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3 years down the drain?
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years...since I was fifteen. I am ashamed to say that during those three years I cheated on him twice, but I immediately regretted it and I was unhappy at the time because he wasn't treating me right. That was about a year ago and currently we are on a break and have been for a few weeks. During these few weeks I have had sex with two other guys, not thinking that we were going to be getting back together. Now that we are talking about getting back together, he feels like I am hiding something and wants me to come clean. Should I tell him everything or just part of the truth? Last time I told him I kissed someone else when we were on a break he freaked out.
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If you realllyy want to get back with him then i would say dont tell him, because if i was him i wouldnt want to get back with you if you already got with 2 other guys in a few weeks, makes it seem like the relationship isnt that important and like your not willing to wait for him. So if you want honesty and guilt off your chest then by all means tell him. just know that it is a big risk and he will be hurt by that, but they say everyone hurts you at one point but it is for you to decde who is worth your pain. So if you are worth his pain then he will be able to forgive you. I hope i have lead you in some sort of direction with your decision. I wouldnt want to tell you exactly what to do, but to show you the possibilities of each. Take time to think, think about how U feel, how he will feel, and exactly how you will tell him if you do and how to do so in the complete honest but not blunt way. good luck. love is pain, pain is love , who knew pain could feel so good. =]
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I've been dating my bf(now fiance) for 3 years, since i was 15 :). when we first started going out i cheated on him 4 times, but nothing more then just a kiss. i felt bad but i did it thinking we werent gonna last, besides i did only start dating him cuz i thought he was sexi. lol. he knows it too. he's cheated on me once, just to get back at me. now me and him have been on breaks before(some worse then others). on the few breaks we have been on, i've had sex with 2 guys and screwed around with another, and he has dated another girl and had sex with 2 girls. we both realize that we werent together and it was our own fault we werent together. it wasnt cheating. although we did get hurt by those acts you gotta learn to look past them. its really hard to do at first, but if you REALLY want something to come outta that relationship you will. you need to tell him that. now whether you tell him is your decision. a relationship is based on communication. i do have a couple things im hiding from him and i have made up a couple things to make it seem like they werent my fault.(such as, i was drunk, i was taken advantage of, i was on pills, ect.)
the one thing you really gotta be careful with is if you dont wanna tell him, you gotta act as normal as possible. when your trying to hide something from someone, you tend to get snappy and angry over alot of little things and get irritated and even blame him for cheating even tho it was you that did it.
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