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hopeless at understanding men
i went on a "date" w/this guy(that i initiated) we went out for dinner, though we both never specified that it was anything more than that, and we hung out for a long time. i thought it went well, and he hugged me at the end.i didn't get any hint he wanted to see me again until he brings it up 3 weeks later randomly in the middle of our conversation.the 3 weeks leading to that i became upset b/c i felt maybe he didn't like me, even though he'd always become real happy to see me around.so even though this is what i wanted to hear him say, i guess 3 weeks of waiting overrode my enthusiasm.and later he convinced me to play intramural soccer w/him, i played one game and after the game he texts me and says "babe you're the best".and this is where it gets wierd: all of a sudden he changes and goes hot/cold switching and letting girls flirt w/him around me and not paying attn. to me. i don't understand. and now everytime i pass him by all he says is "will you play soccer?see you monday." he knows i can't play(it's too late at night) why is he being so annoyingly persistent? why would he care anyways, i bet had someone else had said no i don't want to play he'd leave them alone. i'm confused, i guess my question is how you think he feels about me. thank you for reading this and i'm really sorry for it being lengthy but any help would be very much appreciated.
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He is proly tryin to make u jelus bc guys r jerks like that so dont get even (unless u think thats funner!) usually talking wont help and i would just say no when he asks you if you dont want to and just find another guy bc it doesnt sound like its working too well!! just my opinion tho!
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well this guy could either be playing hard to get, trying to make you jealous, or being a total jerk! if you really like this guy tell him how you feel about how he is acting and if he doesn;t like it forget about him. that's all i have to say. sorry i couldn't write more. best of luck.
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Umm okay well im a girl but here is what i think!!
i think it is one of two things. Either he is testing you to see how jealous you get, which is what it sounds like because you said that he ignored you and flirted with other girls. Or he is just being a real asshole. But you are probably just really overthinking it. I say just tell him how your feeling. and tell him you dont want him flirting with any other girls, you want him flirting with you! haha
-hayley
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really i just think that you are overthinking the situation. I mean it is pretty much there that he is trying to make you jealous. But sometimes it takes other people to see it. haha
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Have no fear, a male is here! Anyways, I'm pretty sure that he likes you. This is all probably his way of testing the waters. With him flirting with other women, it's either 1) he was judging your reaction and maybe hoping you'd get jealous, or 2) he's a dick and wasn't thinking (lets hope it's 1). He probably likes playing soccer with you because of several reasons, like maybe he just likes sharing an something with you that he likes to do. It might be his way of showing you a side of himself that not everyone gets to see. If that's the case then he's being persistant probably because he feels like it's the only way he can really show you what he's like.
You can tell that he obviously has feelings for you if he always gets happier when you come around. I think you might be overthinking some of this a bit. You should probably go talk to him and just ask him about it straight out though. If you want to be with him then see ask him if he wants you two to be a couple. If so then if he keeps flirting go reem him out. If he doesn't want to be a couple then it's probably best that you find out sooner rather then later.
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