Q: I'm 15 and I've been going out with this girl for a few months now and she tells me that she has a hard time trusing people because of things that had happened in her past. It's not previous bf's or anything because i'm her first real boyfriend. she says she really does try to trust me but but its hard for her. She started to tell me about her past and stuff and i can already start to see why but I really do love her and she does love me and i really want her to be able to trust me, she has had too much happen to her in her life and i just want to be there for her, be someone she can talk to and confide to but thats kinda hard if she has troble trusting me and i know she wants to be able to trust me too. I know in time she'll learn to trust me but i want to know if there is anyway I can help start to trust me more. What confuses me is that she trusts me enough to basicly tell me her entire life story but not enough to to tell me about the small things that are bothering her because she like hides her emotions from others because all her life no one really cared about her feelings so she hides them so i never know when something is bothering her unless she tells me. Also we arn't together that often because she has strict parents and stuff, so we talk mostly on AIM.

She has been putting up this wall to cover up her feelings and emotions for years now. all of her emotions have stayed bottled up for so long and she almost never takes down that barier because of her difficulty with trusting others. and i am ALMOST NEVER with her. her parents rules are like for her to come to my house one of my parents have to be home and one of her parents have to be home at her house whitch is kinda stupid. and if i go to her hpuse i can only be there for an hour, even more stupid. and we cant be with each other after school on school days and stuff except for the occasional football game which isnt wat i want really i want to be alone with her so that we can just talk privitly but thats another one of her dads rules we cant be alone togehter. so anything really deep o personl we talk about is on the computer.

I have told her all of this before she just has such a hard time trusting people bcuz of her past

Please can anyone help me????????

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Q: and here I am again. A New guy. I work with him and hes 22. I'm 18. We only work together for about 2 weeks. Hes really quiet and shy.
On thursday while we were loading (Picking up ppl to bring back to the cruise ship) We talked in the van a little bit, and he kidna opened up. And then he like stroked my chin. when getting back into the van my supervisor is like "Go sit with your boyfriend." ????....and then after work..he came up to me with arm wide open and gave me a 1 minute hug. On Monday I got to see him again..and he didnt say anything. He just looked at me and raised his eyebrows like usual. (You kno when someone looks like they have sumthin to say) well he looked like that. And right b4 work class my supervisor (woman)..she says "Go get your boyfriend, ______"....OMG why me?..and after work i ask him wheres my hug?..and he gave me a cheap 99 cent hug..WAT?...I'm so confused..and one of my other co-workers told me that he does have a 4yr old child.

Q: I dated a guy for almost 2years he was my everything and he was my first. We fougt aloot but we always made up and we knew we loved eachother. things got bad to where we would fight and i would scream and cry every night but there was always something that kept us together. We lived about 20min away driving. But he would sometimes WALK to my house just to see me or get things straigted out no matter the weather. I cant explain our feelings and what we did for eachother. Finally i got tired of the crying and screaming and we broke up. I got a new bf whom ive been with for 2 and half years hes great and we barly fight i love him alot and i know he loves me more then the world and would do anything for me. However, i cannot stop thinking about my ex! hes in my dreams alot and i miss him terribly i feel guilty because i have a bf now but i cannot stop thinking about my ex i do notknow why hes in the military and i always told myself i wouldnt date a military guy but i would for him i dont know why...ive hung out with him be4 and things didnt go too smooth but no matter what i just cant stop thinking about him and i dont know why my current bf is great but my ex just wont leave me mind..

Q: I am 16 years old & from Florida.
& so is the guy in my story.

here's the story...

