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HEY!! U can call me Nikki
Im from that little water state. Im fifteen and a sophmore. I can connect with most teens and their problems but also i think older people need to be open to advice from younger minds as well..so give us a chance. =] I like helping people and giving advice is the one the best ways to help. Ask me anything, i may not always have an answer but ill try. I put in thought and time on the question being asked, something id like people to also do for me. So tell me little pieces of your life and ill see if i can try and put them back together. ;]

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is 11 and a half to young to kiss but that being all no nothing else at all maybe making out or what ever but like no sex, fingering etc

yeah i think 11 is too young. an 11 year old should focus on being 11. they have plenty of time to do that and more in their lifetime. A kiss leads to more than a kiss and more than a kiss leads to alot more. Emotionally and mentally 11 year olds are not ready for all that.

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I have loads of ideas what to get get my boyfriend for Christmas. I want to get him some aftershave, however, I'm not sure which one. I'm not that familiar with men's aftershaves, so does any guy have any suggestions of nice smelling ones? I don't want to end up going round to every shop that sells fragrance and smelling all of the guys ones! I know he likes Calvin Klein and David Beckham's and some others which I don't remember the name of.
Guys helpppp :]
Or girls if your guy has any nice ones, all ideas appreciated :]

ed hardy cologne.. sooo good.

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I'm 15/f and I really want to get a job somewhere in my town. Any ideas of who to go to that would know of stores or busienesses that are looking for hire? Also, I have one babysitting customer that doesn't use me often, so any ideas on how to get babysitting jobs rather than flyers? because I tried that, it didn't work.

snagajob.com lets you search jobs hiring in your area

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15/m

my gf asked me if i masterbated and i admitted that i do. When i asked her if she did she said "no". I dont believe her. I guess what i want to know is if most girls my age do it or not.

Well I cant say that "most" do, because I just wouldnt know, but a lot do. and theres also a lot that dont, so she could be telling the truth and of course she could so be lying. If shes lying its just because shes not comfortable telling you, girls are more private with that stuff than guys.

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16/f

I'm worried about my first time hurting, If I'm wet I can easily fit three fingers inside my vagina, will being able to do this mean it'll hurt less?

What else could I do?

Thats probly about the width of a dick so yeah thatd be good if you could do that. But if the guy is rough and going hard and too fast then itll hurt regardless of what you can stick in there. Just relax and dont think about it hurting.

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We have co-ed gym in my school and when we get in there sometimes you can see the girls breasts like it was some kind of wet t-shirt contest. (I wish they would make them wear bras!)

I guess you can guess what happens next. Yep! Boner in gym class. Lucky me!

Can you guys tell me any mind tricks or something to keep this from happening? I am not thinking any bad thoughts or anything but you know how it is you see boobies and your body does the rest. :(

Lol well you could just look away. You could talk to your guy friends so your not focused on the girls. Or you could just keep your boner, because its completely natural, your a guy they are hott girls, when i see a guy with a boner i just think yeah I know you want me. so its fine.

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I think i am depressed. I am 16/f. I am 5/7" and weight like 215. I look at everyone else, and think about how pretty they are, and how I am not.
I am embarresed alot. I hate talking to others. I don't like anything about myself. My friends are all changing! I will never change...
I have the best family and home. ANd I can't be happy like everyone else. For some reason. URG>> i know people who live in foster home, to foster home. No money no one at home
how can i be healthy and happy and my friends stilll wanna be my friends whats happeneing?

Losing weight would be a good start. you would start feeling better about yourself on the outside anyway. you should go on a diet, go running, look up workouts online.. you can start by looking up losetenpoundsinthreedays .com or something on google and it lets you choose how many days and how much weight you want to lose in those days. Itll take months to get down a lot of weight but you can do it. Then something i like doing is changing my hair, the color or maybe getting bangs. And once you lose weight you will love to get a new warddrobe. Hit me up if you want to know anything else

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I am super embarrassed but I tried to put one in and I found out that tampons HURTS! Is it like this for everyone or am I a freak?

nope your not a freak lol. tampons DO hurt when your trying to get them in. when you got it in correctly then you shouldnt feel it at all. but until you get used to putting one in, itll probly reallly hurt

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So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.

I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).

I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.

What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?

Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.

Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!

