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Hey, I'm Anthony. I am a sophmore in high school. I play the accordion, and music is my passion. I also love photography. I'm here mainly because people tell me I give great advice, and sometimes I need a little too. Thanks. Hope I can help you.
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17/f
For about four months I've been going out with a really nice guy. I do somewhat like him, but he likes me a LOT more than I like him. He's really sweet but, to be honest, I'm bored.
Is this a reason to dump him, or should I stick it out and see what happens?
As the other person said, try doing different things with him, keep an open mind about the relationship, and about your feelings for him, they could grow.
But, if you really are unhappy, then you should dump him. You need to do what is best for you, and not for anyone else. It sounds quite selfish, but sometimes we need to just think of ourselves.
Hope I've helped. =)
15/m
ok i've been on and off about this a couple times i'm not sure if i am in love ok well she's one of my best friends and i think about her A LOT and whenever i see her or talk to her i get butterflies and i dream about her constantly (not wet dreams)lol and when i hear a love song i think about her and sometimes cry so is it true love?
Hi, so I'm also 15/m, and I know exactly what you're saying. Just recently got out of a relationship because of the..problem you are having. We thought we loved each other, but in reality, we didn't love each other, only what we wanted the relationship to be, if that makes any sense. I'm not advising you to get pessimistic about it or anything like that. Just, go slow, you're still young! Don't claim you love her, if you aren't sure.
Test out the relationship, go easy, and see where it takes the two of you. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn't, then it was an experiance for the both of you.
Hope I've helped.
ANY suugestions or help is appreciated!
Okay.
I KNOW I'm a great kisser. I'm not being vein I'm saying what my ex still says and current bf says. I dont talk to my ex anymore btw lol!
But anyway,
TJ, my bf, is an awesome kisser, so as you can imagine the making out is good for both of us, awesome + awesome=WOW.
But....
I made out with hm for the first time Friday and it was good, even he admitted it.
But....
How can I make it better?
Bear in mind we aren't having sex and won't unless we get married.
TJ is actually one of those 'one and a million, hold on to him if you're lucky enough to find one of those' guys.
What things really turn a guy on when it comes to that, or ANYTHING!
I can be a tease if I want and a VERY superb flirt, so no troubles there.
SO PLEASE HELP!
This is funny, cause i just answered a question like this, but I love when the girl sits on me and makes out w. me. Also, I like when she grabs the back of my head and teases me a little bit, it doesnt have to be sexual. Just go with what you feel is right, and it should work out for you.
I need help. Every time i try to tell my parents or friends that i want to kill myself, no one believes me.
Heyy,
Suicide does not solve anything, and please don't ignore this. But, I think you need to talk to someone else, instead of your parents, go to another trusted adult, like a family friend, someone at school, you can even seek out a doctor yourself, if that is what you want. It is not the end, and dont think so, every life matters. I'm here for you, if you need someone to talk to, seriously. Don't be afraid to reach out.
Hope I helped. =)
why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs?
You'd be suprised how little of a percent of guys yu are talking about. Yeah, that is what the stereotypical male young adult does, but that's not many.
But, to answer your question, it would be because its an ego-boost to us guys.
Partying and doing drugs: We like to have fun, and we want to lose ourself in our problems. I personally dont do this, but I know some people that do. And it isnt any way to live. I think they do it because they dont know how to deal with anything theyre feeling.
Sleeping with a lot of girls: Well, to me, this is obvious. To a guy, its the biggest ego-boost. Afterwards, they think theyre a "tough guy" and a "man" but they dont know anything. They want to be that "man" because they probably think that as a "man" nothing can bother them, and their problems will just go away.
Guys arent totally insensitive, they do certain things because they just dont know how to deal with what theyre feeling, but sometimes they do stupid things.
my boyfriend is really annoying and i want to break up with him but im not sure what to say bc i just know that he will probably like start crying or soemthing haha. but i want to do something to make him mad or get in a fight just so it will be easier but im not sure i just need help!
Fighting wont help, and honestly, if he starts crying, then he needs to grow up, and grow a pair. I think you need to just talk to him, and tell him why you're breaking up with him. Just talk to him, its not as hard or difficult as you think.
I have just found out that my father is cheating on my mother.
This isn't the first time.
My mom came very close to catching him but things were okay after some time and now its happening again.
I was going to use the phone,and when I turned it on,I heard my dad saying the groses thing[if you know what I mean]
I can't believe it!!
My moms been wanting to have another baby for like 5years and now my dads cheating.
I can't stop shaking.
After what happened the last time I know I CANNOT tell my mom.
But what do I do,I can't let this go.
See,when I was a few days old as a baby the women who gave birth to me abandoned my and my dad.When I was 3 my dad married my mom[step mom]and she's been there for me as a mother ever since.
