I hope to help those in need in life lessons, love, friendships, and hardships.
It's a tough life to live for anyone, either in their work world, love life, their children, their money...."There is always Hope"....and I aim to help those find that hope and successfully get passed the woes of the world :-)
I carry a degree in Information Technology, but have also taken previous courses in Child Psychology and General Psychology to gather an understanding of our emotions and how we deal with them as humans.
I also have my own travel business EGVacations.com and I care for my 4yr old son, (I have 4 children; 18, 16, 12, and 4) so the range in ages allows me to see all aspects of what children are going through. Whew!!
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Age: 34
Yahoo: lizbeth_7829@yahoo.com
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heheheheh that is so true. well am actually looking for a job but i canr seem to find none .. ahh its so stressing :'( (link)
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I understand that 100%. I have been unemployed for 8 months now and jobs in my field are so scarce. I've moved on to just find whatever kind of work I can...
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that is true .. he just wanted one thing :( there is this other kid i was talking to but when he messages me i reply back but then when i do he doesnt responds back :( (link)
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Well, if anything, do yourself a huge favor and dont focus on what guy is next..they all so complicated at young ages...hopefully you have your schooling to focus on and possibly looking for a part time job... guys should not be first...they just a big headache! hahaha
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i know..he thinks he is going to get something out of them ..but i will just let him be becaue he is cheeting on that girl he has in dominican republic and he never cheeted on me..which am glad..but then he changed and he did cheeted on me :( (link)
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I know you can see he is just not healthy to have in your life. The things he does brings you down...and you don't want to start feeling bad about yourself.
Let this one go, and keep your eyes and heart open for the better possibility that might be right around the corner.
Don't lose hope!
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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What a tough and troubling situation...I relate only to a certain extent as far as the worry I carry when my son goes to visit his father...From a woman's perspective though, I know I too would hate to be held from my children despite my immature and irresponsible actions. The fact that she does see them is good for her and sometimes for the children, at least when there is no drama that could be a negative influence on the children.
As the legal custodian, it is your right to even enforce some supervised visitation; like making sure they only go with her if a sister or a mutual friend that you trust will ensure the children's safety. You are not wrong in your fear, and you concern is completely justified. Be very careful with this one...But I do not recommend letting the children (the daughter) go live with her. It is merely your ex's desperate attempt to take them away from you and this new woman "she dislikes" to be a part of their life.
What she is telling the children about you and your new love is unhealthy, and it's going to be hard on the children hearing all this, but it will come to them as they see that none of what their mother is saying is true...I have the ex telling her children all kinds of negative things about me, in her jealousy, but they clearly see for themselves that their mother is very wrong about me and they ignore her completely.
You just have to stick to your guns and tell your children, "you guys see she (your fiance) is a good person and she is good to you and cares about your well-being". Alittle much for young ones, but it's the truth.
There is always going to be the fear of your ex reverting back to her old ways..those things are hard to stay away from..especially if she's having a bad day, or if she feels she is losing her children to another woman..those kinds of things could easily lure her back into drinking or drugs to escape the emotions of it all.
Keep positivity in your words with your daughter and dont say negative things to her about her mother. You can just say that her mother is just upset, and she does love you, but you would love for her to stay with you.
I know it is hard to ignore what your ex says, but they are only words...however, her actions are fearful, and as noted, it's not a good idea for your daughter to go live with her. Your daughter is sure to have a much more fulfilled life living in a peaceful and encouraging environment. It promotes her having a healthy and success driven future for herself; as in if she was with her mother and the possible drama at home that would promote her loss of interest in school or the possibility of her becoming a troubled teen, you know???
But all in all, use your better judgement.
Good Luck...Please keep me posted!
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Uh im gonna shorten this as much as I can but i think more detail would give me better answers so... bare with me.
Me and my best friend met when we were 12. She moved in next door. I liked her in that puppy dog kinda thing ya know and she liked me to. But nothing ever happen. About 7th grade we dated for...3 days i think. She was like its awkward your my best friend my brother whatever. I was like ok its cool. We kissed on a truth or dare thing, both of our first kisses.
So 11th grade high school were 17. Shes dated this kid named *bob* for about 4 years. They break up on and off, he treats her bad, yea. Well i liked her this whole time and it was terrible, picking her up from his house crying at like 2 am. Hanging out with her and shed be like can u drop me off at *bobs* or come pick me up.
