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getting his attetion
theres this guy and i have a class with him...he's really cool and stuff..i like him alot...he talks to me sometimes but most of the time it's about english hmrk...i flirt with him sometimes...but i don't think he knows..he's really quiet..
theres this girl named H and this is his childhood friend...there always talking..i know they don't like each other but i don't know wat to do...sometimes i wish she would just get out of that class...but she's really nice and has a bf...
i try to have this guy talk to me more but i don't know wat to do??...i flirt with him but i don't think that's enough...i want him to find out hiself that i like him...
i also think he's the independent kind of guy the one that does'nt have a gf....i don't know wat to do
plese help
14/f
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Hey!
To be honest, I think youre giving guys way too much credit. Sorry to any guy who read that and got offended, but hehe it's true, and you'll forget about it in a few minutes anyway. :P See girls are always thinking that guys should just assume we like them, I know because I do it sooo much. I'm like oh well he knows I like him, therefore if he likes me he'll step up and ask me out, but not only are most guys not psychic, but even if they were, they probably wouldn't just randomly ask out a girl if they think theres any chance that they could get turned down. So whats the answer to getting them to realize that we like them? Well the obvious one is flirting, which you've been doing, but theres two different things that could be going on here. A) He doesn't notice (which is actually more likely than you would think, I've met guys who were like hmm, that girls pretty nice to me, and I'll be like..she's flirting with you, and he'll be like oh... that makes sense, I thought she just thought flipping her hair was fun. Lmao) or B) he notices but doesnt know what it means. (thats also more likely than you would think). Guys can be super smart, and got at shcool type stuff, but have no idea what a girl means by flirting, and the reason is, girls will do it even when they don't like a guy (I'm sure you know what I'm talking about) so guys often become immune to it, especially if his friend, is more friendly than most, which you sorta seemed to imply. Like if she's sorta flirting with out knowing it and its actually pretty obvious to everyone else then, he may just think that when you're flirting you're just a cute girl who wants to be his friend. Also, btw, totaly don't worry about feeling jealous, we are all like that sometimes, especially when it comes to our crushes friends, so it's okay to hate her. Theres this girl who is like my bff now, but when I was in the eighth grade I totally hate her because she was going out with my crush. They broke up after only a coupel of months, but I still didnt really like her, until a few months later when we did a project together, and she had no idea I hated her, but liek I said, I was an idiot and let my jealousy get in the way of having a great friend, but you seem to know that just because she's friends with your crush, she's not an evil person, so props.
Kay, so what do we do? Well you want him to ask you out, well as I mentioned before, guys don't usually know you want them to ask them out, and if they do, then theyre really great guys that we all dream out. So I think that you should try and talk to him more, try and bring up things that don't have to do with english(?) or what ever class it is. Try and bring up stuff he likes, and stuff you liek to counter act that. Bring up movies you want to see, or inexpensive things you want to do that he could ask you out on a date to. Talk about how excited you are for the dance, and you wish you had a date type thing. Keep flirting, it's our best tool. And try to say something that will make him laugh. Because thats what a lot of guys look for in a girl, as much as we want a guy to be funny, they want a girl to be funny too. If all of that doesnt work, and I'm not saying do it all tomorrow and wait for him to ask you out, if after a couple of weeks or months, he still doesnt see that into you, try asking him out, make it simple, such as a movie with some friends, or to come over and watch a hockey game or whatever, try and find something that doesnt really seem like a date, and then show him that you can be friends first, but try not to scare him off. Make sure it's not something where he would feel pressure to have to ask you out again afterward. Remember it's okay to ask a guy out, we don't live in the 1600's. It's just hard, and everyone hates doing it. If he says he doesnt feel like it, or puts off his answer for a long time, ask him out again a few days later, and if he says no again, then chances are he just doesnt want to go out right now, maybe another time. Then wait a few weeks and try again. If he still says no, then mayeb you should move on, because maybe you're right and he is the independant type who just wants to be alone. There are millions of guys out there, and you're only 14, lots of guy chasing years. hehe. Hope this works out, tho and let me know if you want anything clarified, or anymore help. Thanks for asking me, and don't ever hesitate to ask!! Love ya lots,
Angie91
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i know exactly how you feel a i kinda of have the same problem... i know this boy who i like and i talk to him sometimes but not a lot.. he tries to talk to me too (often)... and he talks to this other girl a lot, but he doesnt like her, he is only friends with her. She likes him tho, but he ignores her wen she flirts with him cuz he isnt interested what-so-ever. i really like him and i also want him to talk more to me, but all you can actually do is think/come up with diff. subjects you two can talk about. if he's into sports, or on a team, you can talk to him about that. you can like ask him how his last game went. you can talk to him about his hobbies and things like that...then once you two talk even more.. you two become better friends and you'll be more comfortable around each other.. and will talk more often. you can talk about even more varied subjects once you get closer... thats all i can really say to help you.. sorry if this is so long, but i hope it helps.
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hmm...well did you ever try talking to this childhood friend about him? maybe she can help ya out a little bit,after all she has known him for a long time.if not try writing him little notes in class.say "hey whats up"or "we should hang out sometime"
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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okay well i have have a BEST FRIEND who is going through the same thing as you so i hope what i have to say can help you...
to put it plain and simple, you just need to be outgoing. not to the point of annoyance, but just enough to make him start thinking "i think she likes me, but im not quite sure" yeah?
try asking to hang out and stuff. but not like a date. make it so theres a couple of your friends and a couple of his friends and just see if he wants to "tag along". or come to a sport meet of his and just tell him he did a good job afterward. its a great way to start conversation.
i know these things sound chessey. but seriously, guys dont mind.
hope i helped.
xoxo
OH and also during class, if he keeps asking you things about hmwk and he doesnt sit right beside you (which he might idk) but if he doesnt then he might just be using that as an excuse to talk to you...
GOOD LUCK and just take a breath and talk to him. (:
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I've been through basically the same type of situation, so I know how you feel, and yeah it can be hard.
So I'd suggest one of the times you're flirting with him- ask him for his phone number or aim screen name or some other way you can get in contact with him outside of school
Once you have that- call/message him one day and just start a conversation with him. (it would probably be easier over texting or IMing at first)
Talk to him and flirt a little.
Find out what things he likes to do- and maybe ask him to hang out. (If you're too shy to ask, you could always say something like..hey we should hang out sometime, any ideas where/when?)
And hopefully once you guys get to know each other a little better thing will work out and you'll be a couple.
Oh and also, about his best friend- maybe try talking to her and hinting that you like him. She might take that hint and help you out.
Good Luck & Hope I helped.
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