Last October(2008)I met my stepbrother.
when i laid my eyes on him, I was immediately attracted. He was taller than me, finally! someone taller.. he had long hair and was/is skaterish looking. When we met he was formally dressed. He was on his way to church. Which is one of the things I love about him. He's christian and saving himself for marriage like me. Its so hard to find somebody like that these days.. He also plays guitar,sings a little, and is learning piano. Great, a musician. could he make it any harder me?! Anyways, his mother and I are the best of friends and she tells me everything about him. she and her daughter, my stepsister, even once compared us because we supposably have the same personality. which is awesome because i find myself kind of interesting. But the problem is that we are extremely shy around each other. If we have the same personality then I imagine him to be goofy and funny. But whenever we're around each other its just akward. So akward that we dont even talk. Not to each other, not to anyone. Thanksgiving the whole family was their and we were the only ones not talking at the table. Everyone was asking us if we were okay at times but I really wasnt. I'm falling in love with boy that is supposed to be like a brother figure now that my dad and his mom are married but I cant help it. I cant control my feelings, or what my heart desires. I daydream and he pops out of nowhere; I can't get him out of my head. We're related but not blood. Is that wrong? What should I do?

Q: I Need Advice. Im Fifteen Years Old And Has Only Had A Couple Boyfriends In My Life. I Do Have A Low Self Esteem Issue, But I Need To Find Ways To Like Myself So I Know Guys Will Like Me....


I Really Want A Boyfriendddddd!!!!!

Q: Two weeks before starting our first year of college (at the same university), my boyfriend broke up with me when I brought up how we were leaving so soon and things seemed up in the air with us. I was very much in love with him; he was my first, we dated for a little over a year, we were always there for each other, and none of our friends ever saw the breakup coming. We hang out in the same group of friends, so by the time the news got around most people were already at school.
I visited my best friend that following weekend to get my mind off of it, but at the end of the night I ended up being left by myself in this guy's apartment where he raped me. I didn't tell her (I really didn't want to make her feel like a bad friend, she was drunk and thought I was already gone), and all my other friends were in college already so I didn't want to bother them with my problems, and my parents would freak out and probably make me stay at home, and plus it can't get any more sad; it was the day before my 18th birthday. I'm the kind of person who hates being felt sorry for, and I would rather put it at the back of my mind.
Anyway, back to my ex: we planned on remaining good friends, but after arriving here, we starting ignoring each other, he would do anything to avoid me, and vice versa. I avoided him because I didn't know how to deal with my situation, and I cared about him so I didn't want that hanging over his head too, I would rather him be able to have fun his first year of college without worrying about his ex and her sob story. I have no idea why he is ignoring me, but as winter break is approaching, our group of friends is set on hanging out, and I'm nervous about seeing him; when our mutual friends came up last month to visit he avoided seeing me and we had to take turns taking them out (mature, I know). If we talk, should I explain to him what happened? Would he not care? We're in a band together too so we're basically forced to interact, and I feel like what happened to me was relevant to the way things ended between us. But I know that's not something a guy wants to hear about an ex, which is why I didn't say anything in the first place. Help!

Q: I got taken out of school in the middle of school last year it is almost going to be a year since, and it will be the second semester of school. I got taken out; because there was too much was going on and I was getting in trouble I guess you can say. I drifted away from everyone; I don't talk to anyone from that school old friends anyone. I have been on my own just doing school all day. I believe it was right for me to leave school to I guess re create myself and find out who I really am. Well I have learned so much from being home schooled. Being home schooled has helped me with school and also having a different out look on life and right from wrong. Skipping to Halloween night this year. I was in my room with my mom just crying to her about things that were bothering me, I just was telling her that I can't stand being home schooled and I just want to go back, I have learned so much from this experience and I am ready to go back. I just want to be a normal teen girl living my life... Then I said to her now I want to go back to school so bad but I am so insecure with myself and I compare everyone to myself I just can't go back cause I’m fat and I hate myself. ect. I told her I would NOT want to go back to the school I was at before I left, because I said that everyone moved on with there life and they don't care about me, there going to talk about me ect. And I was just crying and crying... once I let that all out we just kind of talked and I stopped crying..... All of a sudden the door bell rings, my mom goes down stare and all I here is my name I got extremely nervous! They were screaming like oh my god I haven't seen her in for ever I miss her tell her to come down ect. my mom came up and I herd them cause they were screaming but she was telling me that I needed to go down maybe it's a good thing they came it was about 7 people... talk about pressure I hadn’t seen any of them in half a year, I told my mom no I didn't want to but in the back of my head I really did want to because I missed them but I didn't cause I was scared of what they would think of me. I went outside and it was so normal it was like I had never drifted from them and I wasn't different from them body wise. After they left me and my mom continued talking and she said wow was that GOD or what.
So I said you no maybe I should go back to school that I went to before... I have been thinking about it ever since that night and I just don't no my mind has been going back and forth like one day I will get really existed saying yea I should go back and think of all the positives then the next day ill think what the hell there is no way you can go back I’m too fat what if they don't like yada yada yada. My mom wants me to wait till high school, but I would want to go back this January. and she said she doesn't no if she would let me go back... but I wasn't worried about it because I didn't believe that I would really go back because I was scared... well last night we were on our way home from Hollywood studios.. and I told her how my mind just goes back and forth and I gave her all the details... she said well maybe you should just go back this year and ignore your negative thoughts something like that....