Well they broke up for the final time and we started talking serious again for about 2 weeks. then she broke it off and went back to *bob*. Im gonna input here that i was basically her best friend and she told me everything, from sexual to school. Thats hard to hear btw, but i was always there because if she was happy, i was...yea.
Well family crap came up and she moved across the country, in January. We visited her during...July? We hung out the whole time she blew off her bf for me and everything and then after about a week we went back home.
So we txted, aimed, just talked to each other the whole time. She came down about 2 weeks ago to visit us for Christmas. When she got here she told me she always knew i was the one and she always liked me. Surprised me but I told her I still liked her to. So we chilled together all week laid in bed, cuddled, watched movies, all that good stuff.
2 days before she left she said she had a headache so i was rubbing her head. Then uh things got a little hotter and ended up with me fingering her. The next day we talked about it and she was like i let my hormones take control but the kiss during it was all me. Next night were cuddling together and were getting a little hot, but shes stopped my hand once or twice, and her family decides its time to leave. I kiss her goodbye and shes moving back in may and is like im gonna wait for you when i come home ur all mine.
Ok I really am sorry for the long story and if i get no help i completly understand. But my question.
1. WTF do i do?
2. She was seriously into me, i turned her on from rubbing her back, thats not possible.. I know. So that means it wasnt where I was rubbing its the fact that it was me. right?
3. Was I wrong to do that if i knew it was just hormones. Like she kissed my neck at one point, girls only do that if hormones are involved.
Any advice at all is amazing because that means you read all this crap about some random person and you cared. Your amazing, or just really bored. (link)
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I'm gonna go with the really amazing comment.
I get on this thing everyday scoping out the questions, and I'm choosy. I dont answer just random things...
You have a serious issue...and from the woman's point of view, you guys really have it bad for each other, but have kept this odd distance based on what 'she wanted'. What a great guy you are to be there on stand by, you know?
I watched this movie today where this guy was really into this hot chic, but she didn't dig him like he did her, but told her he'd swim across the ocean just to be with her...la la la..he met someone else on his little journey, and he kept talking about this chic, right...it took him a while, but he saw that this other woman was his true love.
Point being is that you guys have the potential to be each other's true love...no more of this Bob on and off junk.
You guys got hot and heavy because its what you really wanted..both you and her...not just you.
Women run on their emotions, and it's obvious she cares about you if she let you get that far..and if I were her, I'd want you to try harder, and focus on what you could do to show your love and how much you want to be with her...that is, if its truly what you want.
You have a long history together, and you know her ins and outs and her ups and downs...You were best friends first, and it's a great foundation for a healthy relationship.
If you can put all that BOB stuff in the past and see if she can too, I can see you guys doing really well together.
Keep me posted...May is not too far away...I hope it works out.
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i have a boyfriend named derek lyons.i have a father named bill vondran. my boyfriend loves me so much and im helping him with his drug addiction and he cant keep his anger in. my dad hates him he thinks i should brake up with him so he thinks i cant get anywhere in life with him but i can. he does grawls the metal voice and he can play bass perfectly. my dad is a christian my boyfriend is a demon.my boyfriend needs me everyday and we cant be away from eachother we are bound. my father wants me to get another and he thinks that im scared to brakeup with him. but im not im inlove. my dad truely hates him always trying to tell me horrible things about him but he dont know him. i only know him truely. i love him i dont want to leet him go. am i the only one that goes away from my father and follow my love??? (link)
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I've left my parents to follow my love many years ago...I have had 2 loves since then...it was not worth it.
At a young age, we think we know what love is, but it turns out just being the emotion of being accepted by someone else besides our parents.
I had that same demon boyfriend that only ripped me away from the people I love, and did not provide me with everything I needed as a woman. He became disrespectful and uncaring of what I needed.
It doesn't happen like that to everyone, but if a man comes into your life and approves of you pulling away from your father, then he is not what's best for you. Your BoyFriend should care that you have a loving relationship with your father.
Haven't you heard the term "Daddy knows best". I guess I say most of this because I am a true Daddy's girl, and noone could be there for me like my father.
Years later, I am happily married with a man who is very much like my own father. Caring, tender, makes me feel protected and completely loved.
