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dad calls me fat!
my dad calls me fat sometimes.. it makes me so mad! because really im not that fat.. i've gained a few pounds but im a growing girl who hasnt really played in sports for like a couple months, which is my parents fault for not registering me. i dont like running.. and i do it like once a week.. but i have to do things lik soccer or volleyball where i dont really pay attention to the fact that im running and such, making it easier. but when he calls me fat it really pisses me off because there are people waaay bigger than me. we dont have a scale.. but honestly im not that fat. i even eat healthy foods.. sometimes i eat candy and chocolate but what kid doesnt? i eat whats in the house which is usually like african food my mom and aunt make.. so... yeah.
and the "fat" comment really annoyed me too, cause that day i hardly ate anything at all. cause i had PMS and whenever i have PMS for some reason the cramps make me not wanna eat. (explanation?) cause my dad said i eat too much, and im like "how do yo know what i eat all the time? i barely even ate anything today!" im not going anorexic or anything but i felt like i wanted to do that or just eat alot to make him mad for saying that comment. he never apologized, which happens alot for alot of things.. they just forget about it the next day and not really apologize.. him AND my mom do that alot. but i dont forget. i dont like people calling me that. i should be able to choose how i feel about my body. obviously i DO know that im not in the best shape right now and i'll solve it.. but it pisses me off that he had to say that to me! i was like "i dont fucking care!" when i did.. and he like smacked me cause i said a cuss word.. and i like never do in front of my parents.. they dont even like the word "piss", though they call poop "shit" and say "damn" sometimes too.
ughhhhhhhhhhh please help me. 13/f.
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hey.. i.m rite there wit u.. my parents do that sumtimes too.. =/ i dont even get pissed.. i juss get really sad.. but i kinda juss ignore it, but thats not really a good solution.. you shud really juss talk to them & tell them that it hurts your feelings when they say that... i.m sure that they'll understand.. i hope i helped at least a little! =]
~Colombian Chicka <3
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aww, i'm so sorry hun! that's not right of them to call you that, but next time ignore it or say, "yah know, that really hurts my fealings!" hopefully they will understand! if not, question me back! :[ hope everything gos good! lovee, morgan.
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I can tell you that you shouldn't feed into negativity....
Parents will be parents..
Yes the word FAT may hurt but you shouldn't let 1 little word hurt your feelings you know what you are and if you think your not fat then so be it your not fat...
Only GOD can judge you.
So when your father or mother introduces you into more negativity ignore it never let people get to you at all.............
So please listen to this..
Sticks and stones may hurt my bones...
But WORDS will never hurt me..
But if they hurt you SO bad that your feel unloved or mistreated its another thing..
Have you ever ask your father was he just playing??
Have you thought about talking to your parents about hurting you or using words that make you feel uncomfrontable???
If not I think you should sit them down and explain how you feel about them using negative words to affend you..
Like my aunt once told me
"Theres only 1 life to live. Dont let people take over that 1 life. Ignore the judgement and live on life... Be cool about it.. Say whatever... I know what I am and that is not what I am."
xoxoxoxoTRINAxoxoxoxo
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i reall y dont aree with what gobreakdance said in his first sentence. the rest is all true.
but seriously talk to one of them about it and try not to cuss in front of them. i sure ur parent s are just poking some laugh at you. it may be a way for ur dad to say he loves u. i dad also says stuff like that too but he isnt trying to hurt me. just talk to him im sure it will work out. good luck
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First of all don't listen to your parent's NEGATIVITY they're being jerks and are trying to make you feel bad. You know you aren't fat so you need to ignore it. Try talking to one of your parents [one who will have more chance of listening to you] and tell them how you feel.
Secondly if your father keeps smacking you and stuff, that is child abuse. You can't really do much about that unless there are a lot of visible bruises.
ADDED: I don't know how hard he smacks you or whatever. I just said that because I don't like it when parent's do that and it bothers me. [long story] I just don't think it's right.
I know you probably don't want to but if he smacks you for cussing then don't cuss around them even if they do cuss. All parents are hypocrites you need to know that. Ignore them. Don't listen to the hurtful things they say because you don't deserve to have those things said to you. Your parents are wrong and if they can't respect you, you obviously don't need to listen to the cruel things they say.
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