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best friend and a evil BF
13/F
ok.... so i yesterday i could see it in my friends eyes that she was keeping something from me. So I calmly talked to her about and she told me that her boyfriend (my x'friend) made fun of her two best friends. He said that I was fat and he said that Melonhead was a lesbian and had bad hair. He was already a jerk but I just couldn't take this anymore. I was going to talk to him about it but I cant because Katie promised him she wouldn't tell that he made fun of us. So now, pease dont judge me but i told her that she had to choose... would she rather have a friend or a boyfriend. That sounds rude but I am just offended that my best friend would go out with a creep that makes fun of me. I am sorry that this is so long but please help me.
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Okay, so you 13. This won't even be important 3 months from now, this boyfriend probably won't last long either for her. She'll probably go through alot of them in her life (because, we all do. Its extremely rare to marry someone you started dating when your 13, it just doesn't happen.) SO if you don't want to lose your bestfriend then I'd say you just tough it out and realize that he won't be around forever and just be a good friend to her. Sometimes being a good friend means just grinning and bearing it. Just think about it, if your boyfriend called her fat and she said "choose between us now" how would you feel? Good luck.
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Well here's the thing your wrong for making her choose. however she's very wrong for dating a guy who would disrepect her friends like that, and in a way by disrespecting you, he is disrespecting her. so let her know that she's dating someone who's a waste of her time and way below her. Don't just come right out and say it's me or him, because that will turn her against you. talk to her, tell her she needs to be with someone who appreciates her and can get along with her friends. hope this is some help.
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I criticize other people that like the person I want to make fun of. And little by little the message gets through. I broke up with a guy because I compared him to George Clooney and my sister jumped up, spit her coke, and said," but younger right?!!!" He looked older so I dumped him so I wouldn't be made fun of for being with an "older than clooney look-alike". That is how shallow some of us are sometimes.
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I know it's hard for a friendship to prosper when one of you gets a boyfriend especially when the two of you don't get along, tell your friend that you don't appreciate him doing it and that if she was really your best friend she would stand up for you. Just understand that she likes this boy but don't make her choose she may make the wrong on and you could end up ruining a perfectly good friendship. Then you can try talking to the boyfriend let him know that you do not have a problem with him adn that you want your friend to be happy and she is with him, but let him know that you do not appreciate him talking about you. He may just be jealous of the relationship you and your friend have and is therefor trying to break it up. Remain friends with your friend and if all else fails just don't hang around her when he is around.
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Well your not really being a friend because if you were, you wouldnt be making her choose. It has to be her decision not yours. Just stay away from the guy. You can be offended, but you cant be mad at her because she didnt say it, he did. But hell at least she told you and wasnt laughing at you.
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