Take a moment to Step outside your box and look several years down the road, where you will one day look back at this situation. Perhaps try to see your own daughter doing the same thing. Do you see it to have worked out to your benefit and can you see yourself really being happy with being with this demon person??
Keep me posted and good luck!
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Occasionally I'd feel a bit anxious and have to open the window to breathe. Like throughout my life that would happen like a few times during the year. But then something happened this year. Like before I was able to drink coffee and things with caffeine just fine. But all of a sudden like I had a cup of coffee.. and I put too much coffee in it and then I was shaking and my heart was beating fast and I was like freaking out and felt like I couldn't breathe even though I was breathing fine. I went to sleep and woke up and it was fine. Occasionally after that I'd feel that way. I also drank other things like tea.. which I didnt realize had caffeine. Those made me feel weird too.. so after checking they had caffeine I stopped. And then this Christmas I had a lot of cheesecake over a couple days, and lucky me, the cheesecake had caffeine! I had no idea, once again. I was wondering why I felt anxious and stuff.. since I usually had the cheesecake at night and like I'd be in the basement on the computer and feel all weird. So then I stopped having it.. I haven't had anything with caffeine in a couple days now. Does chocolate have caffeine? I hope it doesn't.. like chocolate in general. If it does I guess I'll have to stop drinking it as much but I still keep feeling anxious! the past couple days have been like hell. like right now im breathing fine.. and my heart is a steady beat, but i think im just anxious.. like i feel like all of a sudden something will happen in my body which will make me not be able to breathe. please tell me that things like that cant happen. Im 15 years old, btw. and what can I do to stop this anxiety, where I have to like take deep breaths and I just feel uncomfortable and stiff. I think its all mind games now since I've stopped having caffeine. What are other common things people eat that have caffeine? I need to avoid them.. could I have like an intolerance to caffeine? And im so confused cause I used to have no problem with it before so why did it happen all of a sudden that day? :(
HELP ME! (link)
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You are really close to being on the right track when you said you felt it could be mind games....
I'm not saying your crazy or anything, but the mind is a very powerful tool, and it controls so much of how your body reacts to things. Linked with your emotions, you can also tend to feel anxious if things are overwhelming you.
Right now, we have a caffeine issues, and what's odd is that you state you just started feeling this way...and you're only 15...wow...before I saw that, i was going to tell you that as we get older, our body functions change, and what once used to be fine, can change to not being fine as we age.
Anyway...addressing it, as it appears to stress you out sometimes, not knowing if everything you eat has caffeine or not, that alone could set off some anxiety, and get your heart racing. You can actually tell yourself to calm down and get past that little spurt of deep, gasping breaths and heart racing.
It sounds funny, but I learned how to totally control my anxiety attacks, by just taking a minute to slow down my breathing and think about other things that would relax my mind and body.
Your concern for how your body reacts to caffeine sets you off, so it's good that you have at least tried making yourself more aware of what has caffeine and what doesn't...and I do believe chocolate contains caffeine...even just the sugar alone in it can get ya a little hyper...
I guess bottom line, on how to help you through this, is just take control of your breathing and not to sound funny, but find that happy place, and you should start to relax and get passed it.
If all else fails, see a doctor...They surely have meds that will help control your anxiety.
Lots of luck to you.
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I think I have sunk into a strange depression. I feel like I'm not even me sometimes. I don't remember what life was like before. It is winter break, I have been home for a few weeks. My boyfriend broke up with my after Halloween and he is currently my best friend. I sometimes hate him, and I avoid talking to him. Sometimes I want to talk to him and so I do. I have a good friend who I see from time to time. I don't have anyone that I feel comfortable telling my exact feelings to. Has anyone ever read the Bell Jar? I feel like that. I want to kill myself on most days. I cry for no reason. I don't know when one day ends and when another begins. I find myself wanting to listen to Bright Eyes all day long. Drinking makes me feel stupid because it doesn't even help. I don't feel that anyone understands me. I weigh myself everyday a few times a day and avoid eating as much as possible. I have random happy moments! Everything will seem okay, I'll laugh and smile, life is good. Then my mind starts to drift off, I lose track of time, I forget where I am, what I am doing. I just don't understand what is happening to me. I think I need help. (link)
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Wow!! Those are all such intense feelings to be feeling at the same time...for sure I see how you can be overwhelmed with good feelings one moment, then bad feelings the next.
