well im 14 years old im from chicago Ill, im a kinda shy person but sometimes i can be loud to. Im in the 8 grade love music, and love to sing im a great friend and always listen to people whenever they have a problems im always there.
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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From what i can tell you is this. Move one, forget about him, if he dont want you or dont want to have nothing to do with you theres nothing you can do about it. If you said everything to him and he still act the way he act then just forget it. I understand how it feels to love someone so much and you just cant forget bout them. But if thats the only choice you got then you gonna have to take it. And plus, no guy is worth the pain you been through you need to wake up see the main point here. If he put you through all this pain then he aint worth it. IF he got a girlfriend then leave them be. As i read through this i could see you been through alot, going to counceling, getting panic attacks, failing you dont need all that. You still young you have your whole life ahead of you. There are other boys out there, but what you really need is to stop thinking about him and get your life together before its to late. And another thing im not trying to blame you for yall break up but what you did was wrong. Cheating on him then thinking it was okay knowing how he felt about you. All i can say is just move on live your life dont let no boy control your life or get the best out of you.
Good luck :)
let me know how things goes!
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14/f This will be long sorry...
Ok I feel horrible. Its more than just school I guess. But first off I haven't doing very good in school. I'm in 9th grade. And its so hard because I feel like I'm being pressured to know what I want to do in life and college and so on. I won't be able to go to a university or anything. I'm pretty sure of that. I wanted to go to college because I want to do good in school and I don't want to fail. The only classes I gave A's in is PE and Health. The rest are B's and C's. Except Biology and Math are D's. I'm surprised I haven't had an F. Even my friends are surprised. I mean I have great friends but its pretty much expected. All my friends get good grades and I don't know whats wrong with me. I feel like I can't amount to anything. Now my parents have been fighting and my dad almost left and I just don't know what to do anymore. I stay away from them and I don't really talk to my parents much anymore because I don't want to get into this. I have a boyfriend and its been a month since we've been going out and that's like the only good thing here. But I know I have lots of people that love me and I'm so happy about that its just thinking about all this other stuff is driving me crazy. And to be honest..like last year I did cut myself and like a month ago too. I know I shouldn't but I don't plan on it again. I try and find someone to turn to for help on this homework, parents and such and my friends listen. Its just I don't know how to deal with it. I use to get good grades in elementary school when it was way easier. I try and forget about everything at home because I fight alot with my brother and my parents so I have been trying to stay away from that so I've been focusing more on school and pushing myself so hard and its just so hard. Please help I'm so confused. I feel so loved though, its great. I mean by all my friends and guys and stuff. But I mean I'm not conceited just it makes me feel better. Thanks for reading this and thanks if you can answer this. (link)
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Well first off you are not stupid and you shouldnt feel stupid. Every one goes through things like this and its not stupid. But you probaly just going through stress beacuse of the school and this is your first year of high school. I went through the same thing, my grades were low and they are usually high. But what i can tell you is that you just need to first relax yourself, when you feel like things are to much for you to handle just sit and a quiet place and relax listen to music or somthing. Also for the school thing high school is going to be alot harder, its another step onto life, you just gotta work as hard as you can. Study more, pay attention more and dont be so hard on yourself. And with the family problem thats something you just cant ingored even though you might try you just cant. You gonna have to talk that through with your family espically you parents. Tell them how you feel about their fighting and stuff. And last advice i wanna tell you is that all you can do right know with your life is to be strong and hang in there things will get better soon. Plus cutting yourself wont help at all, you need to express your feelings out. Talk to someone about how you feeling, and if its that serious than you should talk to your parents about it. :)
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16f
What are some signs that a guy likes you? Preferrably a guy you're friends with/talk to a lot in school? I've never had a boyfriend and no one's ever liked me as far as I know so I don't know this stuff too well lol. (link)
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Well sometimes when i aguy likes you, they will find excuse to talk to you. And when they do talk to you they would probaly try to flirt with you, smile at you alot. And maybe you should pay attention to there friends see how they act around you. They probaly would of make lil comments when you around, or smile at the boy as a way saying whoooh look who here. But just see how he acts around you.
