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Want to get a hookup
Hi i'm a teenage girl who has given up on relationships and everything else in life.
Before i commit suicide i want to have a hookup with someone.
How do I go about getting a hookup with a guy who won't hurt me or abuse me?
thx
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Hey. Suicide, definately never helps a siuation. Even if you think your life sucks, there are worse people out there, I happen to know a few firsthand. So please, don't kill yourself, because even if you think no one cares about you, there is someone who will miss oyu and they do love you. Please do not give up, I know I've wanted to before, but I never gave in, I always held on for the better. Secondly, I dont think you are going to be able to hook up with a guy who isnt going to abuse and use you. I am a guy so I personally know how we think. If we can get sex, then we're probably gonna take it every chance we get. So, hold off on that, take more chances in life, build real loving relationships with people, and take everything a day at a time. Don't give up hope, it never helps. Talk to someone you love and can trust. Or even talk to a complete stranger, and just live. Be yourself, don't give, live life to the fullist, because if you don't, you could end up regreting it one day.
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Suicide...suicide...suicide...
How can people be thinking of suicide even if life sucks? You only got one life to live, live it up even if its a shitty one.
You dont know what happens next and well...have you thought that maybe nothing happens next?
Cant you belive that life has its ups and downs? Like...you are sad now..but eventually good times will come. Unless you are an eskimo....that must suck for ever...eating fish every day and living on an igloo, and if you have any friends then they must have sex with your wife...lol!!!
And unfortunatelly, you cant hook up with somebody who will not hurt you. Its what happens, people come and go, and you get hurt,and then someone else comes and makes you forget about the previous shitty one till you one day settle down, have babies.
Nobody is responsible for your happines but you. Stop whinning and go out and make yourself happy. Chill in some garden, read a book, drink a coctail, call some friends and go watch a movie, shop a cloth, you dont got any friends? even better, noone is there o judge you, start a hobby, get a job, play tennis.
Plus, you are a teenager. Teenagers are messed up in the head and girls can stay teenagers well...forever. But trust me, it goes away one day. You stop worrying about existenze and all that stuff...and well you just suck what life offers you even if its something bitter. Cause bitter is also taste and you only get one chance to taste.
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HEY GIRL! WHATS UP? MY NAME IS AMBER? IM NOT A GUY BUT IM A GIRL WHO ALSO HAS BEEN HURT BY MANY GUYS AND HAVE MANY GUY FRIENDS WHO WOULD LOVE TO MEET A GIRL WHO WILL RESPECT AND ACCEPT THEIR RARE WAYS OF TREATING A GIRL THE WAY THEY SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED! THEY HAVE BEEN HURT MANY TIMES BY GIRLS WHO SAY THEY ARE TOO NICE! SO HOW OLD ARE YOU? WHERE ARE YOU FROM? GET BACK TO ME AND LET ME KNOW SO I CAN POSSIBLY MOST LIKELY HELP YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL GIVE YOU HOPE IF I CANT! CUZ I WAS IN THE SAME BOAT YOU ARE IN ABOUT 1 YEAR AGO AND SO I THINK WE MIGHT GET ALONG! MAYBE! HOLLA BACK AT ME OKAY! YOU CAN GET TO ME AT amber_jw_irvine06@yahoo.com PATIENTLY WAITING FOR YOUR EMAIL!
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Hey hon,
Suicide is not the answer. I know after reading all the previous answers, you're most likely to ignore this one. I'll try my best to help.
Just because things went wrong, doesn't mean that you can run away from it and kill yourself. Things go wrong everyday, and you know what? You can't stop it. You have to stay strong and face it. Hon, trust me...I've been through it. It was much worse with me. I was stuck in a country where bombs were dropping every five seconds and there was no way that I could leave the country, let alone leaving my own house! If you think I never thought about suicide then, you're wrong..I did. But I didn't do anything. Instead, I waited. I waited till something 'good' happened. That's when I escaped.
Be patient...give it some time. Time's the medicine for everything: period pain, braces, exams, everything.
You don't need a relationship to have a life. There's more to life than just love and kisses and hugs. Just wait and see. Things will come around.
Stay strong. We're all with you.
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Hey. don't commit suicide. I've tried. I was in the hospital for a couple of weeks. It's not fun. I don't know if your wanting attention from your partents or anyone who you live with. & if you do you should deff talk to them. I mean, Don't commit suicide. it solves absoulotly nothing!
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oka im going sound truthfull as it is.first of all you dont want to commit suicide it want sovle and of your problems, it would just hurt the people round you that loves. Second everyone deals with of kinds of problems and you probaly just want a guy that want hurt you or noting and you probaly feel like no one cares for you but they do.You just dont know it yet, like your family they will alwayz love you no matter what and you got your friends even teachers sometimes.So here is it dont commit sucide, stop feeling sorry for yourself,and try to do things that make you not depress or notin and for the whole guy thing wait.Dont give up on lfe it want take you nowhere and just wait for that right guy to come around.
good luck and stay strong!!
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You may not feel it or know it yet but there are tons of people who love you including your parents, siblings and yes even teachers and classmates.
