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coping methods
why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs?
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You'd be suprised how little of a percent of guys yu are talking about. Yeah, that is what the stereotypical male young adult does, but that's not many.
But, to answer your question, it would be because its an ego-boost to us guys.
Partying and doing drugs: We like to have fun, and we want to lose ourself in our problems. I personally dont do this, but I know some people that do. And it isnt any way to live. I think they do it because they dont know how to deal with anything theyre feeling.
Sleeping with a lot of girls: Well, to me, this is obvious. To a guy, its the biggest ego-boost. Afterwards, they think theyre a "tough guy" and a "man" but they dont know anything. They want to be that "man" because they probably think that as a "man" nothing can bother them, and their problems will just go away.
Guys arent totally insensitive, they do certain things because they just dont know how to deal with what theyre feeling, but sometimes they do stupid things.
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I think generally speaking guys do that because they are raised not to show their feelings. To "be touhg" and "to be men". Also the media pressures them to party off their problems and drink and do girls instead of crying and expressing themseleves. So some of them grow up without even KNOWING how to deal with their feelings and drugs and loose women seem like such a convinient temporary solution... but they get addicted to that lifestyle. They keep partying and taking drugs and sleeping around so that the pain goes away and doing it so much so that they don;t even stop to feel that pain for a second.
Of course, not all boys do that. And some girls do it too.
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You should have asked why do SOME guys choose to do these things. I know a lot of guys who DON'T use parties, sex, or drugs to deal with their problems.
And Matt is right, girls do it to. Girls are just as guilty of being destructive to themselves as guys are.
WHY theses people choose to do it? Who knows? I'd think it's different for different people.
-Laura. (15-f)
EDIT: My school has major issues with drugs AND drinking, so don't think I don't know what I'm talking about, because I do.
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I asked my boyfriend the same thing. He told me the reason he likes to drink and do drugs when he has problems is because for a brief time he can forget. When he is on drugs or drunk he can't feel the pain inside and it gives him a break from everything he is feeling. He doesn't sleep with girls but I have a theory why they do that. I think they sleep with girls for many reasons depending on the guy. Some guys do it for a control factor, some for revenge, and some to help their self esteem. I think it is mostly control. If they feel like their lives are out of control they may think making the decision to sleep around will help because they can control it. It's like people who cut themselves...they do it because that is the only way they feel they can control the pain.
There is very little chance you can get someone to stop this and it sucks... but just try to be there for them just in case something happens and if something happens to them they might realize that it isn't the best thing to do.
hope I helped!
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Well coming from my view, alot of guys today think it's the "Cool" thing to do. Alot of them are unclean, constantly unsatisifed, and are unhappy with themselves so they act these ways as a temporary get happy method. But me on the other hand, stay away from the bad habbits because in the long run it makes you worse than what you were feeling to begin with.
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A way to escape problems.
And you know full well that it's not only guys that do it, so don't bother excluding females from this problem.
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Because they're immature and selfish and disrespectful. Guys who do this are displaying only their inability to grow up and take some responsibility.
Guys will sometimes be that way, unfortunately. MEN, on the other hand, deal with their problems by solving them.
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Young men want to be thought of as a somebody so whatever type of friends they have they want to prove to the others that they measure up. This is from poor self esteem. The ones that don't do that have a better understanding of the real world and there are far less of those. Think of guys like going to the store. Don't buy everything you see. Pick up each piece of fruit and examine it. Check for bruises and defects. The better produce is almost always at the better stores. Don't get tricked by fancy labeling. Read the nutrition label on the side. Make sure the ingredients are wholesome and nutritious. And last of all, don't buy what you don't need. A poorly chosen relationship will end up souring in your stomach. Stick to friends that share your values. Relationships can be started at any time but it's hard to end a bad one quickly.
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well when guys have problems in there life alot of time they just want to forget about them. Partying, sleeping with girls and drugs are there way of dealing. they do those things cause those are things they think they can control.
if u have any other questions, please ask.
hope i hlped =]
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