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romantically challenged
i'm 15/f and i have never had an actual boyfriend and i've never kissed a guy. I feel so behind from all the other girls at school. I just don't feel like i want to take on all the drama that comes with a relationship.
I'm not ugly or anything and i think guys don't ask me out because i'm kind of one of them. I love video games and playing guitar, and skateboarding. The dresses and stuff don't really get me.
I'm worried about being single for the rest of my life! I want to keep my guy friends though, they're like my brothers and i'm worried that if i ever get a guy he won't let me hang out with my boys!
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Well, if your boyfriend is a true boyfriend then he won't mind you hangin w/ your guy friends. Because i am the same way, i prefer guys to girls because they are just easier to hang around, and it's okay that you've never had a boyfriend, because some people just don't get bf's as easy as others, and you're not behind all of the other girls, just b/c you've never been kissed. You'll find the guy that's right for you soon. And also, don't let your bf keep you from your guy friends,and if he does, explain to him that they are family.
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psh same thing swinnging this way girl,
don't worrie about it though you [WONT] be single for ever truth me this is coming from a girl who has only had ONE boyfriend and just got her first kiss a few weeks ago and IM 15 xD haa yeahh, in all honesty some one will come along and nothing will need to be changed about you! :] yeah he might not like the fact that you have alot of guy friends thay will grow on him though because really you say their like your brothers! but no you wont be single forever, the right guy will come sooner or later you just have to wait around to see; don't look for him let him find you ;)
- i hope everything works out for you! <3
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soon enough a guy will ocme along and like you for who you are. don't worry abotu being single because guys love it when you can be "one of them". i think you should try a little to become into some girly stuff. i mean i'm not saying you have to have a total transformation but just a little more feminine, do you see what i'm getting at? oh and please odn;t take this the wrong way i'm not saying anything insulting or trying to. but, try a little. best of luck!
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if you get a guyfriend, make sure he treats everyone the same
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if you get a bf and he wont let you hang out with your guy friends (who are like your brothers) then he is not worth it, you should even ask your friends that , if uyour bf doesn't let you hang out with thwm ,then he's not worth the trouble b/c theres plentyof guys out there that you can date, but if you do get a bf and he has no prob with it be carful bn/c he will get jelous.
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I know exactly how you feel. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 17. I was always "one of the guys" and I still am. When I did start my first relationship though, I laid it all out on the table. I told him I have guy friends that have been there for me and I plan to be there for them no matter what. I let him know that nothing will make me stop hanging with them. Then I told him if he didn't think he could handle that, then that was fine, but he needed to let me know so that I knew that a relationship was not an option with him. Don't rush the "boyfriend" thing just because it seems everyone else is. Live your life for you. If something happens later down the road and you decide to start a relationship than great, but until then, I wouldn't stress it. I'm sure you are a beautiful person and have a beautiful heart! You'll find the guy for you, I promise. And odds are, you'll find him when you aren't even looking.
<3 Leslie
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Hi,
I don't think you should worry. I'm sure that the right guy will come along, when you're ready to date. Even if that's not in high school. One that will like that you skateboard and that you're comfortable around other guys. So don't worry. And if the guy tries to get you to give up your friends he's not worth it anyways.
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You're behind on what exactly? I don't think that just because 'everyone is doing it' is a good enough reason to feel crap about yourself. thb, i'm 17 and i've never had a relationship - its not because i can't get a guy or i'm freakin butt ugly - its just that i don't feel that i HAVE to conform to what everyone else was doing. If you don't have any interest dont worry, you're only 15! you've got so many more years ahead of you! i wouldnt worry one bit!
The whole 'my boyfriend won't let me hang out with my guy friends' is a MYTH. except for control freaks which in any case you should ditch because that guy will also be limiting the time you want to spend with your girlfriends as well.
Just because you have a boyfriend doesnt mean your social life outside your boyfriend dies too you know? and if any boy expects that of you - slap him right in the face, inform him he's living in 2008 and not 1808 then promtly drop him like a hot potato.
But anyways! back to your original worry - No. you won't end up single for the rest of your life and yes you will still be able to keep your guy friends =] At this age i know its hard with all the boyfriend/girlfriend issues you know, all the, whos got what, who did what - let me tell you, you are not worse off if you don't have a boyfriend! The right guy will come along you'll have fun, hang out a heap have your relationship issues then most probably break up somewhere along the line (i'm not jinxing you but the chances of you finding 'the one' when you dont even know what you want to do with you life as yet [probably] is a very slim chance.) So relax! enjoy being a teenager, playing your guitar and video games (which totally rules btw) and you know what? not bothering about pretty clothes and make up and things is one less worry you have!
Have fun being yourself OK?
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Don't worry so much. When the right guy comes along you will know it. One that is ok with you having guys for friends.
~Loverocks~
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