DONT SAY IT. ive heard guys get really freaked out by that stuff. theyll say whoa this girl just told me she loved me and thats crazy. or they will say it back to their girlfriend and then youll hear them saying yeah i tell my girl i love her but i dont really love her, i just tell her that to make her happy. Its only been 3 weeks. say it when its been like a year.. so it doesnt creep him out.

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14/f

i've never had a boyfriend
(so ive never kissed anyone or done anything like that)

i have commitment issues...as in im really scared of a realtionship. i REALLY dont know what to do about it...i mean ill be SO excited because i know that a certain guy likes me, and i get really happy when there talking to me (ive been asked out enough to recognize the "asking out" conversation...) and then they ask me out....and my heart skips a beat and i tell them what i always say: maybe...i have to think about it. and then end up saying no or just letting it fade away without ever giving them an answer

it really kills me because i would do anything for a boyfriend...but apparently i just cant handle the commitment...i like the freedom im flirting with a bunch of guys without worrying about cheating.

i guess subconsciously i sort of believe once im in a relationship thered be NO way out. also, since im a perfectionist, i notice little flaws in the boys that ask me out, which does NOT work for me

i know i probably sound incredibly shallow and probably bipolar but i cant really help it...its just very confusing and i dont know how to get over my fears.

thanks for any help you have :)

next time someone asks, and your about to say no, just stop yourself and say yes. you might wind up really liking the guy and be with him for a long time, or you guys could hang out like twice and you decide you dont like him that much, so end it. really relationships as a teen arent serious so you can just end it and get in a new one and do that like ten times and its not serious.

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theres this guy i really like and i want to know what are some ways to seduce him haha like how can i be more sexy and make him really want me?

Well the most obvious thing, you could just sit on top of him and make out. take some clothes off, touching, and things just work out from there. Or if your not at that level with him yet then just touch him nicely, like on the shoulder and flirt alot.

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I'm a 14 year old girl and i weigh 131 ibs, im also 5'1. I'm not fat, i'm just a bit chunky and i also have an athletic body. I just want to how many pounds would I lose if i dont eat for 2 whole weeks while jogging 1-2 miles everyday.

You wont even be able to not eat and still run 1-2 miles.. trust me it just wont work. what you could do is go on google and look up lose ten pounds in 3 days.. and go to the site that says like losetenpoundsinthreedays.com or something. then it will give you different options on the amount of weight you want to lose and in the amount of time. pick one, and it will give you a meal plan. it might not work but you will lose some weight.

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Hi there,

I am trying to pierce my own nose what do i use just the stud and some pliers or a sewing needle or??? I know you can pierce your own nose and my mom isn't going to pay for it so how do I do it myself?

Should I get my friend to help me pierce my nose?

i dont recomend that because stories i have heard of people piercing their nose resulted in them passing out on the floor. definitely have a friend do it. my mom did most of my ear piercings and has done nose piercings, just stick the stud through. if your not good with pain, numb it with ice first.

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So when i get erections if im around a girl i find semi attractive i always find myself trying to make it noticable to them. So my question is do girls find it arousing if they can see you have an erection?

haha definitely do NOT make it noticable. In my opinion its very like awkward and sometimes creepy. It makes me think damn why cant he control himself. Its just pervish especially if you just met or your just friends or something.

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I really want to make my room more "me", but I don't really know where to start. I don't like a single thing in it. I'm all about peace, so I want my room to somehow reflect that. I was going to paint the walls green or blue. I was thinking of putting up a bunch of posters too, but I'm not sure where I'd find them. I have carpet so I can't really get any rugs or anything. I don't know. What all can I do to make it more personal?

you can get like a peace sign stencil, not sure if you like peace signs but yea,,. and spray paint the peace sign on your wall. how bout a soft yellow with an accent wall of a cute blue. that seems like peaceful calm colors. black and white pictures seems peaceful. definitely get some candles or insense (not sure if i spelled that right) and make sure its that calm cool smell. and like if you have any favorite bands or artists or like pictures of friends and family you could make a door collage, just post it all up on the inside of your door. its cool for people to look at when they come in. and you can slowly keep adding to it

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16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas??

if she becomes single then tell her how you feel, that you like her and are interested in being more than just friends but will accept it if she just wants to be friends. but dont tell her now or while shes in any relationship because its bad to interfere and you'll mess with her head. but for right now you have to just sit back and possibly find someone else..

