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love or lust
whats the difference between love and lust?? what do i have..like when me and my guy chill we ussually get intamte we dont go out or anything its just always in his car doing you kno.. we have been together for 2 years and ome months and never did we do anything fun and when i do mention to go out he doesnt like that idea because were keeping are relationship on the downlow for now and i dont even know its so confusing? can somebody help me out with this.. id appreciate it thanks
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LOVE: when you have a strong connection to another individual. when someone is the main focas of all of your thaughts. etc. and LUST: is when you have nothing more than a sexual relation or attraction to someone. this usually blinds you of if wht you feel is love or lust. but first of all, you dont keep a relationship on "the down low" for two years. you need some answers to why he has felt the need to kept you and him quiet for so long. and 2ndly, if he doesnt want to do anything other than have sex ... and in the car(why) but thats not the point ... it is definatly lust. sorry to say
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sry honey but it sounds to me that this is lust. if all you two do is have sex then that is not a real realationship. love is when to people are excited to share it with their friends and family. Love is when your man does take you out to show you a good time and how much he apprciates you. and vice versa. but if he is dening you all of that then sry to say but, it is not real and will continue not to be real if you go on like this.
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Well, most 'lustful' relationships are kept on the downlow for their own reasons. Lust is more of a sexual thing, with lots of intensity and strong desire.
While with love, it goes so much deeper, reaching emotions inside that make you feel like you want this person to be a big part of your life....with that, it becomes a relationship that is definitely not hidden in any way. If it's love, you want everyone to know!
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in my opinion, the big difference is that lust is ONLY sexual. when you love someone, you notonly like that way they look, but the way they are, there personality ect. lust, is when you are only atracted to a person for physical means. this is my opinion on this. it (quite obvously) isnt something to base a relation ship off of. anyway, good luck. :)
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Love and lust are two very different things, and you were smart to start to question your relationship with this guy. Unfortunately, the differences are somewhat difficult to explain.
It sounds to me like he is using you. Have you ever heard that phrase 'friends with benefits'? It seems to me that this is the kind of relationship that you have with him. The fact that he wants to have sex with you, but not commit, could mean he has a problem with emotional commitment.
I believe that the only way to deal with this is to confront him. If he says says something and you believe that is telling the truth, perhaps you should give him another chance to set things straight. If he doesn't, it would most likely be time to drop him. I'm sorry that I'm putting this so bluntly, but if he is using you, it's the only way to deal with a situation like this.
I hope this helps you. If he doesn't, I'm sorry. Good luck with everything.
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