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I drive all the way to see my girlfriend for lunch and when I get there, she is pissed off that I was late and she waited on me 5-10 minutes longer than she expected. We didn't have much time together but I thought it meant a lot for me to get ready and get up. I'm so depressed I don't want to get up but I did and drove all the way over to her school so we can see eachother for 10-20 minutes. When I get there she goes off at me. Why do I even bother with her. She takes eveything for granted and can't even wait for ten more minutes. I left the house right away after I called to tell her I wanted to see her. I got stuck at a few lights and I guess that's why it took a little more time. The second she sat in my car she was bitter and not for a second she thought to enjoy the time we had together. She pouted and kept on yelling at me for being late. "Why didn't you leave your house earlier?" -I had to call her first and that took about five minutes. I made her wait before.. well she didn't check her phone to see that I couldn't come that day. I can't even recall a time when she hurried over to see me at a place other than home because I don't work or go to school. When I did work, she never came to see me. Why is the ball always in my court to give a favor and when I screw up the favor, it going totally unappreciated. Why the hell do I even get up for this girl. I did all of this for her. I got upset and started bursting into tears when I was with her and she tells me to not ever come to see her for lunch anymore. More than anything, I just want to hurt her back but I'm not going to because that's the wrong thing to do. After I dropped her off, I came home still in fits of tears and I continued for about half an hour to an hour. She triggered all these other emotions bottled up inside me. Today is the scavenger hunt for the seniors and I'm not going because I haven't had contact with the few friends I do have and my girlfriend can't make it because she has to work. She knew I was looking forward to this event since last year when the 2009 class did it. It's almost time for graduation and I'm not making any memories or partaking in any activities for the seniors. I was upset about this and she still had the nerve to make the worst of our time because I WAS LATE. I'm also upset that my parents don't comfort me when I need comforting. They're just there and good for conversation, food, supplies such as gas and shampoo, and giving me a roof over my head. I appeciate all the above but when it comes to being there for me, that's where they lack support. When I am depressed and need comfort or help, there isn't anything coming. I don't have the friends or the family for that. My family doesn't know how to deal with me so they send me to a therapist instead of trying to reach out when they see me storming with tears. They just keep to theirselves and watch me cry, probably thinking that she'll get over it or it's not real emotion. I have symptons of borderline personality disorder and sometimes I feel that my mom thinks that's why I am so upset and that I have this problem. she doesn't even bother to think that she may be the problem, too. She's also always nagging me for things I haven't done such as getting a job or finishing a soda before opening another one. I tell her I over-looked it in the refrigerator and she goes off on me and when I try to defend my side she assumes what I feel is wrong and always is wrong. She labels me as a daughter(maybe not even that- I'm adopted) who is a no-gooder and whose opinions are wrong because they don't add up the way she sees it. If I make one mistake, to her it's a million. I do make a lot of mistakes but she never accepts my apology. it means nothing to her. What's so messed up is that I don't ever know I make a mistake until I see that someone's not happy. When I make decisions, I try to consider everything and everyone but there's always something I miss. With small decisions such as finishing a soda, analyzing how I may screw this up doesn't come to mind. I just do it and before I realize it myself, I screwed up. Right now I just want to leave town or go to a club and drown away my pain with alcohal. I'm not old enough for that and I don't have even a dime to spend. I just want to get away from my life. Maybe I will and come back for graduation. I'm 18 now. Why not? Well if I leave, my parents will most likely call the police to alert them of a runaway. I'm already on probation, any more trouble would put me in jail. And I can't attempt suicide because it will most likely prevent any chances in the military and I need them to pay for my education or I will be 40,000+ in debt when I am out of school. I don't want to struggle in college with keeping a 4.0 average and also working to pay for it. Sometimes I just want to throw away all my morals like I have been doing since junior year to have a better life but I think last night I woke up and realized that I'm not being true to myself and I am hurting myself even more. I wish I could have shortcuts and a good life without partaking in activity that is untrue to who I am. I just find myself in pain and stress everyday when I go to sleep and when I wake up. Only in my dreams, I can see myself and see that I am unhappy. During the day, I go along with my day having fun and with a positive attitude. The days just keep coming and going. Eventually I'll die and will have accomplished nothing but having a dreadful life while everyone thinks that I lived happily or for the most part. Not many people know me very well anyway and I mean nothing to them or I will just mean little significance because they never saw me from the inside, they're just an observer who judges me inadequately and I live with a label that doesn't suit me and when I go out into the world and I look at people who I see look back at me with this label and I feel like I don't exist. (link)
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I dont really know how to help that much...the two things i would sigest would be to talk to your girlfriend about her behavior and how it makes you feel. if she doesnt listen, then dump her. Also, talk to your parent about whats going on. this is really all i can say...