Apparently it would be hard to address one feeling at a time, seeing as how you can't hold on to just one emotional feeling at a time, but surely it has helped you just alittle being able to voice this out on the computer.
I can say that I know being depressed is really sucky...I too have those things that overwhelm me and I just get so lost and I want to run away.
I finally went to my doctor, and I put him in the hot seat making him feel like I needed therapy from him, and you know what he did, after I poured my heart out and shed some tears....He prescribed me some Cymbalta...hahahah!!
It has helped me a great deal...I had always said to myself that I never wanted to take a drug to stabilize my emotions, but it was needed.
It's going to benefit you a great deal if you talk to a doctor or therapist or councelor, just to get things off your chest, and it will be helpful if it's someone you dont know so they can't be biased, but only give their honest opinion and guide you in the right direction.
Don't lose hope on being better...you will get past this...Be optimistic in knowing you are possibly just going through a tough spot in your life and you will be redirected soon.
Keep me posted...Good Luck!!
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no..he is not going to come back he is too happy with other girls out there ..and on myspace he sends them messages and friend request so i can see it..and also when he send me messages for me to go to his house he erases them afterwards..i seriously dont know why..but then when he is having a conversation with another girl he doesnt even erases it :( (link)
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That's some crazy nonsense right there...Just like men cant understand women, its plain to see we have a hard time understanding their mentality too. Just silly boys playin their dumb games..
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sorry if this is the wrong category.
a few weeks ago i was browsing the reebok website in search for which pair i liked. on the page i was looking at, there were 42 different kinds of the shoes and i found a pair that i liked. now, when i go to look on the website there are only a few. (i picked the black reinspires with the pink bottoms and now i cant find them)
if anyone could help me find the page that had all of the shoes and colors that would be great!
thanks:) (link)
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Here maybe...they are the 9th ones listed.
gonna get some for myself!! :-D
http://www.calibex.com/Reebok-Easytones/zzcalibex2zB1z0--search-html?nxtg=351e0a28050c-976D353E16DDFFA3
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I found out today that my ex-boyfriend from a couple years ago was invited to the same small new year's party as me. I haven't been able to stand being around him since we broke up, and every time I'm in a room with him, we end up fighting. I would love to hear anyone's suggestions as to how I can work through these bad emotions. I really don't want my new year's eve to be ruined by negative feelings for one person. I get really worked up every time I even think about being around him, though. How can I stay calm? (link)
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It's hard to deal with those awkward moments when you run into your ex at mutual friend's get-togethers, but moreso, trying to just act normal when you still have those negative feelings pinned up inside. I want to say that its a choice to either let those emotional feelings come out, or just say to yourself, hey, it's all in the past.
Your past is supposed to be reflected on to look at your life lessons. He is from your past, and your break up will serve as a reminder of what you learned in that relationship and avoid the same issues in your next relationship. You should totally want to move forward with your life and not let this one little individual bring out a side of you that you don't like being, you know?
It's going to be a New Year, and hopefully you will not want to let another year after your break up have any further negative influences on your emotions.
Keep your chin up and find that inner strength to get passed the Past :-)
Go to that Party and look forward to having a great time. Get happy drunk and don't sweat what he's going to make you possibly feel like!
Enjoy yourself and be safe!!!
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I only have a few days at my job kind of. I work until the 31 of Decemeber unless they decided to keep my longer. I am in my third trimester. I have been sick all winter pretty much, stumoch bug, to a cold, two appcest teeth, to strep now i have a terrible cold cant breath etc. I also have been having dizzy spells. my doctor said i need to take it easy when i stand up stand there a minute before walking stuff like that at my job im up and down because they allow me to sit when its not busy im afird of passing out i have been having my dizzy spells three days straight now. My question is should i continue working. (link)
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Hey there!!! I'm really sorry to hear you are not doing well at all...I know that sickly feeling when you're pregnant, UGHH!!
But check this out...I just went to the doctor yesterday because of dizzy spells...and I thought it had something to do with a drug I had been taking for a while. Turns out it was a nasal infection, clogging up my nose and ears and stuff. He gave me a shot and some antibiotics and I have not felt dizzy.
