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ok, well, i was just hanging out with my boyfriend a couple hours ago and we did our typically goofing off together, watching tv, kissing kind of stuff, nothing different and then as normal when he leaves my house, i walk him to the door and hug and kiss him goodnight, well tonight as we were hugging he went "bye i love you". and then right after was like "hhaha ohh my good/wow" ( something along those lines )so i wasn't exactly sure what to say/do so i just kind of looked at him and he was like "byeee" and left. so i've just been sitting here going over and over again in my mind if he was being serious or not.
what do you guys think?
and do you think it was ok if i didn't say it back? i think i'm almost at that stage, i'm just not sure yet. i don't wanna say it and not actually mean it, i think it's better to not say anything then lie. i always just feel so bad, like they're pouring themselves out there and i'm just like "..." cause i don't know how to respond properly.
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I would suggest that you don't bring it up. As much as you want to be open and honest with him, you don't want to put him on the spot. With him saying it that way and the immediate response he gave you, it could have been by accident. If you put him on the spot, you will bait him into saying that he did really mean it, when he may not have intentionally said it. Cuz if he says no it was a mistake, he may feel that he will hurt your feelings. So, he may have no choice but to say yes he did mean it, just so that he doesn't hurt your feelings. I am sure he is just as embarrassed as to the way he said it. The question you need to ask yourself is, did he hesitate when he said it, or did it come out in a smooth, unrehearsed sentence? If it came out smooth then you already know it was a natural thing he said, and he really meant it. Let him bring it up first, then you guys can sit and talk about your true feeling for each other. Guys don't really like to be put on the spot when talking about there true feelings. Especially when it involves someone that is not their gf, and both sides haven't said "ily" yet. If you have anymore questions about this feel free to ask me, happy to help.
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okay, i have been in this same perdicament. you were 100% right for not saying "i love you" back to him. but now that you are pondering it, you muct think 'do you really love him yet?' if you still don't think your to that point, you should, when he is over one day, sit him down and have a serious convo with him. ask him how he feels and if that night he really ment that he loves you. and then if he gives the right answer, you can explain to him how you feel and that your not sure if your in live yet. if he really loves you he will wait and not rush you into love!
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Its important in a relationship to be honest...soo if your not sure if you love him then dont say it and not mean it...calmly explain to him that you want to continue dating but are not sure if you're ready for the "i love you" stage yet...if he meant what he said he'll understand...dont be afraid to speak your mind
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