderstanding.
wait, what?? am i understanding or misunderstanding? i was wearing a sweatshirt & sweatpants so i don't think i was in poverty.
thankss (link)
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An alternate meaning is given but the interpreter sees/chooses the one that applies. If you are happy and the symbol means either happy or clueless, then its happy. These interpretations are not keys to a code set in stone, they are used by you and the interpreter, usually a therapist, to work through your problems and solve them or to help you to vocalize and figure out what your issues are. Its NOT really like a math rule (if A=2 then A+ B= 2-C). Its a way to got you to talk about your issues.
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I hate that I'm actually posting this, but here it goes..
I have some self-esteem issues. I'm not pretty, but I think I'm okay with that part. It's just that I don't feel like there's anything to 'balance' that out, you know? There are a ton of girls who are amazing because of their personality, even if they're not incredibly pretty. I'm really not outgoing. I have a problem with being afraid of how people will react to me, if that makes sense.
What sucks the most is that I know where this came from, and I know its stupid, but I can't get over it. Ever since I was really young, my family has compared me to my perfect, insanely pretty cousin. Plus, all my friends are gorgeous. HOW do I get over this?? I want to be able to flirt with a guy without immediately realizing how pointless it is. (link)
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I look at things differently. Just because people are prettier than me, doesnt mean I have to focus on that. I focus on me, my needs and goals and plans on how to get my needs met. These people are not putting up beauty shields that keep you from succeeding. Get a makeover, you would be amazed at the difference a haircolor, cut, makeup and outfit can make. Hit the gym. I have a pretty face but lately I gained 40 lbs. I couldn't get a date if I hot glued two supermodels to me. I started working out and lost most of the weight-problem solved. I have a friend with a hot body and a horse face, she got tons of make up and learned how to put it on and now she appears to be the perfect package. Spend time, money effort and focus on you appearance and you will see a difference, that is what it takes to accomplish anything even a career.
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i dunno what it is...its not a disease, im sure its not from blushing, its not an allergic reaction, and nobody in my family or ANYONE else i know has it. I get suchhh a red face and nose!! how do i get my face to calm down?! its sooo annoying because people always comment on it meanly. Is there any cream or anything that can help it go away? (ive tried coverup, ive tried putting cold water on my face, NOTHING works!) this like just started a couple months ago, and its getting worse..any help???
just something that will make my face STAY normal skin colour.
THANKS:) (link)
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It wont get rid of it but it will mask it till you find out the cure/treatment. I used a green base that neutralizes the red then a beige concealer. Neutrogena has the complete trio of yellow, green and beige. Dermablend works too. I have rosacea and it requires everyday treatment with expensive lotions (3 of em) and once you stop it comes back so I opted for cover up since its cheaper and the medicine doesnt cure it , just keeps it under control.
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hi, i was wondering: is it normal to be like 15 and have the life of like a little kid.?
my friend is like 15 and her mom treats her like a little kid. its kind of weird going over her house.
EX: like her bed has one of them fence things so the baby wont fall out.
she even has a pacifier =| =o =[
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this is weird!!! what should i do? idk if she knows she's like 15.
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How do these things hinder your development or hurt your friend? Your manner of expression is not that of a 15 year old, more like an 11 year old. The bed could be a hand-me-down or just old. The pacifier could be a gag from a party or friend. If this is your definition of weird, don't go to her weird house. It's hard for me to imagine so many homes that are so normal, that a railed bed and babyish treatment is considered a concern. Consider yourself lucky that neither you nor your friend are physically, mentally, sexually abused or neglected.
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What are some reasons why a single guy who you know likes you won't ask you out? I'm asking because there is a guy from work who has liked me since before Xmas. He knows I like him back yet he hasn't asked me out. Do you think he's waiting for me to make the first move? (link)
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You never know. Try setting up a group date and ask him along.
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i have been suffering from severe depression for awhile. after much thought, i believe it's because of some of my actions in the past. not murder or anything like that, but i have alot of shame and guilt (with myself) but cannot seem to forgive myself. i realize i am only human and i'm going to make some mistakes, but i cannot seem to get over whatever things are making me feel depressed. i have tried almost every anti-depressant, but they don't seem to work. i obviously need help, but cannot seem to find anyone who truly wants to help me. it's always a question of health insurance (i have excellent coverage) so instead of helping me, i feel they are prolonging my agony to keep the money coming in. truthfully, i wouldn't care if they were helping me. i have considered a indian medicine man and even went to a reservation in hopes of speaking with one, but it was the weekend and they were closed. a psychic is starting to look good but most are for fun. i truly need help before i lose my mind! thanks (link)
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Some people are hard wired to feel guilt and lots of it. Some are hard wired to feel depressed. There are many traits that keep us socially acceptable but sometimes they go overboard. Everyone has a deep dark horrible past. I went to a Catholic retreat once and we all drank wine (when no one there drank) and we all fessed up. I had to make up stuff to keep with everyone for fear of looking dishonest or goody two-shoes or be the outsider. Then I felt guilty for that too. These were women who were nurses in catholic schools and they did things I had never beleived normal law abiding citizens hadn't even heard of. One was a prostitute for a year, one had 5 abortions, one used to keep her kid drunk to calm him down, one stole medication from her dying father to sell on the side. They all felt better and were happy as hay afterward and looked normal at work. I was appalled. I felt better that I wasnt the worst. Maybe being around people who are worse than you might help.