Right now it feels like nobody loves you, the walls are caving in and you hate life. This is not your true thinking or thoughts. These dark thoughts you are having and contemplating suicide is because you have a psychiatric problem you need medical assistance for and fast.
I'm not a doctor but I know severe depression or mental illness for that matter when I see it. Being bipolar myself and having been in a hospital for help I have seen teens and adults with your exact outlook and depression or worse get treatment, get better and enjoy life.
You have so much more to give and to live for than you are ready to understand right now. What you need to do is talk to your family as hard as it may be and tell them what the dark thoughts and beliefs you are holding onto are tellig you about life/death.
They need to take you to an emergency room where a psychiatrist will diagnose your illness, start a treatment program for it, likely give you medication to feel better. You may be hospitalized for safety reasons at first but you'll return home. They need to see that you are better.
A stay in the hospital is no big deal--it's the safest place on earth for you right now. Write down all the thoughts you have been having about being unloved, unwanted and wanting to die and do not hide any of this as you must be honest.
It will save your life and once you get better you'll see how bloody lucky you are not to have killed yourself as death is permanent and problems no matter how monumental aren't.
There's a way around this and how to deal with your feelings and it's not death. Do me a favor and a favor for your ownself tell your family and proceed to your nearest emergency room now.
You need psychiatric help whether you like what I have to say or not as you're not well and aren't seeing that this is not normal and is medical in nature.
No boy/man or hookup is going to make you feel any better, any more loved, secure or less hurt and abused.
You need to get immediate medical attention and to tell doctors and your family exactly what is truly hurting you, the dark stuff you are thinking and let the doctors and your family work to get you better and feeling great about yourself and life.
Bottom line: Shut off the computer, tell your family what is happening and do not hide anything and go to an emergency room. If they won't take you or just don't get it call a friend that will as you need cheked out at a hospital.
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For someone with very high standards, you have very low standards. Let me explain. You are extremely disappointed with life, which is why suicide seems appealing...a way to control your life by controlling your death. However, your standards about guys, sex, relationships and your own worth are very low. The higher we set something upon a pedestal the harder it falls. Disappointments are a part of life, everyone experiences these lows. You feel alone, but you are not. Your pain is personal, but not unique. Who has let you down? I am going to guess...almost every human you have ever known? Do yourself this favor...let them off the hook. Let yourself off the hook. Don't let your estimation of someone control you or to put it another way, don't let someone's estimation of you, control your happiness. I want you to let your high expectations die. This is the only suicide that will please you in the end. Everyone in life is fallible, even deplorable at certain moments. Those same people are also capable of wondrous manifestations of glory and miraculous transformation. Do not condemn the world so fast and be rid of us yet. Suicide is not just about you. It is about killing the opportunities that others might witness of your creativity, and determination. It is about killing the possibilities of a thousand friendships, lovers, and soul-mates to find themselves better just for knowing you. The world can be a wicked place, and a wonderful place. What you seek you will find. If you look for perfection you will find it. If you look for hypocrisy you will find it. The reason is this. By seeking something, you are accepting the possibility of its existence. If it exists in your mind, you will then seek to verify it in your experiences. Opportunities to experience other than what you expect to happen may be overlooked and underestimated in your pursuit to confirm your suspicions. Suspect less of others but more of yourself. It is no ones job to make you happy, not even your own. Happiness is a bi-product of purposeful existence. Find a purpose. You were born of the universe's intent and purpose to be and know yourself not as others define you, but as you are determined to be known. Let your death be the end of a real life, one you have led with abandon, passion, and joy. When you are one-hundred and three go swim with the sharks or jump off a cliff if you must, but by then you can say with integrity and pride, that you really took charge of your own existence.
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Are you kidding me? You want to kill yourself because nothing is going right for you? Don't take this the wrong way, but you're pathetic.
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Life is not going to get better if you run away from it & do NOTHING to solve your problems. If you keep hiding from things, they're never going to change, and they're just going to get worse. Instead of trying to take the easy way out, try to make shit better for yourself.
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If family isn't working out for you, try to stay with someone else. If things with them are rocky, try to make up with them & fix things. Things won't get better if you don't talk them out. Keeping everything inside just makes things worse & will not help you at all.
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If you've got no friends, make some! It's not hard to do at all. You've just gotta be yourself, and be positive. Nobody wants to be around a negative person. Be honest to yourself & to others. Nobody likes a liar. And just do what makes you happy. If people cannot accept you, that is their bad & you shouldn't try to kill yourself because of it. There are others who will accept you when others don't.
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If school isn't working out for you, try to get homeschooled. If you cannot afford that, stick it out. Just keep your mind focused on things that matter: education & success. Do your homework, take notes & do your work in quiet places. Ask questions, stay after for help. Join sports & clubs. Things can get better but you've gotta make the effort to make it happen. If you sit back & watch, life is gonna pass you by & fuck you over.
