Howdy Doody! My name is Sheena. I am the type of person that is everybodies best, truest, most honest, and straight-forward friend. Although i only have a select few best friends of my own. I write for my school newspaper, and i was hoping that i could help people from all over. i have always just wanted to help people (especially the elderly). i hate when people are upset, mad, or need help and no one offers any. So thats what im here for. Im a high school junior. i love to cook, write music, dance, poetry, sing, and let everyone in the world know how random and bubbly my personality is!! =)
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Okay 15/f here might be long but okay. Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now and my mom doesnt like him at all. Well the other day me and her was talking and she told me that she didnt want me seeing him now that i really like him i just want him to know that i love him and everything she told me that if i am seeing him when im not allowed to then i am grounded but i really like him and i want to stay with him but i want to break up with him to just for a couple of days and then i want to get back together with him so should i end it or should i just stay with him and just say to my mom we are broken up? (link)
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you really shouldn't lie to your mom, but she isn't thinking about your feelings. your 15 so you shouldn't have to date who she wants you to. but because she is your mother she does have some say-so. but don't end your relationship with him...especially if your feelings are just that strong, then you should find a way to make it work. and let your mom know how you truely feel.
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The first part isn't part of the question; it's just really helpful to know some background info :]
So, it started off around a year ago. I met a friend through a friend over msn, we got to talking and actually became quite close. We met a few times, flirting absolute loads. We had a kind of weird relationship - I would go through phases where I liked him which only lasted a few weeks. Now, normally this would make me extremely uncomfortable knowing that he knew I liked him, but the fact that I wasn't, made me realise in the end it was just because we were close. Anyway, he introduced me to his friend. We got even closer in 3 months than me and my other friend did in a year or so. By the beginning of January we were going out, and still are. But, before we started going out, my other friend was like trying so hard to stop us from getting together, like he would tell my (now) boyfriend that I liked him (he knew I liked him from the start) then a few days later he would tell him that I don't. He was confusing the both of us and prevented us from getting together. I know why he did this. I know it sounds like he liked me, but he didn't. I have cheated on guys before and he knows about it and he thought that I was just stringing him along, and obviously he didn't want his best friend going out with someone like that. (I'm proud to say I have proved him wrong, I've been together with my boyfriend almost a year and never cheated - we are actually each others first love).
Annnnyways. A few months after me and my boyf started going out, we went for a pizza, just us three. My boyf was messing around and told me to call him this name (not seriously), it was a joke between them and a few mates so we thought it'd be funny. Now, 8 months on, he HATES me. I mean, he refers to me as 'her' when he talks about me to my boyf. I know it kills me when I think about how close we used to be. But, then again I can't stand him myself for what he did between me and my boyf - like telling me he had a girlfriend when I liked him (I only found out a few months into the relationship he actually didn't!).
I got invited by my boyf to go to a gig next march. Of course, I said yes as we haven't been to any gig together yet. He then replied that he has to ask his mate (the one I've been talking about) if it was alright. I was so mad, yet again it's no ones fault but my own; I should of asked who was going first. Anyway, he said that there's no problem (seeing as I'm his best friends girlfriend , I should hope there's no problem!). I know it's going to be soooo awkward. I don't know 2 guys that are going but my other friend is coming so at least I can talk to her if my boyfs talking to him. Now, at gigs everyones pretty close and you can't really 'rave' with someone you can't stand.
So, my actual question:
How do I make this the least awkward I can?
I'm a very shy person, but I know I can make the effort for my boyfriend - as it IS his best mate.
I just need tips/advice just anything really to make sure I survive the night xD
Thankssssss(: (link)
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well based on you background, it seems like you and him were in a sense ment-to-be (as corney as it sounds) but you did the right thing by going with him and his "best mate", this already shows that you are willing to sacrafice in a sense, if you want to use that word. so a way to make it less awkward could be one of 3 ways:
1= make ammends with your boyfriends best mate. ask him can you guys just bury the hatchet or squash the annimosity between you two.
2= just avoid any convo, eye contact, or conflict... pretty much pretend he is invisable ar that you dont even know him
& 3= pretend that there is nothing wrong, that you are still close. its a party, you gotta enjoy yourself.....with yo man lol
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I've known this guy for about two weeks or so, and recently we've been talking a bit more than we normally do. Well, he told me I was boring. Yes, it's offensive to a point, but I'm afraid that I may come across as boring. When I first start talking to a person I'm not totally comfortable, so I can't think of anything to say, but I don't want to bore him away before I get a chance to become comfortable.
When I'm with my friends I can be very talkative, but I'm just awful at coming up with things to talk about. My conversations always involve a lot of awkward silences. It's awful. =(
Any advice on what to say/do or conversation starters, etc.? (link)
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well, i belive that its not that you are boring but that you two just dont as much in common as you may have once thaught. but me personally i am a very random person that will say anything that runs through my head (literally) so just say whats on your mind.... texing always helps, it takes away from tje awkward silences. also, you could talk about your days, whats on t.v.(that ends to help me surprisingly), school, what you hae planned for the weekend/what you did over the weekend, funny random inside jokes/just jokes period, etc. but it may help, because yall dont go out just yet, that you think of him as a friend and talk as if he is just another on of your "homies".