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My Anti-Virus scan complete and it said:
C:\Program Files\InstallShield Installation Information\{498C777C-415A-44FC-AE23-BB0A6967D5AB}\RPS SafeConnect.msi
Some parts of this file could not be scanned because they are password protected. The real-time protection will automatically scan these parts when they are accessed.
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Does anyone know what the file is above and if I should be worrying or not? THanks (link)
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well, i cant tell exactly what the file type, other than its on the c rive and it was an istalation file. It cant be scanned because its probrobly encrypted or protected in some way. it depends on what you were trying to do. If you anti virus was trying to scan it, then i would just look at the anti virus setting, but if it wasnt that, then i would be worried because something just shouldnt be scanning you comp like that. if you think its spyware, do a virus scan and get rid or it ASAP.
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I am a 20 year old female, and to give a better idea of myself, I go to school full time and work part time and would not describe myself as a huge partier. I was going out Saturday night, and my curfew is usually 2am (my mom is a big worrier). I was going to a party and asked my mom in advance if I could stay out a bit later, and we got into an argument and she refused. I ended up not getting a ride home until 3am, and my mom was up waiting for me and was furious. I didn't purposely do it out of spite, but nonetheless, it happened and she said my curfew was now 1am and if it happened again, it would keep getting earlier. How can I fix this situation? I admitted I was wrong, but I still felt that I deserved a yes to my request earier for a later curfew. Is there anyway I can get her to see my side? I just want some compromise. (link)
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wait...let me get this straight...your 20, and therefor an adult...??? why would your mother have anysay in your curfew. to me, it seams like your a colledge student, and as long as you make good decisions and dont stay out all night when you have a morrning class...i dont see what the problem is...you can stay out as lat as you want, and she cant so anything about it...
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hi ,i need advice my boyfrieng wants to lips me but im scared and i dont really no how th like im a really nervous ,and when i say i dont want to do it or just kiss him normally hes say i want action and dats boring.so should i lips him or just avoid him.
please help. rhl11 (link)
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d0ont feel pressured into doing anything that you dont feel comfortable doing. he needs to understand this.
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hello, so i need legal advice, there was an oil spill on a house i own but am renting out, so the people that are renting it dont have to pay i think, the insurance company is only paying to for the neighbors that it affected but not the spill itself, the oil tank company doesnt want to pay, and i obvisoly dont want to pay, the leak was caused because of a whole in the oil tank, and it was under a 10 year warranty i think still get papers, who should pay and is there anything i can do or anyway around having to pay 200 hundred grand to get this fixed? PLEASE HELP, i do have a lawyer but its not much help. (link)
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from my understanding, ussually if the accident was caused by fautly merchendise, and it was under the warrenty, then the compony is supposed to pay for it. im not compleatly sure, thought.
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I have this Guy that I think I really Love, But how do I dump him without the guit. I mean this guy only wants me for my body and i'm 14, I am not ready for all of this . Someone Please Help me! (link)
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just tell him how you feel. tell him that thats not how you want things to be.
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for over 6 months now. When we first started going out (this was during the school year), we'd hang out like every Friday & he'd text/AIM me pretty much every day. Over the summer we'd hang out like twice a week, and he'd also text me or AIM me all the time.