Ask your doctor...At first it didn't make sense to me, but I knew I had been sick two weeks prior...bad cold and congestion. Sometimes when you're sick and like a runny nose or cough hang around for too long after, you might have developed an infection.
Check it out...lemme know....
I truly hope it's that...being dizzy sucks!!!
Take a couple days off if they'll let you...1 to go to doctor, then another to rest in bed with little movement.
Take good care!
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what are some things i could do to my girlfriend to make her feel good or tingle while we're making out, i already kiss her neck and squeeze/rub her a$$, she says that that feels nice, so what else could i do, she doesnt really like me playing with her boobs much so anything other than that would be great haha
thanks.
oh ive started breathing heavily in her ear aswell, that makes her tingle alot :) (link)
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Try slow and passionat kissing...not hot and heavy and hard, but slow, take your time. Too bad for the boobs, that's a big woo hoo for most girls! lol
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This may be a bit long; brace yourself.
I've read stories of people getting tired of their life and just up and going to a new place. Completely starting over.
As much as change scares me because of its uncertainty, I'd love to just leave and start my life over.
I'm 18 female, just started college in August about an hour away from where I was living before. I went through about a year of "depression" because my mom and I stopped living together and she tried controlling my life when she couldn't even support me. Since then I've been better, but still a bit mentally unstable. I don't know how to deal with my feelings. I'm in counselling and it helps, but there are still days when I'm not completely happy with my life.
I'm blessed to have what I do in my life, I recognize that, but I still feel like I'm settling for less than I should. Not necessarily what I deserve, but what I'm capable of. Is it reasonable to move away and restart my life since it's my life to live anyway? Any words of advice? (link)
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I've been there...and I have to say that your life is where you make it. If you approach 'change' and embrace what you feel it is going to do for you, then I would say totally go for it.
We can never live in fear of change, as it happens to us either all of a sudden, or by the decisions we make for ourselves.
One thing to take seriously into consideration, is where you are now depresses you. Being depressed sucks, that I know for sure.
I did not move away when I wanted to. I chose to take what God has given me, which are all good things, and make the best of it here. Slowly but surely, things are lining up and looking better. Keep in mind, that I am 34 and have 4 children..2 of which do not live with me, so I needed to stay so I would not be far from them.
You are young!!! And what a great way to start off your life by going somewhere that will be great for you...You will miss your mother, believe it or not, but showing her that you are mature enough to get your life on track on your own and prove to her that you are going to be okay and succeed, it will work out for both of you!!
Good luck with this...keep me posted if you can!
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I have a crush who doesn't like me. He doesn't even talk to me. And I'm just too shy to talk to me. He is part of the "gang". And the gang makes fun of people, like me. My Crush won't even add me on facebook. Theres nothing really that I love about him, except that he's handsome. Not really handsome. But Joe Jonas is way handsomer. :) If my crush won't even talk to me, add me on facebook and be nice to me. Is he a good choice? Because I only like him because hes handsome. And I also want to stop liking him. There are other guys in my school who are kinder than him but not so handsome. Any ways I could stop liking him? Im really obsessed by the way. If I see a letter of his first name...I go crazy! I also tend to stare at him a lot (which was last year) but now I hardly look at him. I don't show that I like him. Just so he likes me more. But seriously I love him!! (link)
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Ahhh, to be young and have a crush...
Well, don't beat yourself up, because this is so very normal...I will assume you are in your teens, so yeah, absolutely normal.
I used to have a crush on my neighbor and boy was it crazy mad! I knew it could never be, because he was like way older than me, but man, I dreamt about it..hahah.
Anyway, as I grew out of that phase, its neat to look back and just see how I could possess such strong feelings for someone that had absolutely no interest in me. In your position, you have the same thing, but not only is it unrealistic for you two to be together, but he is part of a group that ridicules you and demeans who you are.
This is where a line is drawn. He wont add you on FB or acknowledge you, so there is a good chance that if you ever built up the confidence to talk to him, he would ignore you, only to not be ridiculed by his gang members, you know?? Guys in their young state are not out to find out who they can fall in love with. they are about being cool, or looking for a quick booty call from a random girl so they can brag to their buddies.
I know it's going to be hard, but for your own benefit of not being hurt or dissed, merely look at this guy as a cutie or however you see him, and that's it...