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Well, i'm a 15 year old girl. But i think i'm starting to like a 13 year old boy. But the thing is, i'm really worried about how others in my school might see it. Like when an older boy goes out with a girl 2 years younger it seems natural. When a girl goes out with a boy 2 years younger, you get looked at as if your a pedo. I'm not sure whether, i should ask his opinion and give it a shot, leave it to prevent accusations of being a pedo, or wait until i like someone my age / till i kno i deffinatley like him.
Help. (link)
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i see your delema, but its okay. you shouldn't pay attention to what other people(that actually stoop to the immature level) really care. they are not the one that has to be in a relationship with him. and if you really like this boy to put this much thaught into it then you should take that shot. if you don't take the shot, you will miss out on the boy you really want to be with. and don't second guess you liking him just because of what haters may say.... hey you never know if they will even say anything about it if you dont take the shot.
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Okay so im in this relationship that ive been in for over 5 years. i love him very much and i always have. here a couple of months ago we broke up and i went around with friends pretty much partying like a rock star (not literally but kinda. nothing BAD). well anyways we got back together and we moved to new schools to be together and get away from the drama. well now all we do is sit at home and do nothing. and i dont have any friends now. like literally all i have is him. and not that i dont mind just having him its just i feel so alone. and i feel like we're to young to be just sitting at home. im about to turn 16 and we're gonna be able to drive and work so i need some ideas to what we can do to be more like teenagers and less like old married couples. we cant go to some places because thats where the drama is. so no places like the movies bowling allies, and etc.. and another thing is he's asked me to do alot such as give up my friends and my old ways. is he being to controlling by not wanting me to hang out with my old buddies?? 15 female (link)
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in a sense, yes he is being controlling and that will only lead to bad things if you don't say something quick. i understand that you don't want to lose him, but friends are going to be there forever (atleast the true ones) and a guy(no matter how long the relationship) shouldn't come before yourfriends. they are the ones that will be there as a shoulder to cry on because we all know that n relationship is perfect. but to the real question at hand, you shouldnt have to feel that you have to give up everything that is fun because of little hating .....people.... (dont want to curse) trying to skrew up you and his happiness. but if you do go to the movies or bowling etc., just stay as far away from conflict as possible. just know when it is time to go when tension starts to get to high. but some other places could be like a museum, the mall, icecream parlor, skating (even if you cant skate, it will be a nice laugh for you 2), or go to an arcade like dave n busters, boomers, etc what ever is close. and water parks are always fun =
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thi lad i really like in school is in a relationship with another girl, and today i found out that this girl is also in a relationship with my frieds brother. im really not sure what to do. should i tell my crush he is being cheated on or just stay away from the hole thing ? i wont to tell him because i dont wont to see him get used and he looks so happy with her, but i dont because im scared that if i say something he will hae aand think that i wa rying to split him and his grlfriend up. but i also dont wont to get involved, what souldi do ? (link)
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if it is that serious to you, and you are cool with him, you should find the best way to go to him about it. but you have to make sure that she is actually cheating on him. you can not and shouldn't ever go about he say/ she say...its to much of a gamble and some people may get seriously hurt or conflicts can start. so assure him that you are not just doing this to split them up. and everything should be okay
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whats the difference between love and lust?? what do i have..like when me and my guy chill we ussually get intamte we dont go out or anything its just always in his car doing you kno.. we have been together for 2 years and ome months and never did we do anything fun and when i do mention to go out he doesnt like that idea because were keeping are relationship on the downlow for now and i dont even know its so confusing? can somebody help me out with this.. id appreciate it thanks (link)
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LOVE: when you have a strong connection to another individual. when someone is the main focas of all of your thaughts. etc. and LUST: is when you have nothing more than a sexual relation or attraction to someone. this usually blinds you of if wht you feel is love or lust. but first of all, you dont keep a relationship on "the down low" for two years. you need some answers to why he has felt the need to kept you and him quiet for so long. and 2ndly, if he doesnt want to do anything other than have sex ... and in the car(why) but thats not the point ... it is definatly lust. sorry to say
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what are some excuses to say when someone asks you were you bought something and you don't want to tell them? (link)
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tell them that you mom, dad, sibling, or relative baught it for you.