If she found out she'd probrably take my little sister[shes 6yers old]and leave.Then I once again won't have a mother anymore.And I can't let that happen.
So what do I do?
Wow, the situation you are in is horrible, and I'm sorry for it. Now, this may sound bizzare, but I think you need to talk to your dad about this. If you cant tell him, then you should go to your step/mom, clarify how you feel about her, that you dont want her to leave, and tell her. She does have a right to know, it is her marriage, and her life too, you might not want to hurt her, but keeping if from her could hurt her more. But, you do need to talk to someone, you're still young, and you shouldnt have to worry about something like this.
Hope I've helped.
I am very depressed and suicidal and very upset and I thought I had friends but I guess not.I just want to cope with it and not care. I just don't want to do anything crazy over these assholes but I just need a way to cope. can anyone please give me some help or advice?
My personal way of coping, is putting on my ipod, singing along miserably, and I like to write. I write poems alot. And I'm even writing my "story" if you want to call it that, so I can just let everything thing out, and get it down on paper. Its up to you though, whatever your niche is. Maybe its taking a walk, playing a game, working out, listening to music, drawing, etc.. Whatever it is, find what you like, express yourself, and let it out. Or if you're really serious, you can talk to someone about it.
Hope I've helped.
Well im 15 years old,and im a freshman.
I've got friends,its not like im friendless but it just seems like my friends don't consider me as important as everyone else.
Like they would consider me ,like a third wheel type thing.
And I used to think that i was just seeing things but im not just seeing things.
For example,everyone will be in a talking circle and someone will say something and everyone will listen and then when I say something,it will get completely ignored.
Also,not many people would actually call me and invite me somewhere,i'd kinda have to ask.
I think it's because im not involved in anything amazing like cheerleading or you know.
I also have never had a boyfriend,but im not that ugly,i think im just not that important.
And everyones smoking and i just don't know what to do anymore.
I'm also an only child so i kinda don't have older siblings to show me around.
Help please?
I'm a sophmore in highschool, and I can tell you that last year, was kind of a blur. I didnt find my real friends until this year. Don't worry about these "friends" because to me, they dont seem like true friends. Try not to get overwhelmed by this, everyone finds their niche and where they belong, you will too. I went through the same thing last year, and now, I have friends that I know will last a lifetime. Just dont try to fit in. That is the worst. You'll fit in where you are meant to. And please dont give into the peer pressures, it doesnt help.
Just be yourself, and you'll find your way. Just dont get overwhelmed.
Hope I've helped.
My mom died 7 months ago, almost 8. but it feels like yesterday. im 15 going on 16 next may.
i was just wondering if anyone around my age has lost a parent as well. feel free to talk to me if so!
Hey,
I'm not in your exact position, but about a week before Christmas '07, my step-father died of a 4 year battle with cancer. I'm also 15, I'll be 16 in September. But believe me, I too feel like it was yesturday, I can't get the images out of my head, since it wasn't a sudden death or easy goodbye. I watched him die for months. But I think I've learned to deal with it a little. I'm here for you, if you want to talk. You can email me or IM me: AntF921.
Anthony. =)
15/f
K this guy i know his name's jake and we've been friends for about 2 years but we weren't that close until this semester. I think he likes me cuz everytime we see eachother/say goodbye we hug and he'll always kinda glance at me from across the room.and like the other day he was in mid sentence then just wrap his arms around me out of no where and we hugged. i'm the only girl on his top 12 friends and his friends say that i'm actually the only girl he hugs that much. we flirt alot and i love his personality cuz he was the shoulder i leaned on when i heard my ex cheated on me. We have alot in common too!
i just don't know how to tell him i like him. i'm kinda scared that he might not like me but i'm kinda sure he does by the way he acts.
so how do i tell him and does it seem like he likes me?
thank you =]
It does sound like he like you, to me. But, you want to be sure, so try to hint it to him at first. Be out of the ordinary, instead of hugging him, kiss him? Maybe not a full out kiss, but a kiss on the cheek, or neck? Neck would do it for me. But, your best bet would be just to talk to him, write him a letter, or just ask him casually in conversation. Some guys like to be suprised and swept off their feet, he sounds like he might be that type of guy. Just talk, flirt, and be yourself.
Hope I've helped.
Okay so...theres this guy I'm interested in, (I'm 14 and he's 15) and we've been talking alot lately, more than a month. We have ALOT in common, and its always easy to talk to him. He said he would like to hang out with me but, I don't really know if he likes me. I heard from someone that he said he likes me but he hasn't told me himself. I don't want to tell him I like him, because if he doesn't like me back then he might want to be friends with me. I feel like I'm in fifth grade again, ugh.
Help?
Since you're young still, and you've only been talking about a month, I'm going to say don't get too caught up in it, and in your emotions. But what I am going to say is that don't believe other people, you need to hear it from him, and hang out with him. You never know what might happen. Just act normal and be yourself, have fun, you're still young!
