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Last Update: May 15, 2008
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i never tried this ask a random columnist thing before but oh well. Im 15 years old, female, from a small small town and like every teenager i have issues. sometimes i just feel so alone and i have friends and they are the best and i have family who are great as well but still i cant help but feel alones sometimes, also i cant help but feel like im not doing what im supposed to be doing like somehow im living a different life than what i was supposed to. i just need someone to talk to and maybe someone who can relate you dont need to answer this but u if do thats great too (link)
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oh im sorry i didnt respond before.. i just hadnt signed on in a while.
but im so shocked because i feel the same way..
to me its like a feeling where you can be surrounded by the most amazing friends, but when you're alone for just a second, its a feeling that you've been alone for years...
sometimes i just get sad because it feels like you're in a world that sometimes people dont understand how you feel.. its a feeling of loneliness that wont go away...
im not really giving you advice and im sorry.. its just so surprising to me that someones asking me... lol.. wen im like in a similar situation, i just never really knew how to explain it all. you put it in like the right words...
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im thinkin n i mean carefully thinking about kissing my friend. My friend is a boy. I am a girl. I dont like him but idk Im thinking about just randomly kissing him.
What should I do? Because im retardedly nervous and never kissed a guy before. LOL (link)
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well... im my opinion, i think you shud go for it !!! if i was in that situation i would risk kissing him because who knows?.. maybe after that you realize you have feelings for him and he might like you also !!! :)
hope you decide what YOU think is right and it all works for the better :D best of luckk :D
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Are there any websites where you can watch movies for free? (link)
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onlinecinema.org is good~! you should check there.. HOPE I HELPED!
*~Colombiana~*
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how long do you get your period for? like is it 4 days or a week? i get mine for only 3 days and it gets ligter every day. is that normal? (link)
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Yeah! thats perfectly normal.. girl's get their periods in different cycles & they dont last the same time. & it is supposed to get lighter every day.. you're lucky at least it doesnt last days & days like some people's do. =]
i hope i helped!
*~Colombiana~*
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im 13. i love scary movies its mainly what i watch. i saw the scariest movie of the year just now. im so fuckin paranoid im shaking so badly i cant even see straight i dont wana be alone i think ill die tonight by rape or torture HOPEING NOT!. what can i do!?! (link)
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OMFG! i.m rite there wit u.. i absolutely loveeeee scary movies.. but all u have to do is turn on all the lights & carry the phone with you if you're home alone.. you can also watch a movie/ watch a tv show thats not scary.. maybe something funny. BTW: what movie was it? LOL.(i know its random,but i want to know what scary movie it is).
And don't worry it's just a movie & nothing is going to happen to you. =]
*~Colombian Chicka~*
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at night i get really scared to sleep. i always think i hear noises and i cry and shake. i dont know what to do i've been having this prob my whole life. im 13 btw. does anyone have any tips i can do. i have those night time soundtracks but they dont really work and i always get scared to listen to them considering i think someone might be in my house!! PLEASE HELP ME=[ (link)
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Its ok.......I used to be like that too.
I would recommend to stop watching really scary movies, that's probably what causes your fears. Believe me, i used to be like that too and I still fear a little bit, but since ive stopped watching really scary movies, I've realaxed. If you think you can take the movies then go ahead and watch them but if they really scare you right away when you start watching it....then STOP!
Also, if you believe in religion like God (like me) I would recommend you to pray because when God is with you, you are truly protected.
This advice was given by my BFFL!
*~Colombiana~*
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my dad calls me fat sometimes.. it makes me so mad! because really im not that fat.. i've gained a few pounds but im a growing girl who hasnt really played in sports for like a couple months, which is my parents fault for not registering me. i dont like running.. and i do it like once a week.. but i have to do things lik soccer or volleyball where i dont really pay attention to the fact that im running and such, making it easier. but when he calls me fat it really pisses me off because there are people waaay bigger than me. we dont have a scale.. but honestly im not that fat. i even eat healthy foods.. sometimes i eat candy and chocolate but what kid doesnt? i eat whats in the house which is usually like african food my mom and aunt make.. so... yeah.