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so i just got together with this one guy and things are great
our whole school things we are the cutest couple
and we agreed to be together for the remainder of highschool
(cause we've been friends since 4th grade and we're juniors in hs now)
but i can't help but think about some of the other guys in my school
and how things will never work out with them cause i have a bf
like.. i don't know i'm so confused (link)
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first off that is the cutest thing... but you messed up by 1st "agreeing" to be together for the remainder of high school. you never set a limit or time frame for a relationship. if your going to be boyfriend and girlfriend let life take its course. by let it take its course, than if another guy comes in the picture, you wont feel so obligated or like you hurt him as badly. but if you are seriously thinking about other guys alredy, you probably shouldn't have "agreed" to go out with him. he may really like you and want to be with you. so i would slow down a little so you don't hurt him or get hurt yourself. but who knows after a while it may end up being that he is the only boy you think about
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I am an 8th grader he is a 9th grader and he is definitely not the goodest guy to like. He smokes weed,drinks,smokes,sex and shit like that.I am not no goodie goodie.But yah what do you reccomend? stay away or what (link)
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well, thats a tough situation. i have talked to the baddest of the bad. (drug dealers, murders-not at the time of murder-, gang members, etc.) the point is that not all "bad boys" are 100% bad. there is always a little boy in them that still can be triggered. and if you really believe that he wont hurt you or if you start to see a negitive change in yourself you should immediately back away. but it really comes down to how he treats and effects you.
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16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do? (link)
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OMG..... I just got out of this same exact situation in july. I thaught it was going to be difficult to get out of that mess, but it ended up being easier than i thaught when i was able to find a logical solution. well you donald was my david. so, if he really doesnt want to have a relationship and just wants relations, you have to let him know whats up and that you want to have more than a sexual relationship. and if he does get mad that should prove to you that he isnt worth any more of your time. and you should sit down take a minnute and think is it really LOVE or is it just LUST(big difference). and you should think and ask him is he only sexually atrracted to you. and if you had an automatic connection to brandon like that, then you should hold on to that. there is always time to move on. and you have to if the situation is right (or goes wrong) but your actually hurting yourslf more than you would be hurting them by putting you and your feelings before them for a change.
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I realllly like this guy called quin we are both 13 and heres the thing i havent seen him in like months.becuase we changed schools well u know but i have chetted to him on yahoo! How do i get him back?? (link)
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aww i know how hard it is to like some one that you havent seen in months. i understand that youve changed schools, but if you really like him yall should try to work it out. besides just chatting, you could talk on the phone. plus im guessing if you only changed schools, yall dont live that that far away from eachother. you should try and do some things on the weekends like swimming, going to the movies, or just hanging out. and you probably haven't lost him...he's just a little distant. but there is always a way to reel him back in.
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when i have a full bladder, and i hold it in, i can literally make myself come to orgasm just by thinking about it.
does anyone else experience this or know why it happens? i can't find anything online.
thank you! (link)
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yes, actually i experience this same thing. i wasn't sure why it happened either. but if you think about it when your bladder is full, it expands. and as it expands it may touch your "G-spot". so that may be what happens. but i may be wrong but that is the most ethical reason i ever thaught of
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ok, well, i was just hanging out with my boyfriend a couple hours ago and we did our typically goofing off together, watching tv, kissing kind of stuff, nothing different and then as normal when he leaves my house, i walk him to the door and hug and kiss him goodnight, well tonight as we were hugging he went "bye i love you". and then right after was like "hhaha ohh my good/wow" ( something along those lines )so i wasn't exactly sure what to say/do so i just kind of looked at him and he was like "byeee" and left. so i've just been sitting here going over and over again in my mind if he was being serious or not.
what do you guys think?
and do you think it was ok if i didn't say it back? i think i'm almost at that stage, i'm just not sure yet. i don't wanna say it and not actually mean it, i think it's better to not say anything then lie. i always just feel so bad, like they're pouring themselves out there and i'm just like "..." cause i don't know how to respond properly. (link)
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okay, i have been in this same perdicament. you were 100% right for not saying "i love you" back to him. but now that you are pondering it, you muct think 'do you really love him yet?' if you still don't think your to that point, you should, when he is over one day, sit him down and have a serious convo with him. ask him how he feels and if that night he really ment that he loves you. and then if he gives the right answer, you can explain to him how you feel and that your not sure if your in live yet. if he really loves you he will wait and not rush you into love!
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Ok,Im asking this for my friend!
Iam 14/female and my friend is the same age ...
Ok my friend alley had a boyfriend who died(Joe RIP)He was really nice and stuff but she swears he is haunting her...She can like feel him when she is in the shower and when shes going to sleep at night.I never really believed in that kinda stuff but you can definatly feel him there! Its kinda weird...DO YOU GUYS THINK WE ARE INSANE???
I mean we have tried talkin to him but i dunno what to do...She really loves him...still..hes been dead about a year...WHAT THE HEK DO WE DO?? (link)
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Don't be silly, of course you guys aren't insane. There are two possibilities in this situation.
1: your friend could be missing him so much that her self concience is making out to seem that he is there as a spirit.
2: joe (r.i.p) could actually and truely be there. he could be watching over her to make sure that she is always safe from harm. and when he was alive and was her boyfriend they probaby used to talk everynight or used to come over and chill in her room or something. so that is possibly why she feels that he is always there when she is going to sleep. but basically what you should do is this, calm down because since they were in love he would never hurt you and let him know that you still love him.
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