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what a dilemma!
The first part isn't part of the question; it's just really helpful to know some background info :]
So, it started off around a year ago. I met a friend through a friend over msn, we got to talking and actually became quite close. We met a few times, flirting absolute loads. We had a kind of weird relationship - I would go through phases where I liked him which only lasted a few weeks. Now, normally this would make me extremely uncomfortable knowing that he knew I liked him, but the fact that I wasn't, made me realise in the end it was just because we were close. Anyway, he introduced me to his friend. We got even closer in 3 months than me and my other friend did in a year or so. By the beginning of January we were going out, and still are. But, before we started going out, my other friend was like trying so hard to stop us from getting together, like he would tell my (now) boyfriend that I liked him (he knew I liked him from the start) then a few days later he would tell him that I don't. He was confusing the both of us and prevented us from getting together. I know why he did this. I know it sounds like he liked me, but he didn't. I have cheated on guys before and he knows about it and he thought that I was just stringing him along, and obviously he didn't want his best friend going out with someone like that. (I'm proud to say I have proved him wrong, I've been together with my boyfriend almost a year and never cheated - we are actually each others first love).
Annnnyways. A few months after me and my boyf started going out, we went for a pizza, just us three. My boyf was messing around and told me to call him this name (not seriously), it was a joke between them and a few mates so we thought it'd be funny. Now, 8 months on, he HATES me. I mean, he refers to me as 'her' when he talks about me to my boyf. I know it kills me when I think about how close we used to be. But, then again I can't stand him myself for what he did between me and my boyf - like telling me he had a girlfriend when I liked him (I only found out a few months into the relationship he actually didn't!).
I got invited by my boyf to go to a gig next march. Of course, I said yes as we haven't been to any gig together yet. He then replied that he has to ask his mate (the one I've been talking about) if it was alright. I was so mad, yet again it's no ones fault but my own; I should of asked who was going first. Anyway, he said that there's no problem (seeing as I'm his best friends girlfriend , I should hope there's no problem!). I know it's going to be soooo awkward. I don't know 2 guys that are going but my other friend is coming so at least I can talk to her if my boyfs talking to him. Now, at gigs everyones pretty close and you can't really 'rave' with someone you can't stand.
So, my actual question:
How do I make this the least awkward I can?
I'm a very shy person, but I know I can make the effort for my boyfriend - as it IS his best mate.
I just need tips/advice just anything really to make sure I survive the night xD
Thankssssss(:
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Hi there,
I really think that before this gig comes around, you and your boyfriends friend need to get together and have a chat.
As you said, you have obviously proved him wrong by not cheating on him. As you shouldn't anyway!
Personally, I think that you need to tell him that for your boyfriends sake, you and him need to chill out. You don't have to be best friends but you both need to be mature and civil towards each other. Otherwise, if things get too bad between you both, your boyfriend will most probably be caught in the middle having to choose between you both.
That could end up really messy. I'm sure you don't want him to loose his best friend and you don't want to be the one who isn't chosen. So for everyone's sake you both need to get together and patch things up. With or without your boyfriend knowing you two really need to sort things out.
Good luck, hope I helped.
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well based on you background, it seems like you and him were in a sense ment-to-be (as corney as it sounds) but you did the right thing by going with him and his "best mate", this already shows that you are willing to sacrafice in a sense, if you want to use that word. so a way to make it less awkward could be one of 3 ways:
1= make ammends with your boyfriends best mate. ask him can you guys just bury the hatchet or squash the annimosity between you two.
2= just avoid any convo, eye contact, or conflict... pretty much pretend he is invisable ar that you dont even know him
& 3= pretend that there is nothing wrong, that you are still close. its a party, you gotta enjoy yourself.....with yo man lol
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