and the "fat" comment really annoyed me too, cause that day i hardly ate anything at all. cause i had PMS and whenever i have PMS for some reason the cramps make me not wanna eat. (explanation?) cause my dad said i eat too much, and im like "how do yo know what i eat all the time? i barely even ate anything today!" im not going anorexic or anything but i felt like i wanted to do that or just eat alot to make him mad for saying that comment. he never apologized, which happens alot for alot of things.. they just forget about it the next day and not really apologize.. him AND my mom do that alot. but i dont forget. i dont like people calling me that. i should be able to choose how i feel about my body. obviously i DO know that im not in the best shape right now and i'll solve it.. but it pisses me off that he had to say that to me! i was like "i dont fucking care!" when i did.. and he like smacked me cause i said a cuss word.. and i like never do in front of my parents.. they dont even like the word "piss", though they call poop "shit" and say "damn" sometimes too.
ughhhhhhhhhhh please help me. 13/f. (link)
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hey.. i.m rite there wit u.. my parents do that sumtimes too.. =/ i dont even get pissed.. i juss get really sad.. but i kinda juss ignore it, but thats not really a good solution.. you shud really juss talk to them & tell them that it hurts your feelings when they say that... i.m sure that they'll understand.. i hope i helped at least a little! =]
~Colombian Chicka
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To make this short and simple. We played a mean joke on our friends. We pretended to get into an argument and cry. We yelled and cussed eachother out, and we even kicked eachother out the house. All of it was just a joke, and we'll admit it was funny, until our friends we're seriously upset and they were crying. We didn't know it would go that far and we are very very very sorry. I dont even know if they will forgive us. I know that I will be uncomfortable around them even if they do. What should we do to get our best friends back? (link)
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Let me make this shorter.. you shudnt have played that joke on your friends.. w/o knowing how one of them was going to react. your friends dont hate you. i dont. gabby is not going to talk to you guys just so you know. she was really upset about it.. she was really upset because she was blaming herself for everything. she was cryin a lot. i cried too... but i thought you were lying about the crying thing.. you guys kept saying you werent.. casey was sayin that. but i was still doubting it. i was thinking you were playing a joke. then it went too far.. because gabby was really getting upset and i was getting concerned because you guys started to cuss each other out. i was confused about how it all started.. i even called caseys house to find out caseys cell.. so i could call her since you kicked her out your house. i was really concerned. and gabby was pissed off when she found out it was a joke. i kinda just thought ok w.e. that was messed up because gabby was getting really upset but then when gabby was really upset and i was crying too.. we thought it was mean.. mostly i was concerned because gabby was really hurt. if i happened to you.. i would be upset too. i didnt want her to be upset, just like i wouldnt want u to be upset. then she yelled and cussed at you guys because she was annoyed about it. and then you guys kept calling and we were ignoring your calls. i was telling her to just pick up and hang up if she didnt want to talk to you, but she just let it ring or w.e. then i just had to get over it because i didnt want to just continue getting upset. so i didnt care. it might have been a mean joke but i was thinking if hadnt hurt gabby i prob. wudnt have minded much and thought it was funny. but i didnt like it because gabby was blaming herself and she was really upset. i didnt want her to feel bad for something that wasnt her fault. then thats the story. i didnt make it any shorter.. than your question.. but w.e... i.m not really mad at u guys.. but it upset gabby A LOT .. so dont even bother talkin to her..you should apologize if you want.. dont apologize to me.. but to her..shes not ever going to talk to you guys.. she might get over it.. but she was so pissed and upset you have no idea.. so i wouldnt really count on it.. well at least not for a while... still, no matter wat you're still MY BEST FRIEND!
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could never quite comprehend that...
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Cant you tell when someone doesnt love you,
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Dont you feel when the love isnt authentic...
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Isnt the lovemaking so distanced and cold,icy cold...
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When you look in their eyes dont you see love dont
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live there,at least not love for you...
Why do most of you torture yourselves in that manner...
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why do you you spend x amount of money to hold on to
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a person that just does not love you the way you would
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want them to...
Why put yourself through such agony..where is your integrity...
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where is YOUR LOVE FOR SELF...
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where is it...
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What is so WRONG with many of us...
