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i have a really hard time trusting guys, let alone anyone. i can never tell if a guy is truly interested in me or just using me. i've like my good friend for about 4 years now, without telling him because i don't know if he just wants me for sex.
Reasons he might actually care:
-everytime i ask him about a guy or say something about a guy he will basically diss on the guy and be like oh my god he's ugly or he's not for you.
-when i'm sad, he can always tell.
-he always thinks i don't tell him EVERYTHING about me. he always says "why dont you tell me anything anymore!?"
-every time i see him and either one of us is about to leave, he'll give me a hug
-he always flirts with me when i see him
-he always texts me first
-he's the ONLY guy i trust
Reasons he just wants sex:
-last year he would try getting down my pants but i wouldn't let him because i wasnt ready, but he doesnt try that anymore!
-he will randomly text me saying "wannna fuck" or saying something and then be like "i'll just fuck you;)"
-he's felt me up before, but i liked it:)
i mean, he's never told me i'm hot, cute, beautiful or anything like that so i don't know how he feels! and when he says like "wannna fuck" i'll reply back like hell yeah:)! so he knows i'd have sex with him so its kind of like me saying that its okay for him to say that to me. we've never done anything though! not even kissed. he texts me that, but he doesnt act on it. i have a feeling if i did have sex with him i wouldn't regret it because hes the only guy ive trusted, ive known him for so long and i feel like he genuinely cares about me, but then i have those doubts...
what do you think? (link)
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Hey There,
Well if it were me hun, I'd be just a little confused too. Unfortunately that is the way men are. They are very simple and most of them are not as expressive as we would like for them to be. Meaning yes, he probably is interested but maybe, just like you, does not want to risk a 4 year old friendship. He sends the text messages with those kind of comments to test the water and see what kind of response you will give him. By the responses that you give him, he may be thinking the same thing as you, that you say one thing but dont act on it. Try talking with him face to face preferably but if thats too much then shoot him a text and just ask him "are you interested in me? or do you just want to bone?" and see what he says back. What ever you do, keep the lines of communication open and make sure you both understand what the other wants because you would not want to lose a 4 year friendship for a few minutes of pleasure. Good Luck to you!
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My best friend is a freshman in college and I'm a senior in high school. We used to call each other every night and talk for an hour, but now its an occasional text and we have run out of things to talk about, and we are definitely not as close as we used to be. How can I try to fix this and make it work? (both girls) (link)
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Hi There,
First off, yes, you should explain to your friend how you feel. If you dont inform her that you think the friendship is falling apart, then she may not even know. I must also say though honey, that college is a whole different ball game than high school. Your friend may not go to school from 8 to 3 like you but her classes may be at all different hours of the day. There is no one in college pushing you to do well and get good grades so the sole responsibility of doing good rests only upon the individual. So talk to your friend, because she may be going through a lot making the adjustment to college life. As for yourself, get involved in some school activities if you aren't already and meet some other people. Im not saying put your BFF to the back burner, but the truth is you are at two different schools, and your lives may grow in different directions from here on out. You can always remain BFF's but right now while you both are making a new adjustment just try to keep the lines of communication open with eachother and it will all work out for the good! Good Luck
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