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so many problems
i've been dating this guy... its been about 6 months and i think i love him.... but i dont know for sure... he is pretty crazy about me i think but at one point he kinda cheated on me. so im worried it will happen again. this is wat happened we took a break and then mended everything and that day it all got better he went to a party adn this chick wanted him adn was laying down completely naked on the bed downstairs. she called his name and he walked downstairs he saw her and got excited started walking towards her adn they made out then he was like oh shit.. and stopped he called me and told me everything immediately so i forgave him. but still ya know. i want to be loyal to him but i too have had a few problems... and cheated twice with my ex when he left to basic training for the army... he doesnt know but i want to tell him.. i was really drunk and know i will never do it again and i want to be with my bf so badly how do i tell him and how do i stay loyal. and how do i get my mom to like him also cuz thats a bit of a problem too
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You should have no doubts about loving him, if you do then you may not be ready for a huge commitement, but if you feel like you really want to give it a try then I think you should tell him. He told you about his slip-up, so why not tell him about yours, it may make you feel alot better about the situation and make it easier to love him. But you don't have to tell him, it is really up to you.
For the loyalty thing that is really all up to you, but somethings to help are keep yourself out of situations where you may be put to the test, hang around people who won't pressure you, etc.
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When there are breaks in a relationship, it opens the door of insecurity and people start looking for a plan B(someone else for backup). He does not have to know about the ex because it's in the past. Staying loyal will be difficult because as you said, you just "think" you love him and you have a history of trouble and infidelity. Problems bring on more problems. You need to be in love for sure, not break up, not be apart, have support from mom,,etc... Otherwise you are certainly headed for disaster. I would not tell him about the ex because that will be ammo for him later and he will never trust you and resent you for whatever he felt when he "sort of cheated". Godd luck
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