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i have no idea who i am. that sounds weird but like i dont know waht i like and what i dont. i feel like i do things to please other people but i dont know if i like it or dont. i mean it can be as simple as is i like what im eating. ANYTHING. basically i dont know myself, and when people say just be yourself i dont know what myself is... ugh its fustrating.
im 15/f if that counts for anything.
and i really wouldnt like some help. (link)
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Aww, sweeite, you'rre very young. Not knowing who you are is not weird. Actualyl it is very common for people ypur age. During the teen years you are actualyl still findinf yourself.
Through exepriences you will find the person you are. Your parents give you morals but you will see the world and make your own inferences and create your own ethics. You will make mistakes and at times dissapoint yourself but by observing yourself and thinking about the things you want you will slowly discover who you are and who you want to be.
Don't just find yourself - creat yourself. Experiment. Try out different hobbies - sports, art, poetry, academic clubs, playing an instrument etc. You may enjoy many of these things but you will find some things make you feel happier and focus on what makes you happiest. Same for clothes and food, experiment, You will find you like things that are unqiue and that you would have never tried before.
Don't worry, during the next years you will find yourself and create yourself. Eve f you don't want to, with every chance you take or accomplismeant you reac or every mistake you make you will klearn more about yourself and decide who you want to be and find yourself and make yourself.
Good luck ^_^
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why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs? (link)
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I think generally speaking guys do that because they are raised not to show their feelings. To "be touhg" and "to be men". Also the media pressures them to party off their problems and drink and do girls instead of crying and expressing themseleves. So some of them grow up without even KNOWING how to deal with their feelings and drugs and loose women seem like such a convinient temporary solution... but they get addicted to that lifestyle. They keep partying and taking drugs and sleeping around so that the pain goes away and doing it so much so that they don;t even stop to feel that pain for a second.
Of course, not all boys do that. And some girls do it too.
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ok me and my ex is cool with eachother and we always talk so
i asked him
me: would you ever go out with me again?
my ex:idk....
my ex: but i might miss you
What does that mean? i dont really have any feelings for him i like him as my friend
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I don't think you should worried.
It seems like your ex is trying to move on.
He will miss you. And you will probably miss him. That doesn' mean you have feelings for each other... it jsut means you had nice memories and there are points in your lfie wheny ou think fot he people you have known.
Do you like the Beatles/ Have you heard a song called In My Life? If you haven't I suggest you look up the lyrics right now.
You will both find new loves but you will always have the memory of eac other. Not because you're seretely in love with each other. JUst because it's in your past... And sometimes looking back at your relationshop with youe ex doesn't mean you miss him or her... it means you miss being young and you miss your youth and the person you were and the things you did.
Also... I don't think your ex has feelings for you anymore either... at least not strong feelings. Maybe mixed feelings. At leats based on what you said. Because he didn't say he woudl go out with you... and he didn't say he would miss you... he said he didn't know if he would go ot with you and that he MIGHT miss you. That to me means that even though you will always be someone special-in-a-way to him, he will move on.
I hope I helped and I hope everything turns out as you wish it so :-)
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14/f
for anyone willing to answer:
When do you know when to let go?
thank youu =] x0 (link)
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Let go? Meaning letting SOMEONE go or letting SOMETIGN go?
If it's SOMEONE...
You should let go when holding on becomes too painful or too difficult for either you or the other person. When holding on takes more from one of you or both of you than it gives. When it becomes either emotionally or socially or mentaly exhuasting and it is not worht it or... you have other more important priorities.
Does thta make sense?
If it's SOMETHING...
Unfortunately you can't decide to let it go so easily. You have to push yourself. Think about how you have hurt others and you wish you could take it back and you wish they would forgive you. Letting things go will make you feel better (maybe not right away but eventually). The sonner the better.
I hope I was of help to you. To be honest I am not completely sure I understood the question or you understood the answer. If I failed to address the question or if you didn't understand the answer feel free to send me a message and ask me again and add any comments or questions or details and I will do my best to further explain!
