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dad's business partner
18 years old, female.
my dad works with a younger guy about 25 or 26. i'll call him brent. so brent some how got my number and started texting me. i thought he was just trying to get on good terms with me so my dad wouldn't dislike him or anything. well now it's got to the point where he is saying i turn him on and how sexy he thinks i am. it's freaking me out a little bit. i usually just write back haha thanks or something like that. but here's the thing, he's engaged! and i have a boyfriend! should i stop all contact with him? i don't want to be disrespectful to his fiance or to my boyfriend. is this wrong being that my dad is his boss??
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Hi,
Even if it wasn't someone your dad worked with, I'd still say to cut it off. He has a fiancee. And it's not a good idea to be at the center of a mess that he's trying to create. Also think about your own boyfriend. I don't think you should go behind him like that. This guy sounds shady. I'm not saying that in a different situation an a 26 year old might find you appealing,or that it's wrong to date an older guy, but this guy's going about it all wrong. He's not even free to date anyone. Definitely walk away before things go awry.
PS Being in a relationship with someone who works with your dad might make things awkward. Especially in this case.
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Yes, stop talking to him. Do not reply to his text messages. If you reply, even if it's just to say "um... thanks... whatever" or "okay" he will just rext more and more. Ignore his messages and eventually he'll stop.
He's engaged and he's tryignt o flirt with you... and you're his bosses daugther - both things show HE is disrespectful, unprofessional, and probably not a good guy.
Also, think about how you would feel if your boyfriend got messages from a girl who was trying to flirt wiht him and he didn't stop talking to her. Even if you don't flirt back with him, the fact that you respond enables him to keep flirting with you.
Finally, you should tell your dad. Otherwise this guy will jsut keep harrasing you whenever he sees you and that will be very awkward... Show your dad the text messages and tell him to make the guy stop talking to you.
Good luck with your issue. And don't worry, you're not being disrespecftul and you won't be as long as you handle the situation properly now :-)
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I agree with LaughoutLoud. Tell your dad.
I don't care who he is he needs to stop
harassing you. How smart is this guy
bugging the bosses daughter? Probably
smart enough to find a new job if he
needs to.
He is the only one being disrespectful here.
Not you. If it gets back to his fiance, let
him explain his actions. Not your problem.
Yes it is wrong. The guy is a jerk and
probably trying to be friends to get in good
with your dad.
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by telling him to stop or ending your conversations with him would be far from disrespectful. the disrespectful thing is what he's doing and also you not stopping him. he should not be flirting with anyone when he's engaged. i suggest you stop texting him or block him. if it becomes worse you can always tell your father which i'm sure will help cause fathers are very protective of their girls.
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Yes it is wrong. Stop all contact! However the right thing to do may be difficult. On the one hand you could simply tell him you would rather he didn't contact you any more. If he continues, tell him you would rather not have to get your dad involved but it is an option. The bigger deal would be that he is probably doing the same with other girls. I am having a hard time with that. Would I want someone to tell me if my fiancee was doing this? You bet! How would you feel after 2 years of marriage you found out he was doing this all along and your best friend knew it all along? You would freak out! So here you go. I would find a friend of a friend that Brent surely doesn't know and give them the lowdown. Have that friend contact her and that should solve the problem. Remember, if it gets ugly get your dad involved.By all means don't lie but you should avoid letting your dad know about your plan. Most likely he will confront Brent and then he will know who did it. That way he won't try and get back at you.
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I would tell your dad about it. Say that it started out innocently enough, just wanting to be on good terms with his co worker, and then he started to make you feel uncomfortable.
Along with telling your dad, I would stop contacting him. He IS being disrespectful to his FIANCE, who he's going to MARRY. It isn't as bad on your part, though, if you are not texting things like that back to him, which I'm assuming you are not.
I think it's much worse on his part, if he's in a committed relationship (not saying that you are not, I'm just trying to prove my point).
I hope this helps your situation.
-Laura. (15-f)
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