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Boyfriend's Best Friend
16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?
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OMG..... I just got out of this same exact situation in july. I thaught it was going to be difficult to get out of that mess, but it ended up being easier than i thaught when i was able to find a logical solution. well you donald was my david. so, if he really doesnt want to have a relationship and just wants relations, you have to let him know whats up and that you want to have more than a sexual relationship. and if he does get mad that should prove to you that he isnt worth any more of your time. and you should sit down take a minnute and think is it really LOVE or is it just LUST(big difference). and you should think and ask him is he only sexually atrracted to you. and if you had an automatic connection to brandon like that, then you should hold on to that. there is always time to move on. and you have to if the situation is right (or goes wrong) but your actually hurting yourslf more than you would be hurting them by putting you and your feelings before them for a change.
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First of all, you need to put the brakes on. You do not want to be the center of "locker room " talk. Sleeping with two guys that hang out together is so not cool. If you havn't slept with Brandon yet, be sure he is someone you love before you decide to. If you don't and things don't work out, you'll be looked at as a whore. Think long and hard about if you want to go there. On the other hand, you definately need to cut things off with Donald. Sex should be between two people with love, and a deep connection with one another, not just because it's convient.
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Either way, someone is gonna be mad at you. You might hurt your friendship with Donald, but also ruin any chance you might have with Brandon. You need to choose which is more important to you. Can you live without Donald being your friend or hurt Brandons feeling and risk a relationship with him? I think you should tell Donald that you want to try and begin a relationship with Brandon, so you cannot do anything sexual anymore. But you still want to hang out and be friends. If he is really your friend and not using you for sex, then he will understand. In fact, if he really doesn't want a relationship with you, then he should be happy for you. It could also, make Donald jealous, which might change his feelings for you. This situation goes along with two quotes. "Everything happens for a reason", and "People dont realize what they have until its gone." So there are two scenarios that might play out here. 1. You are able to start a relationship with Brandon and know you didn't cheat on him. 2. Donald will get so jealous that he may want you, the way you want him. Just remember that true friends care about you and not just themselves. They will stand behind and respect your decisions. I say, give this relationship with Brandon a chance, since he likes you. If Donald is gonna cheat on his gf's with you, do you think he will stop cheating if you are in a relationship with him. Good luck!! Let me know how it turns out
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Divine....
hay girl you seem to have a bad misunderstanding situation which I can help you claer it up
for starter you need to come face to face with
brandon and tell him what really been going on
between the two of you and that it all was going to when you met him don't matter how you say it just let him know that befroe you met him it was just a freinds with benefits that all and now that you talking to him it over and done
so when or if you do tell donald that you just want to be friends now you won't worry bout him
running back telling brandon and making it seem
like something else or whatever...
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