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Okay I probably sound like really lame and immature or something but i'm going to say this anyway. Okay so theres this chatroom that I go on. I met this guy and we talked a lot(we'll call him D). One day he told me he liked me, and I like him too. We're not going out or anything, but we would like to meet in the future and see where things go. He's joining the marines so he's gone right now for bootcamp. Since he's been gone things have been a little tough and I really miss talking to him. We used to talk everyday for hours on end. Well I started talking to this other guy(we'll call him J). I've grown to like him a lot. I can't figure out if it's just because D is gone and everything or if I really do like him. The strange part about it is, is that it's almost like a need. I'm not quite sure how to explain it. J is just really amazing, and I like him a lot, well as much as you can like someone without meeting them in person. J has a son who's a year old. The story with that, is that his girlfriend and him broke up during the pregnancy but she didnt want the kid, but he wanted it. So he's a single parent, still in high school (he's 17), and just really sweet and amazing. I love kids and would love to have kids young. I think that's one of the things that attracts me to him is that he has a kid. He said the youngest he'd date is 16, which kind of sucks for me since i'm 15. I like to think i'm pretty mature for my age. Most people say I am, so I guess it's true. D is really sweet and amazing as well, but there's just not that attraction that there is with J. D is 18 by the way. Anyway I just wanted to get some opinions about this. Like what do you think about the situation? What would you do? By the way I hope you don't think i'd meet either of these guys by myself or without knowing their not pedophiles are anything, because I wouldnt. (link)
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Well i think you should go for the one you have the most feelings for. The one you feel comfortable talking with and your feel right with. Plus i dont wanna sound all mothery on you lol but D is a lil to old for you anyways. Even though age aint nothing but a number you really should think about it. But really you should just go for what your heart is telling you. And it sounds like this J guy is a really good guy and you cant find that many good guys often.
hope i helped:)
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well heres a summary of the last few months with me n a guy named jack.
june 2008- we had known eachother for about a year but only became good frends at this time.
august- became best frends and started hanging out everyday.
september 2008- we were best friends but started to notice maybe we were a little more than that.
october- started to realize that we really liked eachother more than just best frends.
november- started hooking up n realized that we loved eachother more than anything.
december- got in alot of fights because of the fact he was with other girls yet he sed he loved me so much. but it wasnt a deal breaker because we werent actually dating. we acted just like we were dating except for the other girls involved with him. after a big fight he sed he was gonna stop talking to other girls and that he loved me and wanted me and only me. so we started dating.
january 2009- everything seemed to be going fine then one week he started acting like he was in a really bad mood but he wouldnt tell me why. i asked n asked then figured id just leave it alone. he basically was ignoring me half the time so i figured we needed to talk.
yesterday january 15th- he told me he wasnt mature enough for a relationship so i didnt even know wat to say. this guy who i love more than anything was basically breaking up with me. he sed he wanted our relationship to be the same but without the title. so basically still hooking up and hangining out everyday and tellin eachother how much we love eachother. which is the same as december except for the girls. so he sed he wasnt gonna get with other girls n i agreed the same. he sed that the title was putting pressure on our relationship n that he didnt think we would make it. his exact words were- " i just think that since we started dating uve stopped speaking ur mind because your afraid of what i will say and the only thing i want is for you to be completely honest with me".
january 16th today- i was really upset about what had happened n im terrible at hiding my feelings but jack came up in the foyer n hugged me but it was an awkward 1 arm hug n no words were exchanged. In the hallway in between classes we hugged a few times but never sed anything. at the end of the day i gave him a hug n asked if he was ok n he nodded n went to class.
i dont know what to do because i cant even imagine him not being in my life and i love him so much but i hate us being like this. i want everything to go back to normal but i dont undersatnad why he wants us to have the boyfrend girlfrend relationship but without calling it boyfrend girlfrend because he says theres too much pressure that way. i do speak my mind to him even though at times he thinks i dont n i want things to be good between us. what should i say to him?
thanx sooooo soooooooo much 4 the help! (link)
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You should tell him how you feel, like everything from the begining to the end. Tell him how much he means to you and how you feel about him. And maybe this guy need to take some time to figure out what he wants and also maybe you should do the same to. If he messing around with other girls than he might not be ready to make a relationship commit. All i can tell you is that both of yall need to sit down and talk to eachother about how yall feel towards one another and go on from there. See what happens.
Good Luck!!:)
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Okay,
I have no idea why the question comes up now, (It's been almost 8 months) I guess I'm just curious.
