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Two different guys, not sure what to do.


Question Posted Friday January 16 2009, 2:42 am

Okay I probably sound like really lame and immature or something but i'm going to say this anyway. Okay so theres this chatroom that I go on. I met this guy and we talked a lot(we'll call him D). One day he told me he liked me, and I like him too. We're not going out or anything, but we would like to meet in the future and see where things go. He's joining the marines so he's gone right now for bootcamp. Since he's been gone things have been a little tough and I really miss talking to him. We used to talk everyday for hours on end. Well I started talking to this other guy(we'll call him J). I've grown to like him a lot. I can't figure out if it's just because D is gone and everything or if I really do like him. The strange part about it is, is that it's almost like a need. I'm not quite sure how to explain it. J is just really amazing, and I like him a lot, well as much as you can like someone without meeting them in person. J has a son who's a year old. The story with that, is that his girlfriend and him broke up during the pregnancy but she didnt want the kid, but he wanted it. So he's a single parent, still in high school (he's 17), and just really sweet and amazing. I love kids and would love to have kids young. I think that's one of the things that attracts me to him is that he has a kid. He said the youngest he'd date is 16, which kind of sucks for me since i'm 15. I like to think i'm pretty mature for my age. Most people say I am, so I guess it's true. D is really sweet and amazing as well, but there's just not that attraction that there is with J. D is 18 by the way. Anyway I just wanted to get some opinions about this. Like what do you think about the situation? What would you do? By the way I hope you don't think i'd meet either of these guys by myself or without knowing their not pedophiles are anything, because I wouldnt.

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Myrrha answered Friday January 16 2009, 8:03 pm:
I had met a few guys from the internet in person when I was in high school, and I can tell you from experience it is not always what you expect. Some people like to talk on the internet and say they would like to meet you, but really don't, or you find out they are nothing like they portray themselves. So I have to say from experience, if you really like this guy, you need to meet in person and be friends for a while, just like you would with any other guy. When you meet him bring 2-3 friends (because of your age), and at least 1 of them being a guy friend of yours. Meeting in person isn't like talking to a computer screen where you can be whoever you want, just keep that in mind.

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angel201 answered Friday January 16 2009, 5:27 pm:
Well i think you should go for the one you have the most feelings for. The one you feel comfortable talking with and your feel right with. Plus i dont wanna sound all mothery on you lol but D is a lil to old for you anyways. Even though age aint nothing but a number you really should think about it. But really you should just go for what your heart is telling you. And it sounds like this J guy is a really good guy and you cant find that many good guys often.

hope i helped:)

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