You have to see things for how they are, not how you imagine them in your mind. It's hard to explain, but when you take a reality check and look at your situation from 'outside the box', you would be able to see what I'm talking about and see how silly it is to obsess over someone.
If by chance, you actually end up trying to talk to him, try to be optimistic, and be ready for anything. If he diss's you, then just say to yourself, Okay, I'm not shocked and now I know how it's going to be.
At least, when you look back on this one day, you can say, hey, I put myself out there and tried.
Good Luck!! Keep me posted!
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awwww thank you very much.. i really liked your advice..welll humm i actually whent last night to his house and i know i shouldnt had done that...and yea i kinda regret it ..but now when he askes me to go to his house late at night am not even gonna go because is true wat you say..then i willl have to deal with another havy pain...but i just wished i would forget this kid..i dont even know why its so hard. :( (link)
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It's only as hard as you make it. You have to keep the positive things at the top of you mind and know that your priority is to do what's best for you and not what's best for him, especially if he not giving back as much as you are giving. Relationships have to be fair. Give and take, you know? Balance the love out.
I think I've said this before, but you will never forget him, as he has played a role in your life that has taught you a lesson that you will look back on one day.
Where do you think my advice comes from ;-) lol.
From all the silly mistakes I've made in my life. You want others to avoid those same mistakes, to avoid the same pain you have felt from a boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, in the end, it is from your own mistake that you truly learn.
But nonetheless, Good luck and take care of yourself!! :-D
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is true..he thought i was never going to find out about his new over..but what i find weird is why he did that?? he loved me so much that he actually did alot of things for me and to keep on going with the relationship..i just dont know what he had on his head when he was in the dominican republic cheeting on me with that other girl..ahh am so confused ;/ (link)
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Try not to get in their heads and make sense of what or why they do this type of thing. It could be merely because they can. I too felt that my bf was in love with me with the sweet things he did for me, and then to find messages between he and other women just made no sense to me. He said it was because of the attention. They are so driven by their ego's they need so much attention.
If it doesn't make sense, it's okay. If he's lost you because of what he's done, it will be his lesson learned. But he wont stop cheating until he is ready. My ex still has his cheatful ways with his new woman...it's pretty sad. he's going on 40 and just a player. Hate to think he'll die alone...
Anyway...Keep your hopes up and don't dwell on him possibly coming back.
I will say, if you give him a chance to come back and he says he's going to be faithful, then he only gets the one chance. Even God gives people second chances...Draw you're line there.
Good luck!
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hey..i been struggling for 5 months after my boyfriend broke up with me..i been really sad and dont know what to do :(...
here is my story am sorry if its too long..
ok we we lasted 2 yrs and 2 months going out but then he left to the dominican republic and he cheeted on me overdere with another girl...he posted pictures on myspace and when he came back i confronted him about it..he told me that was his cousin..but i actually got to talk to the girl and she told me that he was her boyfriend.my heart just dropped...i cant believe he actually did this to me because he loved me and he did alot of things for me...now he is here and he tells me to go to his house in the night so his parents wont see me ..but its just to have sex..i dont even want to go because i dont like doing those types of things with him...but its been 5 months since he broke up with me and my heart still hurts..its like its carrying a heavy pain..i cant seem to move on,its just hard for me, i try to let it go and not think about him but its hard, and no i dont go out because i hardly have friends here.am always stuck in my house.but can someone please tell me wat to do or do you guys have a similar story similar to mines..i appreacited .thanks :) (link)
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First and foremost, you should not just try to forget it and move on...You have to look at your situation and see what you have learned from it...it's what's going to help you as you do move on and move forward.
Ok, he lied, he played you and insulted your intelligence. It hurts like hell because you loved him. Now he wants to use you for sex and hide you from the parents. Do not sell yourself short. Say to yourself that you are better than this game. Look at him as someone that is not going to find his happiness soon while he tries to carry on this relationship with you and this other woman. I know that if you were to give in and go over and give him what he wants, you will regret, and yet have another pain to deal with. He would be the one to benefit from it and not you. You will suffer.
It is hard to pull out from under the covers and see the good things around you if you want to keep dwelling on what this unworthy person has done to you. You ultimately will have to 'choose' to do other things to help you move on. You wont forget what's happened because it will be listed as a learning experience when you look back at it one day.