Have a nice day!!! ^_^
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14/M
After I ask a girl out (hopefully I get a response yes) what do I say?
-I'm not gonna say "awesome thx so much" Im not that stupid, but I'm not smart enough to think of what to say next. Any advice is appreciated.
***PLEASE RESPOND USING CORRECT GRAMMER*** (link)
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Are you asking her out or asking her to be with you? Or, does it make no differnece ikn your case?
If you are literally asking her out then...
You: D you want to go out with em sometime?
Her: Oh... um, yeah.
You: Cool. How about the movies? (or wherever you want to take her)
OR instead you can just say
YOU: Cool. Um, can I have your phone number so we can talk more about where we shoud go?
If you want to ask her out meaning you want to ask her to be with you then maybe you should say somnething like
Hey, want to hang out tomorrow during nutrition or afterschool? (that's an example)
Basically after she says yes, you havr to follow up. Ask her whereshe would like to go and when she can go out with you or hang out. Or get her number so you can talk more later :-)
Hope I was helpful.
And I hope she says yes too :-)
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I am very depressed and suicidal and very upset and I thought I had friends but I guess not.I just want to cope with it and not care. I just don't want to do anything crazy over these assholes but I just need a way to cope. can anyone please give me some help or advice? (link)
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You need to find a way to express and release your feelings. A healthy way... without hurting yourself or others. Things that help me are writing (poetry, stories, diary entries, speeches, etc.) and meditating.
Some people like artwork or playing an instrument.. so you may want to learn a new hobby (one that yu are interested) and if you're good at it, use it as a way to release your stress. Or you may want to stick to the things you already know and love to do for fun but that really represents who you are.
Another thing I suggest is theraphy. I went to theraphy and it helped me. I never took any medication. I was never diagnosed with any chemical imbalance or disorder of any sort. Just having someone there who will listen to you colpletely, even the stories about a boy or girl you like, or about arguments you have with your parents, and someone who cares is very helpful. However, do not take theraphy unless you are actually willing to accept that kind of help. If you just go but you're clsed minded and don't cooaporate and refuse to talk or share your feelings it will be a waste of time.
Finally... I advice turning your life around. Get a make over. Dress up. Go shpping and to the library and just dtrsact yourself. Join a club. Play truth or dare. Take a chance. Walk up to a cute boy/girl or a cool person and befriend them. And from now on make sure to surround yourself with positive friends who care about you and who will help you move foward andbetter yourself.
I hope you feel better. Don't worry, everyhting will be okay, I promise.
*hug*
sorry if can't be of much help. I am lucky I hsad a caring therapist and I was willing to let her in but it realy did work for me and turned my life around. Good luck! ^_^
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I have a girlfriend that i have been with about 3 years who i'm moving in with in Augest. She's Graduating in June and i need some ideas on what's a good "Graduation Gift" for the one you love?
Thanks (link)
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What if you got her a trip or a romantic get away of some sort? Maybe the two of you can go away for the weekend to a nice resourt by the beach or to Vegas or some place nice...
A necklace or a pendant would be nice.
I guess you didn't go to the same high school as she did, right? If you did then maybe you couild give her your class ring (if you have one)
An Ipod / MP3 player
A notebook computer for college
A digital camera
whatever you give her, make sure it comes with some flowers :-)
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15/f
I sometimes get cat calls, or get honked at or looked at. i was wondering, what is the best way to react to it? I always just keep walking, pretending i didn't hear it. I don't get flattered by any of this because i know guys would do this to any girl they see pass by...right? how do you usually react when this happens to you? am i reacting the way they want me to? (link)
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Well most f the guys who do cat calls are old and/or ugly...
Ignore them. Don't respond and don't smile or wave. That will only make them think you are interested and they can start harrasing you and be annoying Or dangerous. Don't fliP them off or say mean things either because they can get pissed off and become dangerous.
If a guy whsitles or honks, ignore them. HOWEVER, if you're walking alone and a car has one or more guys and stops to talk to you, not only should you ignore them but get our your cell phone and call someone - ANYONE and walk faway from the car as fast as possible, perferably to some place where there is people. That way they will see you are NOT interested and get scared you might call the police if they try something.