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Where is the RIGHT within that is standing for
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our defense....
YOU always know,deep down inside when someone just
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does NOT LOVE YOU...
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I kind of think I understand your question. Your asking why do people put themselves through so much trouble for someone even when they know the other person doesn't love them. you're asking people why they go through all that, but I think it's because maybe they truely love that person and they are satisfied with all they are doing, even if they know they won't be liked back the same way. That person might truely love that other person, and be satisfied that they made the other person happy, by all the things they do for them. They THINK this will make everything better sometimes, but it doesnt always works. Not everyone can be bought with material things and sucjh. Even if you show the other person true love for them, they just dont feel that way about you. They think it will change everything.. srry thats all i can say to help you. i.ll update this response later.. srry.
-Colombiana
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Maybe I'm just a person who feels this way, but when I give advice, half the people don't even respond to me, like give me a rating. Of course I know it's their decision to rate, but I really don't appreciate the fact that I spend a good amount of time answering a question, and the person doesn't rate me. Does anybody else feel this way? (link)
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I just do this to help people, but yeah sometimes it does bother me, but either ways it won't ruin my day or mood because I know I tried to help them anyways. I take my time and usually write these longggggg answers to people(only if needed)!
But just keep in mind that you just want to help the person and the ratings don't matter that much, even though i get happy when someone rates my question...lol..
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ok well theres this new kid in school and he is REALLY CUTE!!! He stares at me in all the classes we have together...
I really want to get to know him and maybe go out with him somtime.
But the thing is he has the same last name as me which makes it kinda weird doesnt iT???
Do you think it would be really weird??!?!?!?
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no its not wierd.. not really.. and if you want to get to know him, TALK TO HIM! ohh.. but just so you know, you might want to check whether you're related or something. But i know a lot of people that have the same last name, and it doesn't bother them. Just talk to him and get to know him and you two can become friends, or even more. And if people ask you whether your related to one another (and you know your not), simpley tell them no. And this is something good, if you two grow up and get married, you won't have to change your last name.
Hope I helped!
-Colombiana :)
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my brother is 15 yrs old and still likes Spongebob! is there any possible reason for this and how can i get him to stop watching this show? i know that sounds mean, but seriously.. (link)
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let him be.. if he enjoys watching that show, just let him. lets say you liked a "little kid" show..would you want people to stop making you watch it just because they think its childish?.. i felt so immature when i read this because i still watch kid shows like on Disney channel and stuff.. and if you think watching those shows if childish.. listen to this. my sister is 19 (turing 20 this Sept.) and i she loves Tellitubies(i dont think she watches them anymore, but she still loves them -lol!).. personally i think that show is retarded but i let her do w.e. she wants because she enjoys watching it.. she sits with her daughter (my niece) and watches BABY shows with her (like the Backyardigans- or something like that- how would i know?..lol) and i know that she enjoys watching them too... so yea.. you should just let him watch that if thats what he enjoys.. i actually think thats really cool that a 15 year old teenage boy doesnt care what people say about him watching kid shows..its who he is.. its cool that he's "in touch with his inner child!" tell him i said that.. no i.m just kidding around, but its really cool that he does that... and have you heard that "girls mature faster than boys?".. well maybe thats why he enjoys those shows and you dont.. but imma girl and i enjoy those shows!..lol...
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13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what? (link)
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your mom should'nt be doing that to you.. so what if you like butterflies? and she should be happy that you don't have a bf at your age.. MY mom would actually be happy about that... its ok if you like to dress that way. Honestly, she SHOULDN'T be concerned about that. and i really think she shouldn't be getting into your business like that...and reading your diary..thats messed up.. but she is your mom. dont be rude to her.. just explain to her that you want your privacy, tell her that you don't want a bf at your age, and that you like to dress that way because you like your outfits in the colors black and gray.. and just because you like those colors doesn't make you a goth. you really need to explain to her that you want your privacy with at least what you write in your diary because they are your personal thoughts... try to explain to her that she shouldn't have told everyone about what happened with the diary (dont be rude about it or dont talk back to her when she's telling you why she did, and most important DON'T yell back.. thats the worst thing you can do because that will aggravate her!).. from now on just try to keep your diary hidden if you dont want her to read it.. and dont be suspicious about it either. do your best to have a nice, long conversation with her about your privacy and her calling you all those names, like a lesbian just because of what you like (just so you know- those things dont make you a lesbian at all!)good luck having that mother-daughter conversation with her.. and i hope it all works out for the best..and sorry if this is so long.. but i wanted to explain to you in detail what you should do.. hope i helped!