Hope I helped. =)
19/f
My boyfriend always thinks I'm cheating on him. In reality, I haven't even spoken to a male in about a year (besides my dad).
He has his reasons because I cheated on around a year ago, but I guess he doesn't understand that I've changed. He is severely paranoid. If I don't answer my phone but call back less than ten minutes afterwards, he assumes I was with a guy. He always asks where I am, who I'm with, and I have to tell him where I'm going all the time (that is, IF I ever go anywhere).
The thing is, it's like he won't let me break up with him. When we first started going out, we would break up all the time and get back together. He thinks it's always going to be this way. It seems like the only way this will end is if one of us dies (that may sound like I'm going to kill him but I assure you that's not what I'm saying!)
The only other way I see this is if I were to cheat on him, because he would never cheat on me. After all these years, I'm surprised he hasn't. But I don't want to cheat on him! I love him so much, but I'm so tired of being in a relationship. Just looking a guy makes me sick. I can't do this anymore.
Well, yesterday he was upset with me as usual, so I just shut my phone off all day. He assumed that I was cheating on him.
I know this isn't the right way to go, but it seems like the only way out. BUT I don't want him to believe a lie, thinking that I cheated on him.
Then again, I don't want to go through all the effort of trying to convince him. I'm just sick and tired of it. In my heart, I want to be with him, but I know he won't change. I can't live like this anymore (no, I'm not suicidal).
Maybe we'll have a chance together in the future, but we probably won't be the same people as we used to be. Plus, I'm a jealous person by nature, and I will go crazy if he is with other people.
So, how do I go about this? Or what would you do if you were me in this situation?
Thanks in advance.
I'm going to start out by saying this is a very unhealthy relationship. Relationships and love are meant to be built of on trust, not fear, jealousy, or curiosity. From what I understand, there isn't much trust between the two of you.
I personally think you need to get out of the situation. If he gets as jealous and angry as you say he does, that may lead to other abusive acts. It is a tricky thing to try to say, but jealous people can be so filled with anger and jealousy that they would do anything to feel better.
As to how I think you should get out of the situation; I really think you need to just make a clean break. You may love him, but is the love you think you have at 19 (I'm not saying you don't love him), but is that love worth the pain, and emotional upheaval? You need to sit down with him, tell him exactly why you are leaving him, lying would make him evem more angry, and tell him that maybe you guys can have another chance in the future, but you really need your space and sanity now.
Hopefully I can help you.
What are some things girls can do to a guy to really turn him on while you guys are making out.
Hope that made sense.
I will rate or whatever. Lol
Hey,
So, I like when she sits on me, and makes out w. me, but that may lead to other things. Also, I like when she touches my face and idk, its kinda weird, but it turns me on.
Hope I helped. =)
ok the guy I've been liking for a year now has another girlfriend. we're actually pretty good friends. but whenever i see him with his girlfriend in school i get really down and depressed the rest of the day. i know he really likes her and i don't want to tear the relationship apart but what is some way i can get him more interested in me and make him like me more than "just a friend." i don't want to seem like a bitch for trying to destroy their relationship. i kinda want it to just break by nature.
I would just try to put yourself out there more, if you know what I mean. Like be more social with him, talk a lot, and most of all, be flirty! haha yeah, it works believe me..it's happened to me, if he realizes that you are giving him moer "attention" then he might get feelings that start to grow...so try it....hope ive helped!
My boyfriend and I fight all of the time and he says that I don't show him I care. Im always all over him and say the nicest things to him but i dont know what else to do? does anyone know anything that can help me show him that i care so much!
Hey, sounds like your boyfriend doesnt trust you all that much. There isnt really anything else you can do. Sit down and talk with him, tell him how you feel and that you do care for him. If he says that you just dont care, then i think it is time for you to dump him and move on, because obviously he just doesnt care, and he is just, for lack of a better term, blind.
I had a really bad reputation at school, until 8th grade, when I got "pretty".
During this year, I liked this popular guy, and he liked me back.
But, he was too ashamed to admit it. I'm letting him slide for this one, because in all truth, if the weirdest kid in school liked me as well, then I probably wouldn't put that out in the forefront.
He also made a lot of excuses. He went out with this blond, model type girl, that he absolutely HATED, because she was obsessed with him. And, when I asked him straight up if he liked me, he'd go "I don't want a girlfriend, because you have to buy them things".
Stupid crap like that.
Now, this year, things are different. I'm well-liked by most people (except his friends, who despise me.)
Earlier this year, he would try and talk to me, and become friends with me again.
Now, he doesn't really try. He just stares at me, and when I look back, he has this really hard look on his face.
I'm pretty sure he regrets his decision, but why won't he just say so?