I don't understand I got my moms exseptince my old friends excepted me but it's still not good enough because of my stupid mind, I am so uncomfterable with my body and embarrassed with it I want to love who I am but I just can't. I am trying to make god number one in my life again cause I no once my relationship with him is good then everything will line up and I no that I just have to trust him but
I don’t know ugh and I have like 25 days or something in till January:( I don’t know what to do I need help should I take the chance and go or just wait in till I loose weight and love who I am??? Help!

Q: I am an 8th grader he is a 9th grader and he is definitely not the goodest guy to like. He smokes weed,drinks,smokes,sex and shit like that.I am not no goodie goodie.But yah what do you reccomend? stay away or what

Q: 16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...

I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.

Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.

But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?

Q: Well, there's this guy at school and we're friends..
I wouldn't say we went out before, but we had a kind of 'fling' it wasn't very serious, so I won't really count it as a relationship, and this was about a year ago, so it's old now.

Anyway, the point is, I don't even know what brought it on, but we were talking one day and I felt myself starting to think about him again afterwards, and I'm pretty sure I'm starting to like him in that way again..

I just wanna know if I should say something about liking him, or refrain..'cause I don't want it to seem like I'm messing him around, since the last thing that happened with us was a year ago... but at the same time, I'd kinda like to tell him and see if he feels the same. I mean, we got on well when we were 'together', and we have loads in common, so I don't see why not..

Anyway just confused, opinions would be greatly appreciated. :)

Q: thi lad i really like in school is in a relationship with another girl, and today i found out that this girl is also in a relationship with my frieds brother. im really not sure what to do. should i tell my crush he is being cheated on or just stay away from the hole thing ? i wont to tell him because i dont wont to see him get used and he looks so happy with her, but i dont because im scared that if i say something he will hae aand think that i wa rying to split him and his grlfriend up. but i also dont wont to get involved, what souldi do ?

Q: Well 15/f here well me and my best friend and we have been best friends since 4th grade now. well he has a problem with my boyfriend he doesnt like the way he treats me which is really good and yesterday he called me and started yelling at me and i gave my boyfriend the phone and my best friend and my boyfriend was fighting and it was coming to the point where both of them are about to get in a fist fight and my boyfriend doesnt play games so when my bestfriend showed up they started fighting and my bestfriend got beat up really bad and he told me not to talk to him again and said delete his number out of my phone and now hes texting me saying all this stupid stuff like " I am going to kill your boyfriend " but me and my bestfriend are cool and i cant bring them around each other and i really want to be around it so what should i do ?

Q: I'm kind of surprised at myself, asking a question on here about my love life. Usually I can deal things out on my own- but lately I've realized my antics only lead to the same outcome :unhappy and alone. Here's the lowdown-

