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No friends at the wrong time
I am very depressed and suicidal and very upset and I thought I had friends but I guess not.I just want to cope with it and not care. I just don't want to do anything crazy over these assholes but I just need a way to cope. can anyone please give me some help or advice?
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My personal way of coping, is putting on my ipod, singing along miserably, and I like to write. I write poems alot. And I'm even writing my "story" if you want to call it that, so I can just let everything thing out, and get it down on paper. Its up to you though, whatever your niche is. Maybe its taking a walk, playing a game, working out, listening to music, drawing, etc.. Whatever it is, find what you like, express yourself, and let it out. Or if you're really serious, you can talk to someone about it.
Hope I've helped.
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Whenever I'm in this situation, I turn to relaxing songs which help promote self-confidence in myself.
I used to be in this position myself, no friends to speak of, a loner and nobody cared for what I thought. But I changed all of that. I began to speak to other people, sat with them and began to include myself in their conversations and that was a big turn around for me.
That it what i surgest to you, go and sit with other people. That way, they can begin to notice you and care for you. And plus, you strengthen the bond of friendship between you or even create new ones.
It took a lot of confidence from me to take this step, but it was well worth it in the end.
Here are lyrics to one of my favorite songs. It was this song which helped me to get to where I am now. It's by Mariah Carey and it's called 'Hero':
"There's a hero,
If you look inside your heart,
You don't have to be afraid of what you are,
There's an answer,
If you reach into your soul,
And the sorrow that you know will melt away.
[chorus]
And then a hero comes along,
With the strenght to carry on,
And you cast your fears aside and you know you can survive,
So when you feel like hope is gone,
Look inside you and be strong,
And you'll finally see the truth that a hero lies in you.
It's a long road,
When you face the world alone,
No one reaches out a hand for you to hold,
You can find love, oh yes you can,
If you search within yourself,
And the emptiness you felt will disappear.
[chorus]
Lord knows,
Dreams are hard to follow,
But don't let anyone tear them away,
Just hold on and hold on and hold on,
And there will be tomorrow,
In time you'll find the way.
[chorus]
Oh yes it does, oh yes it does,
I know it does. A hero lies in you."
Think about the meaning and see what it does for you.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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You need to find a way to express and release your feelings. A healthy way... without hurting yourself or others. Things that help me are writing (poetry, stories, diary entries, speeches, etc.) and meditating.
Some people like artwork or playing an instrument.. so you may want to learn a new hobby (one that yu are interested) and if you're good at it, use it as a way to release your stress. Or you may want to stick to the things you already know and love to do for fun but that really represents who you are.
Another thing I suggest is theraphy. I went to theraphy and it helped me. I never took any medication. I was never diagnosed with any chemical imbalance or disorder of any sort. Just having someone there who will listen to you colpletely, even the stories about a boy or girl you like, or about arguments you have with your parents, and someone who cares is very helpful. However, do not take theraphy unless you are actually willing to accept that kind of help. If you just go but you're clsed minded and don't cooaporate and refuse to talk or share your feelings it will be a waste of time.
Finally... I advice turning your life around. Get a make over. Dress up. Go shpping and to the library and just dtrsact yourself. Join a club. Play truth or dare. Take a chance. Walk up to a cute boy/girl or a cool person and befriend them. And from now on make sure to surround yourself with positive friends who care about you and who will help you move foward andbetter yourself.
I hope you feel better. Don't worry, everyhting will be okay, I promise.
*hug*
sorry if can't be of much help. I am lucky I hsad a caring therapist and I was willing to let her in but it realy did work for me and turned my life around. Good luck! ^_^
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