Dont give up on love, it is out there...
I thought I was giving up on it from all the hell I went through with my horrible cheating and lying ex, but love found me unexpectedly, and from my exeriences, I was not afraid of letting love happen, I was able to welcome it.
Good luck as you grow from this experience!!
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:( well i actually whent to his house last night at 1am. and it was for nothing . i feel so sad..last night i was just crying and crying because i have had so much bad luck in love..and i noticed that he only wanted to get inside my pants thats why he wanted me to go and specially at 1 in the night...now i regret it and my heart hurts so bad :( because i really did loved him and i still do..its just a heavy pain my heart is carrying! (link)
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It must be early in your love life, because as you mature in relationships, you will be able to determine what a guy is wanting from you when he's all nice and showing you the great things about him and so forth. It takes a long time to really get to know a guy, for his bad and his good, and during this time, you will learn if he is just wanting one thing, or if he's actually considering a dedicated relationship with you.
In the early years, for most guys, they are typically out to score and learn the ropes about sex. It's sad, but I haven't been able to really explore whether they know or not, that most of the women they are after, are looking for love and not just sex.
But surely they have to know the we girls love the attention from a cute, sweet and nice guy. And when we fall, we fall hard, thinking they will catch us and take us under their wing and love us.
The hard truth is that they are not ready for that. You have to know the signs, tho, you know?? Heck, I'd ask them up front, hey, you just want sex, or what?? Well not really, you dont' want to scare the good ones off, you know?
Breaking it down for you, is that you will have to move on from this, and only know it's a mere mistake on your part for falling for the wrong guy, and just know that it's okay. When you found out what the guy really wanted, of course you wish it was easy to just brush it off, knowing that he was just going to use you, and he insulted your intelligence. Bite your lip and know that you have to move forward and know what to look for the next time.
Pain is something we have to experience along the way, and I know from experience, it makes us smarter and stronger. So dont give up on love...it will come...but just be careful along the way.
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(sorry so long but i do rate! :) Hello im 18/f so heres the situation im in. My mom and step-dad recently got divorced. My mom and sisters moved in with my grandparents and i decided to stay at my stepdads until my mother got her own apartment. My stepdad is really cool and he told me he loves having me around and i can stay there as long as i want. Well my mother can move into her apartment on tuesday. I dont have anything packed and i really dont want to live with her. The tough situation is that me and my mother are very close. But this divorce situation has sort of seperated us if you will. shes moving to the "bad side of town" and i have nothing against that. My mom had me when she was 16 and shes became more immature i've noticed over the past couple weeks and she cant stand to be alone. She constantly has to have a guy with her and that really bothers me. I want to stay at my stepdads house because i've been bounced around over 40 times and im just 18. Its a stable home. Everyone is telling me that im stupid if i move out. And do what makes me happy. I honestly wanna stay here. I've lived here for 5 years. Im sick and tired of getting moved around. I just dont know how to break it to my mom that i dont want to stay with her its not because im chosing my stepdad over her its because of the situation. I guess im just wondering what your thoughts are on this entire situation. If you need more information please feel free to e-mail me. Thanks so much for any advice!
-Ashley (link)
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This is a touchy situation, I know. You don't want to hurt your mom's feelings, and at the same time, you want to take yourself and what you need into consideration. I know because I too had my daughter when I was 14 and had her bouncing around while I was trying to find myself. I was only in 3 serious relationships and she hated getting attached to one family, then having to let go because we separated.
But nonetheless, she is 18 now and she has her own job and own car and goes to see her dad whenever she wants.
Point being is that I know all she had to go through with me and it is my time to let her live her life, as long as she is happy and being safe.
You will need to talk to your mother and show her your maturity and sincerity and express your desires to not move with her.
It will hurt her, that is nothing you can avoid, but it does seem like staying where you are might be best for you, as long as your step-dad is cool with it and only wants to see you succeed. If being with your mom will hinder your drive to move up in the world and focus on you and your future, then you will have to overlook or overcome rather, the fear you'll have in telling your mom what she may not want to hear.
I would love to be kept posted, because I hope you do the right thing. If your mother loves and respects you and trusts you, then she will respect your wishes. Just promise to stay in touch and keep her posted on how you are doing at all times. That's what I would want from my daugther.
Good luck!!
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