When school started again, this kind of slowed and stopped. I see him less and less now; we haven't done anything together since Christmas break (and that was only for like four hours), and before that, I don't even remember. And he doesn't talk to me online as often, either; I usually have to start the conversation to talk to him.
Anyway, my question is, what's the deal here? Did I do something wrong or is he just bored now? (link)
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hes probrobly gotten bored og you, unfortinently. he may have fallen for another girl to...but its hard to tell from what you said.
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why didn't ever work out in my love life I always screw up. Last year I liked this guy and to get to the point he didn't like me back and that broke my heart. :( This year I liked this guy and he liked me. He then told me he liked my friend. I wasn't going to tell him I liked him so I was stupid enough to tell him to go for it. :( Now him and my friend are going out and I feel sooooo bad. I feel like a faluire. I mean come on I like my friends boyfriend I don't know what to do.please don't tell me to stay away from him because I am doing that right now but I feel terrible. I always fall for the wrong guys. Help me is it me? I mean barely any guys ask me out and there are guys I know like me but with out knowing It I somehow manage to push them away :( help what can I do to get I a good relationship. (link)
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dont worry. you will find someone eventually. if you like a guy, you need to share your feelings with him. you never know how he feels about you.
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Okay, so here's my story.
Back in 9th grade (The summer before that, actually) I was dating this girl. We'll call her "Jane".
“Jane” is a year younger than me. She’s an A-B student.
So, anyway. We went out for about a month. We were pretty close. By the end of the summer, right before school started, her best friend told her that she was moving away to Kentucky (Or Kansas, I don't really know anymore). So we through her a big moving away/we'll miss you party. That evening we were sitting on her couch in her basement watching some stupid old movie when she comes out with the whole "I can't be seeing you anymore, I need to be with my best friend before she moves away" thing. I understood (For the most part) and we split up. She said she would always like me. I was pretty upset, since not many girls would even look at me. (Which is weird because I don't look much different and now girls won't leave me alone! Cocky, right?)
Okay, now we go ahead a few years.
So, after that, I went about 3 years single and I met this girl. We'll call her "Judy". She said she liked me, and (I'm pretty sure out of desperation) I said I kind of liked her, too. So we went out for about a month. We weren't very close. But by the end of that month, all I could think about was "Jane". So I told her that I wasn't feeling the "magic". (No, I did not get laid.) I have turned down more relationships than I can even remember. I was getting depressed. Not only could I not look at another girl without seeing "Jane's" face, "Jane" was now seeing a guy that didn't treat her with much respect. (I know, I know. Coming from the ex boyfriend who still likes her.) But he really doesn't treat her with the respect she deserves.
And here's the proof.
I work at the beach in my neighborhood. One day “Jane” comes crying to the beach because she found Mr. Perfect making out with another girl. So, my friend Nick and I were there to comfort her. And yadda yadda yadda she goes on about how he's an ass.
I find out 2 weeks later, she's back with the asshole. And I'm hearing from all of his friends that he's just trying to use her for sex. And other things and so on and so forth.
So, pretty much, I find out this guys a real jerk.
But the fact that she thinks that he's anything more than an angel is beyond me.
Hang in there guys, I'm almost to the question!
Right now I can't live a day without thinking about "Jane". It’s depressing me to the point where I don’t leave my house for months on end. And I really don't know if she knows it or if she even still likes me. I just want her to have what she deserves. If I wasn't right for her, fine. As long as she's not with that jerkass douchebag of a boyfriend she's with now.
My question.
Is there any way I can find out if she still likes me? Or anything I can do to help her find “Mr. Right”? Should I drop little hints? Or should I just tell her straight up? We haven’t been talking much lately, but I want to.
Any information will help!
I really appreciate it!