Cat calls are one thing but be careful because there are a lot of perverts out there that want to do more than give you a cat call.
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im 16 and i have a little bit of a lisp. every once in a while i get made fun of it either behind my back and sometimes to my face. even my friends have asked me to repeat certain words because i "say them funny". i dont find it funny at all because its something i cant control. i hate reading in class and this problem is making it so i loose confidence in myself when im talking to someone and i get really nervous when i have to speak out loud in class. i dont really know how long ive had a lisp. my orthodontist said i had a problem where i pushed my tongue against my bottom teeth, and she put metal prongs on the back of my teeth so i wouldnt put my tongue there. this could have caused this. but i need to fix it. i dont even want to hear about speech therapy, because i refuse to do it. i dont want to ask my parents because im embaressed of it, and i dont want anyone to find out if i was going. also i dont know if id be able to afford it right now. any advice at all would be nice i guess (link)
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I have a lisp too ^_^
it's light. some people notice it and some don't.
i like it but my drama teacher suggested i get rid of it s that people wll take me seriosly... because a lisp can make su sund childish.
well since i have a lisp i completely understand :-)
how to get rid of your lisp:
record yourself speaking. no one has to know, do it in private. even celll phone cal record. it is very helpful to hear yourself speak because you learn how to CONTROL and manipulate your voice. It will tae patience and lots of practice but I know from experience it works :-) You will eventually learn how to talk WITHOUT alis and how t talk WITH a lisp :-)
You just have to speak normally and record it, listen to yourself, and speak again, but slightly modifying your voice by speaking more carefully and placing your tounge in adifferent place in your mouth and your lisp will eventually be under your control.
another tip is to bit a pencil sideways.... well hold a pencil in front of you, horizontal, parallel to your mouth so that the tip and the eraser are NOT facing your mouth. then open your mouth and push the pencil in. the tips should keep the pencil from actually going in, and stop it in your jaw. bite it and talk. this will keep your tounge in place so that you don't speak witha lisp. this will also take great patience and practice.
lastly, you can always join a drama class. they d amny speaking excercises and relaxing exercises to help you take complete control of your body.
I hope I was helpful. By the way, youshould not be embarrased by your lisp especially from your parents. They probably alread know you have a lisp and obviously that doesn't chage how they fel about you. Personally I think lisps are cute. As for how you got it... any chance you have a second first language? My first language is Spanish. I guess that's how I got it. the funny thign is that when I speak SPanish my lisp goes away ^_^ It really is in the placement of the tounge... but i like to joke that having a lisp makes us good french kissers ;-) although i personally think french kissing is yucky and gross but hey, people are impressed lol.
Well good luck!
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If you had the name Glessy, what nicknames would you give her? [i also prefer funny ones but its okay]
GLESSY is is the name. It can also be Glessida. (link)
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Chessy Gleesy :-D
McGlessy
Gless
Gigi
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okay so i really like my boyfriend and we are always kissing but its kinda getting old how do i spark it up physically with out having sex of any kind??? (link)
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I would suggest to stop kissing so much. At leats for a little bit. Talk more and flirt and roleplay and be silly. Flirt... hold hands... dress up for each other. You can kiss once or twice but not a lot. Just once and pull way. That way you will want to kiss each other and when you finally do it won't be so boring.
Dress up for each other, flirt, and take time t know each other. You can never know each other too much, Take time to be sweet to each other. You find it that when you're emotionally sweet to each other the kissing becomes... part of it... but it's not boring because it's not motivated by the physical part of the relationship. It's motivated by the emotina part of it.