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What's the difference between latinos and hispanics? and what is chicano (link)
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Hispanic= A native or resident of Spanish descent living in the southwest United States.
Latino(a)= a person of Latin-American or Spanish-speaking descent.
Chicano= is a Mexican-American
hope that helps..
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how do you get rid of blackheads? i use products but im not sure im doing it right
i use hot water to wash my face to open my pores and wash my face first before using any products.. (link)
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ok.. iknow that this works really well so..
You should use Clean & Clear Daily Pore Cleanser.. it works really well. actually you can use any of the Clean & Clear products.. you can get one for sensitive skin..etc...and just follow the directions on the back of the "container" or however you call it.. and by the way.. you should use WARM WATER NOT REALLY HOT WATER.. that'll really help you a lot.. it helped me with the blackheads i was getting..
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HELP!!
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I have the new AIM 6.0 & I can't figure out how to delete a buddy. I right clicked & it should say delete & I hit actions-nothing. HELP!
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i also have aim 6.0 so i think i can help you..
first, you select the buddy you want to delete, and then towards the bottom of your buddy list, there are buttons for "IM", a "+/-", and an "actions" button. click the "+/-" (plus/minus) button and it says "delete selection" under there.. so then u click it.. and it deletes the buddy.. thats all you have to do..i had trouble with it wen i 1st got it too..LOL!
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if pee is clear does that mean youre hydrated (link)
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its a GOOD thing that it is.. it means that you drink enough water, and not all those sodas and sweet drinks. it means your healthy.. and if you start to drink sodas and stuff, it will get darker (not a good thing!), so don't..
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im really out of shape
and getting chubby
can i lose weight by jumping rope half an hour everyday no matter how tired ill get? (link)
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you can definately lose weight by going any activity like that.. you can swim, jump rope, walk (on a treadmill if you perfer), run, or anything else... but you can aslo eat healthier if you already don't.. not too much junk food.. only eat it once in a while... yep.. thats all i can really help you with.. hope it helps you lose all the weight you want to lose.
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i am 21 and i still didnt get my period!!! it's really weird can anyone help me out? *stephanie (link)
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you REALLY NEED TO GO SEE A DOCTOR! i heard about people getting their periods late, but its too late.. you prob. shouldve gotten it by now.. tho your kind of lucky because having your period sucks! but you should really go see a doctor sometime soon...
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theres this guy and i have a class with him...he's really cool and stuff..i like him alot...he talks to me sometimes but most of the time it's about english hmrk...i flirt with him sometimes...but i don't think he knows..he's really quiet..
theres this girl named H and this is his childhood friend...there always talking..i know they don't like each other but i don't know wat to do...sometimes i wish she would just get out of that class...but she's really nice and has a bf...
i try to have this guy talk to me more but i don't know wat to do??...i flirt with him but i don't think that's enough...i want him to find out hiself that i like him...
i also think he's the independent kind of guy the one that does'nt have a gf....i don't know wat to do
plese help
14/f
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i know exactly how you feel a i kinda of have the same problem... i know this boy who i like and i talk to him sometimes but not a lot.. he tries to talk to me too (often)... and he talks to this other girl a lot, but he doesnt like her, he is only friends with her. She likes him tho, but he ignores her wen she flirts with him cuz he isnt interested what-so-ever. i really like him and i also want him to talk more to me, but all you can actually do is think/come up with diff. subjects you two can talk about. if he's into sports, or on a team, you can talk to him about that. you can like ask him how his last game went. you can talk to him about his hobbies and things like that...then once you two talk even more.. you two become better friends and you'll be more comfortable around each other.. and will talk more often. you can talk about even more varied subjects once you get closer... thats all i can really say to help you.. sorry if this is so long, but i hope it helps.
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