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How to get over an old hate?
First off, I'm a 25 year old male. A few years back, my first girlfriend and I broke up and remained friends. She started dating this guy who was a manipulative con artist. I called him on it, he told her I was trying to get back with her, and she broke off our friendship and threatened me if I ever spoke to her again.
In the end he did con her, and she still treats me like a stalker and threatening person. This would be easy to get over if I just didn't keep running into her and her clique.
How do I finally just get over the issue? I've long given up on making anything of this broken bond, and just want to stop letting this girl's existance bother me whenever I run into her.
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You remind me of my ex-boyfriend. I still think of him as a stalker. I doubt he runs into me by accident and I am sure he is just as bitter and sour as you about me. Her "existance" bothers you? Sounds like you want her to vanish. If she is an old hate, its no wonder she sees you as a threatening person. I think you need professional counseling not nice comments you want to hear.
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unfortunately, we almost never get over strong emotions if we see the person or things that remind us. I can only get over things if I never see the person or see things that remind me of it. The other way is to make friends again with them and build new memories but I guess you can't do that. Avoiding them at all cost is the only way I know how.
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Be the one with the last word.
Call her on what her mobile or her home phone. Don't let her speak, tell that you're not the person that her boyfriend is telling that you are. All those times that you ran into each other wasn't because you were stalking her, it was just coincidence and luck. All you ever wanted was to be friends, but now there is nothing else left between the two of you. Then hang up.
I know that you may or may not find this difficult, but it is the only way that you and everybody else will get over it.
You know whom you are and that you aren't the person that her boyfriend says you are.
Plus, if you were a stalker, you would've been more subtle and not kept running into her. And you would've probably done something by now (don't ask what, but something).
Try and avoid the places that she usually goes to so that you don't run into her.
Remeber, if you want this to end then you MUST call her and tell all that was said up above.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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