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My Friend is getting hurt (spiritually)
Im a junior in high school and the friend ill be talking to you about is a freshman. I dont know why i should care about her but i really do because were friends. Were into the same stuff in school so i talk to her alot. Shes dating this one guy, and i know him, hes really a nice guy and they seem to really like eachother. But she tells me her parents dont let her see him. I have to admit that breaks my heart. Its innocent love and i think its sweet. I know i really cant do anything so please dont tell me that. Theyre always texting, video chatting, talking on the phone, and meeting up anywhere local they can, its quite sad actually. But they are just so happy together, and it really shows me what love is.I feel bad she cant see him though. Would you have any advice for her? Maybe i could talk to her about it
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I'm glad to see that you care about her this much, it's evident to me that you've got a big heart made of solid gold!
I would ask her as to why her parents won't let her see him. Could it be that they're protecting her from getting hurt? I mean, they may feel as if she's too young to be in a relationship with another guy and that she should wait. There are endless possibilities to why they don't want her to go out.
See whether it's possible for her to convince her parents to let him come round for...i don't know...the day and see what they think of him. If he isn't as bad as you say, then they should like him, well enough to let her go out with him.
If not, then there is one other option which your friend may or may not like and that it to talk to her parents about what she feels for this guy. Nothing should get in the way of love except for parental protection (well, in my rule book). She needs to talk to them about what she feels, why don't they let her see him and then try and persuade them (persuading should really come first because if all else fails, she can ask whether he can come round for the day so that they can see what he's like and then they can make a decision).
Parents want what is best for their kids and it hurts them to see how hurt their child is if they've broken up with somebody because they feel as if they've not done their duty and a parent properly. They just don't want their kids to be hurt by anybody or anything.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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reminds me of myself when i was younger.. i started dating seriously very young. my parents always let me hang out with guys because they didnt realize how serious it was, they thought it was just puppy love. but when they found out what i had been doing, they became overprotective. so i stopped dating for a while and i learned my lesson. but when i found this one boy who i really loved my freshmen year, there was nothing i could do except for tell my mother how much i loved him, or i wouldnt be able to see him at all. so i sat her down and really had a deep talk with her about how i seriously learned my lesson from the last 2 guys, and i trust myself, and i respect myself, and she needs to give me a break and trust me. i told her to give it a chance, and to my surprise, she did! i think your friend may have to half a long talk with her parents and just use the right words and be completely honest. i know how it feels to be in her shoes and to have to feel like your hiding something. her parents would most likely be much happier if she was open with them, and they might realize that she is mature enough to date.
hope i helped (:
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Spirituality is not affected by forbidden jr. high romance. Emotions are affected. Anger, happiness, sadness, love are emotions and just like we aren't happy or sad all the time these emotions occur intermittently throughout your life. That includes heartbreak. From Jr. High til now, I have lost track of the number of times I have been heartbroken. My spirituality remains intact. I still have faith that someday I will not suffer from heartaches but rather deal with them and move on instead of wallow in them forever. It took me a year to get over my first heartache yet I don't even remember the name of that boy in 8th grade: it could have been Oscar, Oliver, John, Mario, Drew, ... Time heals all, I know its a cliche but its true. Tll her that
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