|
What do I do,now that I know my dad is cheating on my mother
I have just found out that my father is cheating on my mother.
This isn't the first time.
My mom came very close to catching him but things were okay after some time and now its happening again.
I was going to use the phone,and when I turned it on,I heard my dad saying the groses thing[if you know what I mean]
I can't believe it!!
My moms been wanting to have another baby for like 5years and now my dads cheating.
I can't stop shaking.
After what happened the last time I know I CANNOT tell my mom.
But what do I do,I can't let this go.
See,when I was a few days old as a baby the women who gave birth to me abandoned my and my dad.When I was 3 my dad married my mom[step mom]and she's been there for me as a mother ever since.
If she found out she'd probrably take my little sister[shes 6yers old]and leave.Then I once again won't have a mother anymore.And I can't let that happen.
So what do I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
I know you really don't want to hear this (as you've said it isn't an option of yours) but the right thing is to tell your mother as soon as possible.
It is important that your mother knows because, most likely, your father is not going to tell her. Many people will claim that they will tell their partner about their infidelity as soon as they figure out the words but do not go through with it. Talking to your father is not your job in this situation--this is your parents' issues. Your only job now is to let your mother know that you've encountered a problem.
Your mother needs to know as soon as possible everything that you overheard on the phone and how it came to be overheard. Be as detailed as possible as to what you heard and what exactly you were doing. She may need some comforting and some courage so help her figure out how to approach your father if needed. If you're truly in fear of her abandoning you, then you need to express these concerns to her very clearly.
You definately need to realize that it is not your duty to work your parents' marital problems out. It isn't your place to hide things from either parent but it is not your place to confront a parent about their issues. You can, however, allow them to be made aware of a problem--which is what you need to do with your mother. Your parents will have to discuss it and work on matters some more.
You also need to realize that them having a child will not help this situation at all. They need more communication to help figure out why your father is doing this to your mother and the family and how to have him discontinue. It is unlikely that your mother is going to suddenly abandon you without trying to communicate with your father about the situation; although, it is likely that she may take some time away to figure out a plan of action with these issues.
Nobody likes to be lied to and nobody likes to have things hidden from this. This will really tear your family apart the longer it goes on. Your mother needs to know soon so she can begin working with your father about this issue. Many couples seek counseling to help open the communication lines when things like this come about so you may want to throw that out there when you express your concerns to your mother.
I am sure you love your mother and are grateful that she is in your life. This is a time in which you need to be as helpful as possible and tell her about what you've uncovered. Express your concerns to her, tell her your opinions, and help her figure out a good plan of action.
I hope all goes well with your family and things get settled in the right manner.
]
Broken Record right here.
but talk to ur father and tell him you think this- and that ur pretty sure he is cheating. and see what he says and if he denies it be like "well just think if you are and Mom finds out she's gunna leave hence last time, and I wont have my Mom or my little sister... and I was just wondering because I love them and you. And I know that you've learned."
Dont yell at him! play the guilt trip.. be the loving daughter he always has.. =]
hope i helped.
and i hope everything works out. and if doesnt the way you hope just now everything happens for a reason...
]
i know that this is probably the last thing you want to hear but, you should talk to your dad. make sure you tell him everything your feeling and everything that you heard. Tell him that you know that he is cheating and tell him that it isn't okay. you were already without a mom once and you don't want to loose your[step]mom. Get your point across and if you can't talk to your dad then talk to an adult,teacher, or school counselor that you trust. Make sure if your going to tell that someone that they can help you. best of luck.
]
wow, that's a tough situation.
I would definetly talk to your dad. It sounds like something everyone would say, but right now that's the only thing you can do. Talk to your dad about what's going on. Tell him, that when he does this, he will not only be hurting your mom's feeling, but yours as well.
I wish I knew how old you were. I don't think your mother would do that to you. She seems caring to me and it seems like you apprciate her alot. She took you even if you have no relation to he, which shows that she loves you and takes care of you.
I think after you talk to your dad wait and see what he does. You are still young and it's not your fault nor your responsibility to take matters into your own hands.
Good luck. hope for the best :)
]
Wow, the situation you are in is horrible, and I'm sorry for it. Now, this may sound bizzare, but I think you need to talk to your dad about this. If you cant tell him, then you should go to your step/mom, clarify how you feel about her, that you dont want her to leave, and tell her. She does have a right to know, it is her marriage, and her life too, you might not want to hurt her, but keeping if from her could hurt her more. But, you do need to talk to someone, you're still young, and you shouldnt have to worry about something like this.
Hope I've helped.
]
More Questions: |