–Bartol Babich (link)
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well, first, you clearly are in love with "jane". what i would do in your possition, is try to be with her. become good friends with her, and tell her that your there for her. she definently needs to break up with the dipshit guy. eventually, shell rellize this, you just need to make sure she doesnt get hurt. try to talk to her about this. she may not listen very much if she thinks hes "perfect" but shell relize that he doesnt really care sooner or later.
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So there's this guy, he's been my friend since like 7th grade, I'm a freshman in high school now soo. Anyway, I'm not quite sure if I like him yet, cause I'm sort of getting over another guy that I've dated before. I've been hanging out with this certain group of guys a lot and so it's not like I can avoid him or anything. But the thing is, my best friend liked him for about 2 months and is just now trying to get over him. Sometimes I think she's mad at me cause he flirts with me a lot. But I can't tell if it's friendly flirting or like real flirting. One of my other best friends had this same problem and it didn't end well. Her and the other girl that was involved aren't friends anymore, and they're two of my best friends so it's awkward when we hang out. Of course I don't want this to happen to me and my friend. I told her nothing was going on between us cause honestly right now there IS NOTHING going on between me and him, I'm just kind of talking to him. If something does start between us, I will tell her cause I don't want her to lose trust in me. But is it a bad idea to get involved with him? He's one of my good guy friends so it'll be hard not being interested or flirty. But what should I do? (link)
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see, i had an issue like this. alltough im a guy, not a girl, i ended up having a fistfight with one of my best friends durring sopgmore year, and we dont talk anymore. the best thing for you to do in my opinion would be to let your friend get over this guy b4 you do anything. if she getts suspicious, or whatever tell her that you dont have strong feeling for this boy, and that your just friends. i have this issue with a guy who likes some1 ive known since 2nd grade. i would try to wait, but if you end up likking this guy, then you like him. your friend needs to understand that. just explane it to her, and if shes a good friend, she will listen. good luck :)
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NUMBER ONE:
i've had a crush on since sophomore year, when i had a class with him. we chatted every other day. then, he was a senior the next upcoming school year and we talked a little in the hall and stuff. annddd no he guys to college out of state. when he came back to visit some people at school, i saw him in the cafeteria and i was got HUGE butterflies when i saw him. we exchanged hugs and now i can't get my mind off this kid.
NUMBER TWO:
i've known for 6 or so years. i always thought he was a major babe, but he was so awkward to be around that it was kind of impossible to like him. then this past summer, i got to know him really well on a mission trip. he stopped hanging out with his usual group on the trip because he found out 2 of the girls liked him, so he started chilling with us. and i really liked him. then he does small things like calls me randomly and text me. i don't mind. my heart does skip a beat when i see his name popp up on my phone.
SITCHEEASHUNNN.
i like both of them, but i know number two isnt into me like that and would probably never be into me like that. AND my good friend likes him too, so i can't do that to her.
guy number one, i don't know. i just don't know. he lives in a different state!
what do i do? (link)
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see, tnhis is a very big problem. if # 2 obvously doesnt like you then it isnt worth trying, especally if it could ruin your friendship with him/ someone else. as for #1, i guess you could try asking him out, but the problem is thet he lives out of state. i know in moden times we have texting and facebook and stuff like that, so you might be able to mantain a relationship with that kind of stuff as long as you see him once in a while. however, if hes been in colledge for a good ammount of time, then he might have his eye on a girl there, so it might now work. ide give it a shot, though. ggod luck :)
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whats the difference between love and lust?? what do i have..like when me and my guy chill we ussually get intamte we dont go out or anything its just always in his car doing you kno.. we have been together for 2 years and ome months and never did we do anything fun and when i do mention to go out he doesnt like that idea because were keeping are relationship on the downlow for now and i dont even know its so confusing? can somebody help me out with this.. id appreciate it thanks (link)
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in my opinion, the big difference is that lust is ONLY sexual. when you love someone, you notonly like that way they look, but the way they are, there personality ect. lust, is when you are only atracted to a person for physical means. this is my opinion on this. it (quite obvously) isnt something to base a relation ship off of. anyway, good luck. :)
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