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it's been about a month since my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex. i did have my period but it was about a week earlier than normal and it only lasted about two and a half days, and it usually lasts 4-5 days. My period is usually very regular as well. i've been getting nauseous more easily if i eat or smell certain things, and i get carsick a lot easier. I've looked on the internet and i'm just not certain, could it be time for a pregnancy test?
17/f
please only answer if you have advice, i don't need opinions on protected sex.
Thank you

if you have to come on here and ask if you should take one then you should have already taken one.. you dont want to waste time developing a baby if you are preggo..

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and i'm not exaggerating, there's nothing there- i have hips, started my period, etc. and my chest is completely flat as of a 10-year-olds. im 110 lbs, almost 5'6, and i'm really starting to wonder if i will ever get them. is it possible i'll just stay flat-chested the rest of my life and have the chest of a man? as you can imagine i'm really starting to hate and feel completely self-conscious about my body, even though i wear padded bras, etc. i can't do that my entire life and i'm starting to be really really concerned because i've been waiting for them to grow for about 6 years now (some of my friends started developing as early as age 9.) now every single girl my age has them and as much as people tell me i'm "just a late bloomer" and i "still have time" well guess what? i have a woman's body (hips and all), but absolutely no chest what-so-ever. every. single. girl. i. have. ever. seen. or. met. has. boobs. my. age. not only that, but all other signs of puberty are there. so how can i accept myself like this or continue to wait it out? my mom started developing when she was in junior high, and i'm in TENTH, yes tenth grade. i can't even go swimming because guys and girls will plainly see my non-existant chest and it will be it's completely repulsive. please help if you have any advice at all i would really appreciate it :(
thank you
p.s.: (sorry if this is really long), and please don't give me answers if you're gunna say something like "you're only 15 stop being so god damn impatient", it's easy to say coming from someone who's not in my position, believe me. when you're surrounded by people who all have something you don't and are supposed to have, it's a bit destructive on your self esteem.

well if your completely flat chested like a dude then id be worrying too because its getting kind of late. you know what I have heard works.. Beautifull, its a pill that helps grow your boobs to their fullest potential. your boobs can stop growing or not grow due to various reasons like stress or something that causes it to slow down the process. look up these pills called Beautifull they have a website and they arent dangerous or stuff like that. See what your mom thinks or you can even buy it yourself by sending the money in the mail and will come in a discreet package. Its said in about 3 months you'll definitely notice a difference and they could get up to 1 to 3 cup sizes bigger. good luck and if you need any more info ask away.

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This summer I spent a month with my brothers friend on vacation, he came along with my family. I had already liked this boy for quite some time and naturally being with him for so long caused me to want him even more. Well the last week of the vacation we hooked up, I mean we got up to third base and all and I usually dont see myself as that kind of person doing the whole hook up thing I just feel kind of dirty I guess. Well about a week after we got back he asked me out and told me that he couldnt stop thinking about me and I was the happiest girl in the world. Now we've been going out for a month and a half and I've been super happy but he keeps pressuring me to...go back to third base and I know we've had the physical aspect of a relationship familiarized before but I cant help thinking that 1. its too soon in our relationship to get so hot and heavy, 2. he might just want me because I'll give him physical attention and he might not like me as I like him so much and 3. since he already has gotten me to go to third base with him he going to expect it all the time. Anways I'm just really confused, Im 16 and I feel like maybe I'm too young? I'm not sure, any advice or experience that you may have with this would be really helpful! Thank you so much!

well if u realli dont want to then dont. but why not? you like him, he likes you, im assuming you find him attractive.. just do it. you only live once. i like to think of it like this.. what if you never got to see him ever again..wouldnt u want to kiss him one more time.

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i was watching the movie "Adventureland" and they were... im guessing 18-19 and smoking pot and drinking. I know smoking pot and under aged drinking is illegal and that its just a movie but, is it ok to do those things at that age? Does everybody do it? i'm usually 100% a good girl (A+ student) etc. And would never consider smoking pot or drinking, but i can't help but wonder... HELP! i am currently only 13 though and will not smoke pot at this age. but

1.) is it ok at that age?
2.) does everbody do it?

- so confused.

well your 13 pretty much the age where people get drunk for the first time or smoke for the first time. There is nothing wrong with being a good girl. I do think that you should have an experience though. Middle school its not that common, but once you get to high school, drinking and smoking is really not a big deal. Im not saying everyone is a pot head and alcoholic but at parties thats the thing to do for a good time. People wont think less of you, its just normal.

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