I don't know why I still like him, after all he's done to me, but I do.
I just want him to talk to me. To say sorry. To tell me what's going on. This "issue" has been going on for two years now, and it's about to go into three if I don't do something soon.
Last two weeks of school.
Guys, what's his problem? What should I do, or say?
Ok, so I'm a guy so I pretty much know what his problem is...
Guys hate admiting that they are wrong. Personally, I could careless, I mean I'm not afraid or ashamed of admiting that i was wrong. But, thats probably what his problem is. If you really want an answer from him, and if you really want to settle this with him, chances are that you are probably going to have to confront him first. I know that may suck for you, but that is just the way some guys are, they could be the biggest jocks, but they are just scared to admit that they're wrong. So, that's what I'd do. Confront him first, ask him whats up with your "issue" and see where it goes from there.
Hope I've Helped!
15/f. since your a guy i thought i'd ask you for your opinion on this :]
there is this guy in the grade below me that i really like. my one friend in his grade tells me all the time that he likes me. and then on friday we had a school field trip and he was in my group and we sat next to each other for everything and 3 people even asked if we were gf & bf. like he always suttely compliments me, sits next to me, looks for me at school in hallways or assemblys, and is just extremely nice.
so i'm sure your thinking okay everything sounds good, now why don't you ask him out. well heres the problem, actually its a BIG problem. he has a girlfriend. but she is in my grade at a different school so i haven't met her before. now i know its mean to hope that they break up so i can have him, but i have a hard time not wanting that. plus idk if they even hang out much anymore because he is always hanging out with me and my other friends.
so what can i do? he acts like he likes me but he has a gf?
THANKS SO MUCH :]
i've asked girls this before, but i wanted a guy's take on this.
Hi. I know almost exactly the position you are in, just switch the positions. I have really liked this girl for a while, but she likes a different guy. But we are like perfect together and we're always flirting and w.e.. But back to your question...I would suggest telling him how you feel, because I know if i was in his position, I would respect the fact that you laid out your feelings, and you told him how you felt. Even though he has a girlfriend, he is going to have to make a choice. As I said, if I was in his shoes and I had a girlfriend but liked you, and you told me that you liked me, then I would greatly respect you and think even better of you because you stepped up and even though I have a girlfriend, you still were shy about your feelings. So thats what I suggest to do, I would just sit down with him, and have a good heart to heart talk, start off with the basics, like hi, how was your day, and that stuff. But, then go to like how is your girlfriend, and then be like, I really need to get something off of my chest and if you dont feel the same way, then thats ok, but I still wanna be friends. Be nice about it and dont jump right in and say I like you. Also, it isnt wrong for you to want him to break up with his gf for you, that is how you know that your feelings are real, and that you arent just infatuated with him.
So I hope I've helped!! Good Luck!
Hi i'm a teenage girl who has given up on relationships and everything else in life.
Before i commit suicide i want to have a hookup with someone.
How do I go about getting a hookup with a guy who won't hurt me or abuse me?
thx
Hey. Suicide, definately never helps a siuation. Even if you think your life sucks, there are worse people out there, I happen to know a few firsthand. So please, don't kill yourself, because even if you think no one cares about you, there is someone who will miss oyu and they do love you. Please do not give up, I know I've wanted to before, but I never gave in, I always held on for the better. Secondly, I dont think you are going to be able to hook up with a guy who isnt going to abuse and use you. I am a guy so I personally know how we think. If we can get sex, then we're probably gonna take it every chance we get. So, hold off on that, take more chances in life, build real loving relationships with people, and take everything a day at a time. Don't give up hope, it never helps. Talk to someone you love and can trust. Or even talk to a complete stranger, and just live. Be yourself, don't give, live life to the fullist, because if you don't, you could end up regreting it one day.
ok so i have this step dad who has a son who's my age (15). He walked in on my boyfriend and me making out in my room and he screamed at me and grounded me for a month. Then two weeks later he caught my step brother getting a blowjob from his girlfriend and my step dad just laughed and said, "boys will be boys" and walked away. Then my boyfriend gave me a hug after school and my step dad was picking me up and he yelled at me and grounded me for another month! I spotted my step bro kissing some girl i had never met and my step dad just gave him a high five! I tried talking to my mom, but she has been really sick lately and doesnt talk much. Is this fair??? what should i do???
Ok, so I have almost been in your position myself. I have a stepfather who can be very unfair sometimes. I personally, would tell him to go screw himself. If your stepbrother is getting blowjobs and he gets praised for it, but you're only only making out and getting grounded, then he isn't being fair. But, I may be looking to far into this, because he may think that girls are more vulnerable than boys because he knows how boys think. But personally, I DO think he is being a jerk and just tell him to go shove it, and if he has a problem with that, remind him, he's NOT your father, he CANNOT tell you what to do.