I hope I could help and I hope things get funner :-)
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I just want suggestions on cute baby names for boys and girls. Thanks. Leave as many as possible. (link)
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Boys:
Efran
Padraic
Damien
Alex
Alec
Girls:
Heidi
Marylin
Rosie
Iris
Evelyn
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kay so im running for student body in a week or so, and i still dont know what i should do for my speech? I want it to be fun and creative, something that no one else will come up with! The speeches can be up to 2 minutes long..and we need to cover what we want to do and why we should be elected. I want to include those things, but not in a boring, telly way. If you know what i mean. lol any suggestions?? (link)
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Be funny. Throw in a joke or two. Have one of your friends carry a funny sign and walk around when you say you're speach. One of my friends ran from student body presdient and she got one of our friends to carry a sign that said ALICE IS GANGSTA and walk around below the stage while she did her speech. That's just an example. Something that will make the people laugh. When it coems to student body candidates I usually vote for whoever makes me laugh :-)
And also, use a quote. Save the quote for the end. I don't have any quotes in the top of my head but as an example, at the nd of your speech you can say "finally, in the words of JFK, one of the greatest Presdents of Amercia, ask not what (school name) can do for you, but what you can do for (school name)." Of course don't use THAT quote because it's not relevant. It depends on what your speech says but definitely use a quote in the end :-)
www.quotegarden.com (you may want to try this website for quotes, if interested)
Oh! And you know wha else... maybe you should thtrow lollypops at the end of your speech. Just carry a purse or a suitcase and at the end of your speech, after yu said the quote, just throw the lollypops and say VOTE FOR ME! l.o.l. ^_^
Good luck with the election!
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14/M
I hang out with this girl alot. We go to the mall with other people very often, and we also go to movies. I like her, and I want to ask her out, but I have absolutely no clue when/how. I think she likes me but I'm not totally sure. I'm also quite positive she'd say yes, but thats not my main concern; its actually asking the question.
Any advice? (link)
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Well... first of all, whatever you do make sure you DON'T ask her out on the phone OR on myspace. It's tacky and... a huge turn off. We're likelier to say no if you can't eevn ask us out in person.
Second... don't say "do you want to GET with me?" Also tacky and even if we say yes we'll secretly be unhappy with how you asked. Say "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" It's sweeter and more respectful.
When... well you should do it when you two are alone. That way it will be more intimate and she won't have to worry about everyone looking at her to see wha she's going to say. Also, you won't have to worry about it :-P
How... hmm, well that depends on you. It would be very swet if you could do it smewhere symbolic. Like the place where you first mer or her favorite restaurant or something. But simplicity is sweet too, like when you can wal her home and ask her on her porch... you know.... cute ^_^ Oh ym god, tiw ould be perfect if it were raining... but then you'd probably not be walking, lol.
Also, it would be reeeally sweet if you gave her a rose!
I hope I was helpful.
Good luck! I hope she says yes :-)
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18 years old, female.
my dad works with a younger guy about 25 or 26. i'll call him brent. so brent some how got my number and started texting me. i thought he was just trying to get on good terms with me so my dad wouldn't dislike him or anything. well now it's got to the point where he is saying i turn him on and how sexy he thinks i am. it's freaking me out a little bit. i usually just write back haha thanks or something like that. but here's the thing, he's engaged! and i have a boyfriend! should i stop all contact with him? i don't want to be disrespectful to his fiance or to my boyfriend. is this wrong being that my dad is his boss?? (link)
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Yes, stop talking to him. Do not reply to his text messages. If you reply, even if it's just to say "um... thanks... whatever" or "okay" he will just rext more and more. Ignore his messages and eventually he'll stop.
He's engaged and he's tryignt o flirt with you... and you're his bosses daugther - both things show HE is disrespectful, unprofessional, and probably not a good guy.
Also, think about how you would feel if your boyfriend got messages from a girl who was trying to flirt wiht him and he didn't stop talking to her. Even if you don't flirt back with him, the fact that you respond enables him to keep flirting with you.
Finally, you should tell your dad. Otherwise this guy will jsut keep harrasing you whenever he sees you and that will be very awkward... Show your dad the text messages and tell him to make the guy stop talking to you.
Good luck with your issue. And don't worry, you're not being disrespecftul and you won't be as long as you handle the situation properly now :-)
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