My friend,we'll call her X, used to really like this kid- Z. So it was fine, I was happy for them if anything were to come out of it.So they were on webcam, and i went on just to say hi. Then "Z", ends up telling my friend X, that he has a huge crush on me. Thing is, i found it kind of odd,seeing as usually to like someone you have to talk to them first.(that's how i am,anyway) So naturally my friend X, was crushed. I felt horrible, because i only wanted the best for them two. X finally moves on from Z, and she gets a boyfriend-who she claims to be "in love" with. (mind you they've been dating for a matter of two weeks- ALSO, a side question before i get to my major one- WHY do people do that? Say they love someone so fast? I think its ridiculous, am i missing something?) Anyway, X is moved on. And lately "Z" and i have been talking. He's 18 and i'm 16. We're okay talking,but i can still tell that X likes him, no matter how much she "loves" her new boyfriend. The thing is- somethings telling me to not go for Z. But; this ALWAYS happens to me when i start to develop feelings for people! I really want a relationship- but every time i get close to some one, i get scared of what they'll think of me and I'll try to fade away. I feel like I'm jinxing myself in from every angle here just writing this, but can someone help me out? How can i never get close to someone? Why do i fear feelings? I've never had a male figure to really rely on, but my inability to let someone in is starting to feel like a disability. I know i'm all over the place with this but i'd really like to get my love life in order :P. Any help on any of the topics i've talked about would really help! thank you.

Q: 22/ Female

I went out with this guy for about a month in 2007 before the the month we were fooling around. Right now I've been thinking a lot about him but the last time we hung out it was really uncomfortable I ended up filing a report on him and yeah I don't know if he knows or not. Also he's talking to another ex girlfriend that he meet through me...the girl is a bit of a gossip chick if you ask me.

I just called him and left him a message...I don't know what to do or if I should even go through with this. I was thinking of talking to him over dinner with just the two of us. Can someone give me some advice or maybe an experience that they've had. Thanks! =)

Q: so the boy i have a huge crush on might be coming to my house at christmas with his family. my parents an his are friends and my mom was talking about inviting then round one night after christmas, and was wondering what could i say, some good convo starters, so that we can get to know each other abit better, but the only problen is he has a girlfriend but weather they will still be together at christmas i dont know, any help please ?

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Q: 16/f

when i was in 9th grade, jus turned 14 years old, i became really good friends with a junior, 17 years old. lets call him T. me and T had pretty much EVERYTHIN in common, from favorite color/food/hobbies/music, to my name bein the girl version of his, our artwork, to heartbreak/family problems, i mean everything ! obviously we bonded a lot, but he had an evil jealous girlfriend who would never let us hang out. shed send me threatening messages but she never really did anythin about it. so basically, we kept our friendship under the radar.

at the end of the year me and him began 'talkin' because him and his girlfriend broke up. the only bad part was that i got in trouble for some things and wouldnt be able to hang out much over the summer. i told him that and that we can pick up everythin after summer ended. he went back to his ex girlfriend... :(

my sophomore and his senior year, we really began hangin out more, eatin lunch together, chillin outside of school. of course it killed me because him and his girlfriend were still together. but of course they broke up for a period and time... this is where i mess up: i was scared to be in a relationship with him because we were such good friends and i didnt wanna screw everythin up. so i told him we can still kiss and dadadada :X i ended up backin out of it because it just wasnt right of me to do and i told him that.

then, he got in biiiiiiiig trouble for bein with some kids who vandalized a really expensive house and was on house arrest. he got switched into my art class and we reconnected again, but it wasnt the same, i was like shy around him.

i hadnt talked to him all summer but then i talked to him on a the phone for a couple of hours, and i realized how much i missed the damn kid. more then anyone or anythin.
next thing i know, HE HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND, not his old one..but a new one.
i sent him a message on myspace apologizin for everythin and that i just miss talkin to him as a person and havin him as my best friend. i told him i never felt this way about anyone before and im not tryin to change anythin that he has with his girlfiend, but i hadda get it off my chest (which is true).

now my hearts broken and i dont know what to do. some circumstances i think would keep us from datin, but i feel myself wantin to cry over this kid. hes my soulmate and i just know it. what can i do !? i just want to be his best friend again., i wanna play it cool so i dont ruin his relationship, because im not a homewrecker. how can i keep him talkin to me?



thanks :(

Q: Well, I'm shy.I really want to get out of being shy! I've been this way for as long as i can remember. Now I'm not like, shy shy, like one of those people who hides in a corner and doesnt talk to anyone, but I'm the kind of shy that keeps me from being overactive. I'm hyper and honestly, perverted, at times. I like being hyper but it only lasts for a little while then I go straight back into my shell. I also want to be less shy with my boyfriend and be able to actually have fun with him..any tips?

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