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If guys don't like you for some reason, then they're stupid & they're missing out on what's important. Let them go for the slutty girls who'll break their hearts. Let them feel exactly what you do from a distance. One day a guy will fall in love with you, but you can't just give up because no one seems to right now. That's dumb. And as much as it's hard to believe, guys are NO ONE at this age. You don't need them right now. They can come in for you later. If you can, try to date around though. See the different types of people out there. Set your standards high, meet new people, see new faces. Do new things! Life is about chances & risks -- you've just gotta be ready & willing to do it.
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Don't kill yourself though. That's stupid & it won't help anything. You can do so much. You can be somebody. You don't have to be another statistic. Be the person that finds the cure for AIDS or Cancer. Be the next Einstein. Be the next Ivan Pavlov, or Erik Erikson if that's what it takes! Just don't kill yourself. Life can be a wild ride but that's the fun of it. If you kill yourself, you'll be missing out on what life has to offer & you'll look stupid. Besides, once you kill yourself, you can't get your life back. That's it, it's over. Think about it.
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okay don't wanna sound rude or anything, but.
you just need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. trust me, you don't have it that bad. there are people in this world who don't have food, clothes, or anywhere to live. there are people who's lives are absolutely horrible, yet you're copmlaining about relationships. every single teenage girl goes through relationships that don't work out. it's part of being a teenager. commiting suicide won't help a thing. suicide is one of the most selfish things you could possibly do. think of all the people who love you who would be affected. there are people who lose their lives every day, and you're talking about ending yours willingly.
anyway, about hooking up with a guy who won't hurt you or abuse you. you need to get to know a guy before you start dating him. a lot of times it's good to become friends first. if you know the guy, and know he's a good person, then go for it.
and don't even think about suicide again! you need to look at the positive things in life, you're aliveeee girlfriend :)
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This is obviously bogus. However, if you are sincere you should watch Fight Club. In one scene of that movie, a dying girl (dying from terminal cancer) makes a similar plea. She does so by advertising the fact that she has a number of sexual products in her apartment. Good night and good luck. You have everything to live for
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I know that you don't want to hear this and i understand. But i seriously hope that you don't try to commit suicide. Its a permit decission for a temperaly problem. Theres other ways to try to get help. I would tell a friend ASAP, so they can go get you help, b.c i'm sure right now you don't want it. You really need to just talk to someone and get your feelings and thoughts out, other then killing yourself. Many people die each day that would LOVE to be living, and then theres people that want to die that are perfectly physically heathy. I just hate to see this soo much.
I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT TO LISTIN TO US, BUT GET HELP RIGHT AWAY. THOUGHT OF SUCIDE ARE A VERY SERIOUS THING. You may not think or see that but it is
Your beautiful inside and out, and think of all the people that will be crushed by you never being here again. Its not worth it.
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I do not believe you truly want to commit suicide if you want to 'hook up' with someone before you do.
I don't know you but I think that I can make a pretty educated guess and say that you are not really depressed and this stems from a relationship gone wrong or similar.
I can also guarantee that you are not alone. I know I for one have been in a situation where I've been broken up with for the first time and I've felt that my life is over, but it's not, evidently, or I wouldn't be here telling you this.
Suicide isn't something to joke or pretend to be serious about, it really isn't. Last week a boy who's grandmother is a family friend's mother overdosed and died. She also left behind two small children aged one and two. When I was nine, my mother also attempted to overdose on anti-depressants. Thankfully for me and my family, she failed but the scare was enough to teach me that suicide is not the answer and is not worth the devestation left behind.
Go and talk to someone. A friend, relative, school counciller, teacher...anyone. Just don't kill yourself, or hook up with a guy you don't care for just to feel wanted - it will have the opposite effect.
You'll be fine.
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woah back it up. killing yourself is NOT the answer i dont care how shitty your life looks right about now. it will get better nothign and nobody in life is worth killing your self over! beinging strong is one of the hardest things in life but you have to stay strong .. read this poem my best friend wrote .. read it and live by it
Eventually you realize thatlife sucks, love isn`t
always real, & happinessis only for alimited time.
you learn who your real friendsare. You learn
how to act like you don`t care. but then you
being to see that life doesn`t suck, you're just
too depressedto realizethat it's amazing. You
see thatloveisn`t always real, it`s always true.
you see thathappinessis limited, because then
love kicks in, a different form of happiness.
& you learnwho your real friendsare because
the old oneswere too crappy to be with you.
& you finally seethat you act like you don`t
care only to show people that you do.
and about that whole hooking up thing. Just chill with some guys make the first move bc trust me most guys are too embarresd to make the first move and would lovee for you to make the first move.
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I understand that you probably won'r pay mind to people who are going to say 'don't kill yourself'. But you have to understand that they are right, you shouldn't kill yourself just because you gave up on life. Know that you are giving up on something that is RIGHTFULLY YOURS .. your life. Anyways, if you wanna hook up with someone go to a party or a club, somewhere where people love to have fun.
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oh my fricken god.
Everyone goes through tough times in their lives but you can't just feel sorry for yourself and kill yourself!!
Its just not right.
Im sure there are people that care about you!
But if you realllly wanna hook up with someone go somewhere like on vacation or out of town or whatever and its fun to meet someone and like have like a fling with them for the fun of it!!!
But killing yourself wont help anything!!!
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