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What am I doing.
So, this guy really likes me, and I really like him a lot. He's amazing, and instead of him calling me "hot", He tells me I'm beautiful, incredible, amazing ect. And I love it, he makes me SO happy.(: But, he always asks "Wanna hang out?(:" and I always say yes becuase I really do, but then at the last minuet, I find myself making up things to get out of it. I still don't know why. My friend asked me the same thing! And I just realized, I have no idea. She thinks it has something to do with my dad leaving when I was like two, and I never got to know him. But I have no idea. Help?
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honestly at first,
i thought you just backed out of plans becuase you were just to nervous and you didnt know it.
my boyfriend did the same thing with me at first.
but then i ended up haning with one of his friends and he was there, so everything worked out.
so just hang out in a group, go to a movie, bowling, sometihing that doesnt involve that much 1 on 1 time.
eventually youll open up more and everything should work out fine!
if you neeed anything else, just ask =]
xoxo.
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You're probably just nervous and you're not ready for commitment, your always probably worried that if fall too hard for this guy, then he might get up and leave like your dad did. I have the same problem, I'm always scared I'm going to get too close to someone, and they'll walk away from me just like my parents did. It's a scary thing but all you can really do is open up to this guy and hope for the best.
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You may just be scared of getting into a relationship where you may get really into and maybe you are scared of commitement. Or maybe it does have something to do with him. Maybe you have trouble trusting men because he left you. Who knows? You may not need to know the problem to fix it. Try going out with a group that way you don't feel really trapped and like you have to be just with him. Then go to the next step, just move really slowly, you are going to have to face it sometime and now is better than never or later.
Hope I Helped.
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You might just be a little nervous. It's like you really want to hang out, but you get nervous at the last second or you may not even like him as well as you think you do. You could also be worried about what other people might think. Hope this helps!
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well, to tell you the truth you may be feeling different about this guy. i know you may really like him but then again you may not. talk to him about this and see if he can help you by letting you ask him if he wants to hang out or something. if you feel comfortable talk to your mom about this and/or a school counselor. best of luck.
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i dont think its somthing to do with your dad. i think your just a little scared of what might happen if you two where to hang out.
but on the other hand do you think its becuase of your dad. you should not let that stop you from having a social life.
to me this guy really like you. he is knockin at your door so let him in. dont be afraid to let a fun time happen.
if you keep puttin it off he will stop asking you and he might think you are playing with him and trust some guys hate to be played with.
hope i helped
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Well, there could be a lot of different reasons about why. You could be afraid of getting hurt by opening yourself up to someone and as such you make sure to distance yourself from anyone that you might open up to.
On the other hand, it could be that because you didn't have a father figure in your life that you're just in some strange way afraid of being with guys.
Or maybe there's just something in your head telling you that you're not ready to commit to a relationship and you constantly avoiding it is your way of dealing with it.
If you really like this guy and you want to be with him, then my best advice for you is to face whatever is troubling you. If you can't figure out what exactly keeps stopping you then just force yourself not to make any excuses, get your friends help if you have to. It's probably the fastest way to confront whatever your issue is as well as to make a stronger bond with your guy.
Also, this is just a little bit of side advice coming from someone who's been around lots of people that have had similiar issues: don't be afraid to draw your strength from people around you. If you feel that you can't face this alone, then don't. Face it with your friends, face it with your guy, or anyone else that you can trust, because trust me, they all want to help you if you need it, and I can say personally there's nothing more painful then watching a loved one go through something that they wont let you in to help with.
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