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"I love you"? Please read details:)
So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.
I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).
I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.
What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?
Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.
Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!
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okay there are three different type of love
you got the casual I love you, serious I love you, and the I'm IN LOVE WITH YOU...
so you really can't tell which one your feeling and till you feel it and I say that it a possibily that your just going through a phase
or you may just be rushing it...which isn't good cause it won't come out the way you may think it will so it better to just let time tell your life
you will know when it the right time just let time tell...and you find out if he the one that you love...but it best to just let time tell and wait to see where things may go....
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i get your point but you guys have only been dating for three weeks. you sound like you really like him as a person and you love the way he makes you feel but usually it takes a little longer to love someone. since people are complicated it takes time to completely get to know them 100%. if it makes you feel any better, it took my boyfriend 4 months to say it to me, and honestly, im glad he waited because he was sure when he said it to me and it made it so much more special. i say you at least give it a couple months, you don't wanna do anything to ruin the relationship and you definetly don't want to put him on the spot or force words out of his mouth that he doesn't mean.
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uhhh.... how about you wait a while, or better yet, let him say it first. I'm not good with this "love" word of which you speak, as I have never had any chick say it to me... so let's just go with some flawed assumptions on that sticky mess.
as for the nature of love, there is no tangible difference between romantic love and loving somebody as a person. they are the same thing, but with a different context and motive. there is, however, a difference between Loving somebody, and being infatuated with them. make sure you avoid that booby-trap...best method, again, would be to wait, see how it goes, and try letting him say it first.
-Gunner
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DONT SAY IT. ive heard guys get really freaked out by that stuff. theyll say whoa this girl just told me she loved me and thats crazy. or they will say it back to their girlfriend and then youll hear them saying yeah i tell my girl i love her but i dont really love her, i just tell her that to make her happy. Its only been 3 weeks. say it when its been like a year.. so it doesnt creep him out.
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