My exboyfriend and I dated for five years, I left him in May (I do not wish to discuss why) during our relationship we were miserable. One time while we were dating he mentioned we should get to know other people and he mentioned one girl that he liked back in high school, (He mentioned he liked her 5 years later by the way) meaning that he has no idea where she is etc. However I didn't think anything of it at the time because we were in a 5 year relationship and I always thought it would be impossible for him to cheat on me anyway seeing he NEVER left his apartment. Okay, Well I recently found him on Facebook and he is in a relationship with antoher girl and it's the same girl he mentioned while we were dating?!?!?! Not that I care really I don't, I moved on also but the fact that it occassionally crosses my mind... I wanted to know if he cheated on me. During our relationship he used to always say mean things to me like (I don't think this is working out, We don't have anything in common, We are two different people, We should move on etc) However, He never had the guts to leave me...and I eventually got fed up with him and left him.
What do you think? (link)
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Well it could be that he did cheated on you, or it could of been the fact that he didnt cheat on you, he wanted to break up with you but didnt know how to tell you and prbaly didnt want to hurt you . Maybe he had this gurl on his mind and as soon as yall broke up he went straight to her. Im not saying thats what happen but it could be a possiblity.
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im so moody
its not even funny
what are the possible reasons?
how can i fix it?
help meeeeeeee thanks
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Get some time alone find something that will make you feel good. Something that you enjoyed the most, or you can hang out with a couple of friends or somthing.
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my sister in law really hates me... ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months and he recently got kicked out of his house and is living with my family and me...it wasn't entirely my fault though is friend was in on it to and he wasn't forced into anything...but his sister has been threatening me and saying that i fucked up his whole life and just making me feel like shit [[she lives in Idaho,were in Anaheim]] but still evrything she says makes me feel bad my boyfriend says to ignore her because she hormonal and pregnant but like i realy feel like telling her to shut the fuck up because she doesnt know what living in his house was like [[he was adopted..and hated it there]] so yea i kinda wanna yell at her but then i dont because my boyfriend and i would like to get married and i dont want to have an "i hate you bitch" relationship with her...so how can i tell her to butt out in a way that straight but no like fuck you kinda way?? (link)
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You can tell her in a more caln way instead of like cussing her out. And be more genlte with it but at the same time tell her straight up of whats whats. Make her understand that you love her brother you wouldnt do nothing to hurt me.
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back in december, me and my boyfriend ray broke up. it was totally my fault. i got really really fucked up. i ended up cheating on him with one of his old friends. i felt so bad i had to tell him. he says that we can still be friends cause we were best friends before we started dating. but then he tells everyone else he hates me and shit. im ok with that, i understand how he feels. i would be the same way. he talks so much shit about me. but i understand. i was going to break up with him anyway but i wasnt in the right. well ray has this friend nick, whose been one of my boys for a while. well me and nick have been hanging out for a little bit and i am really starting to get feelings for him. and he's the same way. but idk what to do because of ray. if he ever found out he would flip. and nick doesnt want to ruin his friendship with ray. (link)
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Well i think you should just go for it. You and your ex are over so you shouldnt have nothing to worry about. He just got to accept that. And if he was really a good friend he wwould understand about it. I mean he cant stop you to from going out.
good luck!
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where are the best places to get downloads for an ipod? i have itunes 7 something on the mac and the original video ipod. (link)
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well you can try limwire
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that show is amazing!!
ok well my question is..
-what's donnie's last name?
-and does he have a myspace?
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yes he does have a myspace but i dont know his last name. srry.
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alright well this kid is like my life okay? i love him so much.but it seems like he doesn't like me at all.like when we're talking on aim..he doesn't talk much unless we're talking about his ex,or if we're talking about something he's going to do today or something like that.and when i bring something up and then go "oh nvm" he's always like "tellll meeeee" and it makes me think he cares..but he does that to everyone.even people that he hates.because hes just a curious person.what do i do? (link)
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Well for one thing you should tell him how you feel and maybe he will feel the same way, you never know unless you try.
good luck!
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female
My step sister is turning 16 this weekend and i am having my biggest birthday too, the next week. And I am totally left out. This birthday is really big for me. And believe me I am totally happy for her, she has gotten a mustang and money and a that. But I feel like I am getting the short end of the stick. I have tried telling poeple how i feel but they said that I can have my chance to shine.... but thats ALL poeple talk about... yes her b-day is tomorrow but mine is a week from saturday. Mine is big TOO!!! why can't poeple just see that.
please help me. I dont think that I am jealous or anything. Cause really I am honestly happy for her. But what about me. Tomorrow we are going out for a "birthday lunch". How come I dont get one of those??? PLEASE HELP:(
I feel so bad about this because i also want to be happy for myself, and i dont want to come across as a brat or anything
Because when I turn 18 she will be the big 21... so i can't get away from this...
