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worried I embarrassed guy from work
There is this guy from my workplace that I know has a bit of a crush on me. I sort of like him back too. I had heard from several people that he had a drinking problem but so far it had just been rumours. Well last tuesday on my day off I went to the bottle depot and I ran into him. Initially he said hi, but then he got really quiet as we sorted bottles next to each other. All I had were empty diet pop cans, but he had boxes and boxes of empty beer cans. I sensed he was embarrassed because he was so quiet, and normally he's really talkative so I quietly collected my money and left. I just saw him yesterday at work after this happened, and his head jerked a bit when he saw me and then he looked away. He used to act sort of macho and cool around me, now it's as if someone has burst his bubble. I feel bad because we were finally getting comfortable around each other. Do you think he's embarrassed? And how should I act around him now?
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I doubt many people are embarrassed about having beer cans noticed by friends. I don't have a drinking problem but I do host parties and have trash bags of empty liquor containers and I dont feel emarrassed if someone sees them. You never know what people are thinking or why they act like they do. Approaching him and starting a basic friendly conversation could break this new awkward thing. He might be embarrassed that you might think he was broke and had to get recycling money. Re-break the ice and dig around. I sometimes "joke around" and ask people straight out in a funny sort of way-"Hey, I didn't embarrass you checkin out your beer stash, did I?- ha ha, then they give their come back explanation
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Hey,
Most likely he is embarrassed. You found out that his drinking problem was not just rumors. That they were true. I would be embarrassed too.
But if you really like this guy try asking him out to dinner or maybe grabbing some lunch on your break. Maybe try talking to him and tell him he should not be embarrassed and shy around you now that you know. Then ask him about his drinking problem. Maybe suggest him going to a AA meeting once you start to get closer. But if you really do like this guy you should help him with his drinking problem before you get involved with him.
The best thing to do first his try to convince him to get help from somebody. I grew up in a house with drinking and it is not a pretty sight. So just try talking to him.
I hope I helped. Ask me anything else if you need!
moe921
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if he has a drinking problem, that is his problem to fix. he doesn't need to involve you in it. he is probably worried that you think he is a sloppy drunk guy or something. don't bring up all the beer cans around him, and try to act normal around him. in a little while he will be back to normal. but who knows... maybe that was what he needed, getting embarrassed about one of his friends seeing how much he drinks. maybe that was enough for him to realize that he has a problem that he needs to solve. later on, if he starts to open up to you about it, just be supportive. but until then it's best to keep his problem under wraps. but the thing is, maybe he had a party or something and those aren't his beer cans. there are tons of different meanings for that. just try to be normal around him and in time he will be normal around you again.
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He's most likely nervous around you know. When you saw him did you flirt with him in anyway? He is most likely realizing that you do like him back and it makes him nervous. If it is about the beer and your sure of it, talk to him. Just sitting down and having a coversation can cure everything.
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He does sound a little embarresed but you should talk to him, make it seem as though nothing changed and maybe ask him to hang out with you and show him your still friends and, if you want it, show him you still may have a bit of a thing for him. :) Hope i helped:)
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