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I have been married for 5 years, and for the past 10 months have been having an affair with a man from work. I love my husband, but I know that if I tell him the truth, we will be over. My husband is very good to me. The affair is now over. I have been feeling guilty and depressed, and I don't know if I should tell my husband. I also think there is a possibility that I might do this again, and I can't explain why. What should I do? Tell him, and try to move on, or move on myself, and try to spare our relationship? (link)
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I was unfaithful in a significant relationship. Had the same feelings you did. Told him. He left me. Later my neighbors said " we are glad you finally kicked him out since he had women come to your place when you were gone. I ran into him later and told him that. He denied it and sounded so convincing. I almost believed him. Through the following months I would find condoms we didnt use, long hairs in blanket when i had short hair, old little love post its, credit card receipts of gifts i never got (flowers, jewelry, undies from victoria's secret). I called him and ran this list by him and innocently replied, "maybe they are from the previous house owners and even if it was mine, you were unfaithful too. Some people deal with infidelity differently. I wish I hadn't said anything, found his evidence and been the good guy, instead he told all our friends. So, use this story to decide what to do .
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Why would a guy flirt with you outragiously, show an interest in you, go out of his way just to talk to you if he's in another relationship?
This guy from work had been showing an interest in me since before Xmas. I always caught him staring at me, he'd smile when I entered the room, he'd rub my shoulder, joke around with me, and even my supervisor thought he liked me because he'd smile if she said I was working that night. Well anyways I thought he was single so I started flirting back. He got all freaked out for a while, and never asked me out. Well I found out he IS seeing someone. I think it's pretty serious too because I heard they are going on a holiday. My question is WHY on earth would he be flirting with me and showing such a huge interest if he ia in another relationship? The only thing I could think of is that he is not that into her, but still I think it's wrong of him to do this. (link)
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People in serious relationships, even if happy, still look around and keep their options open just in case. Some like to test to see if they still got game. I know lots of men that are married and still flirt in a confusing way and then act freaked out because you show interest back or play around. Some people are like that
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There is this guy from my workplace that I know has a bit of a crush on me. I sort of like him back too. I had heard from several people that he had a drinking problem but so far it had just been rumours. Well last tuesday on my day off I went to the bottle depot and I ran into him. Initially he said hi, but then he got really quiet as we sorted bottles next to each other. All I had were empty diet pop cans, but he had boxes and boxes of empty beer cans. I sensed he was embarrassed because he was so quiet, and normally he's really talkative so I quietly collected my money and left. I just saw him yesterday at work after this happened, and his head jerked a bit when he saw me and then he looked away. He used to act sort of macho and cool around me, now it's as if someone has burst his bubble. I feel bad because we were finally getting comfortable around each other. Do you think he's embarrassed? And how should I act around him now? (link)
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I doubt many people are embarrassed about having beer cans noticed by friends. I don't have a drinking problem but I do host parties and have trash bags of empty liquor containers and I dont feel emarrassed if someone sees them. You never know what people are thinking or why they act like they do. Approaching him and starting a basic friendly conversation could break this new awkward thing. He might be embarrassed that you might think he was broke and had to get recycling money. Re-break the ice and dig around. I sometimes "joke around" and ask people straight out in a funny sort of way-"Hey, I didn't embarrass you checkin out your beer stash, did I?- ha ha, then they give their come back explanation
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I met this guy 4 years ago. I am in my late 20's and he is in his early 30's. We hit it off. He was everything I was looking for; attractive, charming, sweet, succesful, and loving. 3 months into it he changes into a cocky, disrespectful person. Apparently he had another girlfriend. I suffered as the other woman for almost 3 years. I knew what I needed was to leave, but I didn't. Actually throughout those 3 years, we were on and off. It is now into the 4th year and he has made some changes. I think and feel like he is only seeing me. When we're together, we are deeply in love. We laugh, we enjoy each others company, We are so happy together. And I mean literally "together". He is a very busy guy, so when we're apart...we do not get along. Because I already have trust issues considering he disrespected and cheated in the part, I would think that he would try his hardest to communicate. Of course, he doesnt. Some nights he simply doesnt return my calls. His excuse the next morning is he had a long day and he was tired. I really think that he is not cheating, but I feel like I deserve to be communicated with. Would counseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable? I am deeply in love with him. Please help. (link)
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Being deeply in love clouds judgment and doesnt let us see what is best for us. Maybe some distance or some testing of new waters might clear things up. I was in a similar situation, I started "walking in his shoes" and realized that there are better people out there than him and that there is no such thing as "i was tired" its more like " i was out with someone tired". He couldn't find someone better, and kept asking me back. Chances are if you seem to not know what to do, you really do. If someone cheats once, they will do it again and if they play like they were tired, they are cheating. I have been on both sides of it.
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