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does he care about me or just sex?
i have a really hard time trusting guys, let alone anyone. i can never tell if a guy is truly interested in me or just using me. i've like my good friend for about 4 years now, without telling him because i don't know if he just wants me for sex.
Reasons he might actually care:
-everytime i ask him about a guy or say something about a guy he will basically diss on the guy and be like oh my god he's ugly or he's not for you.
-when i'm sad, he can always tell.
-he always thinks i don't tell him EVERYTHING about me. he always says "why dont you tell me anything anymore!?"
-every time i see him and either one of us is about to leave, he'll give me a hug
-he always flirts with me when i see him
-he always texts me first
-he's the ONLY guy i trust
Reasons he just wants sex:
-last year he would try getting down my pants but i wouldn't let him because i wasnt ready, but he doesnt try that anymore!
-he will randomly text me saying "wannna fuck" or saying something and then be like "i'll just fuck you;)"
-he's felt me up before, but i liked it:)
i mean, he's never told me i'm hot, cute, beautiful or anything like that so i don't know how he feels! and when he says like "wannna fuck" i'll reply back like hell yeah:)! so he knows i'd have sex with him so its kind of like me saying that its okay for him to say that to me. we've never done anything though! not even kissed. he texts me that, but he doesnt act on it. i have a feeling if i did have sex with him i wouldn't regret it because hes the only guy ive trusted, ive known him for so long and i feel like he genuinely cares about me, but then i have those doubts...
what do you think?
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...He just wants sex. I dont care how much he expresses interest in you ...cause he is...only in between your legs..sorry to say it that way but its true. look I dont care what klind of friend he is i personally would never say somethign like that to one of my friends cause thats disrespectful. the only reason he has not tried is cause he doesnt see you get turned on but trust me hes just waiting like a scorpion just waiting for the right time to strike and poke you..seriously the guy knows your weak and he know hes throwing you off, making you feel unsure and thats his tactic to throw you off balance to make you feel that you can only trust and rely on him only so dont. Dont tell him everything cause he wants to know your weakness and hes putting other guys down cause he knows that there are better guys out there than him and doesnt want you to realize it. I need to say soemthing to you. YOU ARE EXTREMELEY IMPORTANT,EXTREMELEY INTELLEGENT, VERY BEAUTIFUL, HOT AND SEXY and i dont need to tell you wanna f*ck? neither should he (sorry for the caps) I do suggest one thing to do and that is please be honest do you think you are ready for sex? do you want to have sex? when you said " i wasnt ready" did you really mean that or do you mean I DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX or I Don Want to Have Sex YET/Now. theres a diffrence in telling a guy im not ready...never tell a guy im not ready always say NO or NO SEX or I Dont want to have sex...dont ever even mention i dont want to have sex yet....thats throwing blood in a pool full of sharks thats you letting him know "lie to me" you get me into bed..you can really really see his true inttentions just by looking closer, just take your time. NO he doesnt care about you...i had a female friend that had a "best" guy friend for about 4 years they hung out hed trust her with everything and she trusted him to they even spent a night in the same bed but no sex..he did suggest politely sex but she wasnt sure so turned him down he didnt get upset or anything but when she met a guy she and fell in love her "friend " went nuts and went off on her boyfriend confessiong to him that hes been trying to spread her legs all of that time and wanted him to back off!! could you believe that? his true colors were revealed when she got to hear him confess and yeah she never talked to him again. look your a smart girl you know your curious about sex...heck i can tell you are and i know you want to feel sexy and wanted and desired but please just dont give in please..just ...just be careful i ..i dont trust this guy..i dont..but ultimetly its your choice and your body and it will be your pain and sadness if your wrong and hes just trying to spread your legs and split..if im wrong at least you wont loose anything if your not careful oyoull gain alot of heartache...i really hop this helps and i really wish youd update me. see it this way ok you give it to him (sex) youtrusted him, he betrays you will it be worth it? what if he just wanted that and thats all? ...think...what if?...
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Hey There,
Well if it were me hun, I'd be just a little confused too. Unfortunately that is the way men are. They are very simple and most of them are not as expressive as we would like for them to be. Meaning yes, he probably is interested but maybe, just like you, does not want to risk a 4 year old friendship. He sends the text messages with those kind of comments to test the water and see what kind of response you will give him. By the responses that you give him, he may be thinking the same thing as you, that you say one thing but dont act on it. Try talking with him face to face preferably but if thats too much then shoot him a text and just ask him "are you interested in me? or do you just want to bone?" and see what he says back. What ever you do, keep the lines of communication open and make sure you both understand what the other wants because you would not want to lose a 4 year friendship for a few minutes of pleasure. Good Luck to you!
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hmm.. well alot of guys thats all they want is sex. so i understand were your coming from. you said you have been friends for 4 years now, maybe he does like you. and the sex thing comes along with any relationship if you guys really love eachother or are comfortable. maybe him saying all that and trying to touch you and put his hands in your pants is his way of seeing how you are with guys. like maybe if you just let him put his hands he would be like nah i dont want her she probably does that to every guys or will let anyone get in her pants. guys have a funny way of looking at things. his texts are probably his way of flirting and messing around trying to see if your even the least bit interested in him. or what you want with him. i think if you like this guy you should tell him. life is short! so live it up. if he likes you back hell tell you also. and the thing about the sex i dont think you will ever know unless you like flat out ask him. dont beat around the bush or try to give him hints. guys are kinda retarded when it comes to those. they want you to just be flat out honest and open with him. no matter how it comes out. for example you can be like, "hey i really like you but some of the things you do makes me feel like maybe you might like me too., but sometimes you have me feeling like you just want sex. how do you feel about all this?" do you understand what im saying.. well i hope i at least in some way kinda helped sorry this is so long! =] goodluck!
xoxo
megan<3
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