HELP
thank you for taking the time to read this and I do rate and comment... thank you
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well i understand how you feel and well what i can tell you is that when people turn 16 i guess its a big thing its like a sweet 16 holiday were people always talk about and probaly the best birthday year.And the other fact can be that hers is tommorrow and yours is next week which dont mean nothing but maybe they are just trying to focus on one birthday at a time.But dont worry cause when your time comes they will be focusing on you and you will have your shine. So just hang in there till your birthday comes.
hope i help!
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Alright, so I'm 15 and I've never had sex or anything. When me and my boyfriend are together sometimes he fingers me.. and every single time he does, I bleed. I was just wondering if this was normal or if there is something wrong with me.. I know its probably normal to bleed the first time, but what about every time? I really need help.. please answer with your best knowlegde.. I'll rate high I promissse (link)
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well it can be that maybe he aint doing it right.
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my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him? (link)
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well there aint really much to say but all you can really do is just be there for that person and tell them that the person who they lost is in a better and more peacfull place where they can be happy at.And just be there for your friend you know.
good luck.
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wat if you like someone but the boy you like said they dont want you on their myspace and lets say he didnt tell you exactly someboy dat was talkin to him said he did but then again he doesnt add u! wat does that mean
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well either they dont like you or if they dont know you and maybe dont want nobody that they are not close to or dont know that well but you need to ask thats persn why.
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16/f
How big of a chance do I have of getting pregnant considering I had sex the day before my expected period? Like, I had sex last night, but he didnt go but theres still pre-cum, but whats the chance of me being pregnant? I usually get my period between the 20-23 of every month, so far I haven't gotten it and I know I can't be pregnant that soon. So what are my chances? (link)
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well i really dont know but maube you should just wait till your period comes cuz usually it comes late.But the only way you know for sure is unless you didnt use protection or whatever but thats the best i can tell you.
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I know that leggings and short denim skirts have been a trend and probably are still a trend for some people. I wear leggings whenever I wear a short skirt because they're just more comfortable. I don't have to worry about my skirt lifting up when I wear leggings. But... is this look still in style? I saw a whole bunch of people wearing it at my school and this year at my school, but ever since my friend said it looked tacky I've been noticing less people wearing it these days. I still wear it. I just don't want to look like an unfashionable weirdo. Is this look still "in" at your school? Tell me what you think. (link)
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well to me i dont think wearing leggings is tacking and at my school people did wear them.But dont listen to other people if they say its out of style well thats them wear whatever you want and no matter what they say about leggings i think they are cool.
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Do i really need love? I mean all my friends have at least kissed one guy and I haven't kissed, hugged or made physical contact with any of my past bf's. My first bf only touched my leg. My 2nd one was too creepy to do anything. My 3rd one never talked to me. How can i get a good boyfriend? HELP. I'm not enjoying being single much anymore. Please, i need emergency dating tips! PLEASE! I want ot date again. Sure my first experiences sucked, but still... Not all guys are shallow, right? HELP! (link)
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you know wat being single aint alwayz bad but then again it is but no matter how many boyfriends you have there always a right person for somone and you just got to wait for that.one day you will find ur special person and you will love them and they will love you for who you are but untill then you are young and you are experience alot of things but hey thats part of life and part of growing up and you will keep on experience boys untill you find the right one and you will know.
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sorry this'll be so long. im thinking about taking sex out of the relationship im in, or if not completely then atleast every onnnce in a while. im 15, and please dont judge me. i see my bf on the weekends and honestly, we have sex atleast like 4 diff times each day. its pretty much 3/4 of wut we do when were with eachother and im sick of it. also, i feel so guilty doing it, specially when im around my dad and i think about it. i know it would hurt him so much if he found out n i feel like a failure or something. and i feel as if im like addicted to it, because ill have sex even when im not in the mood, or im bored n its just like heyy its sumthin to do. so now to my question. ive been with him for a year and 4 months now, and i do not want to break up. now first of all, our relationship is not just based off of sex. so, do you think by taking it out it would ruin our relationship in any way? i mean as far as how close we are and stuff? you get what i mean? i just dont want it to get weird between us or anything. because i know when you decide to have sex and everything with somebody it brings you a lot closer, and i dont want that taken away. so, help please? (link)
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well you should end the sex thing but yall can still like kiss or touch eachother but the whole sex thing is not a very good ideal. And if ur boyfriend dont understand or get mad over it then forget it if he dont like the whole sex thing ending then maybe he dont care enough for you and think the whole relationshio is only base on sex.And if you are addicted to it then maybe you should tell ur parents no matter how hard it is and get some help.
good luck!!!
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