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I am 17 and a female. I am a jumior in colleage and is stoked for the christmas holiday! I love to have friends and i love to help people so everyone give me a chance and write to me and i believe everyone will enjoy, if not then your loss.
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Are you suppose to wait 10 days after your period so you can have unprotected sex and not get pregnant. I know the pills arnt 100% effective but is there a higher risk before or after you period to get pregnant?
Whether it's before or after or if you're on your period you should always make sure to take your birth control. There is no higher risk than the other because it is always possible to become pregnant if you are not careful. Birth control can help with preventing pregnancy but to be 100% sure you might want to rethink about not using a condom.
ok so i am a female. 17 and i jus started dating this boy lets call him boy a and me and boy a been dating for about a month and i really really like him alot !!! he.s funny and smart and everything bt now im nt so sure if i like him anymore =/ so anyways i saw my ex today boy b and me and him went out for about 6 months and when i seen him my heart started beating really really fast !! like i dont even noe why !! ughh im so confused i think that my feelings are beginning to come back for boy b bt i REALLLY like boy a and the funny thing is that my ex me and my boyfreind now all have the same class together !!! thats crazy right. me and boy b have alot of history togehter and i think he still has feelings for me too bt im nt sure we didnt even talk to each other today. ughh well i guess what i am asking is do you think that i still in love with my ex? and what do you think i should do about boy a ? should i break up with him? im so confusedd can someone please give me advice?
Well you said that you don't really have anymore feelings for boy a anymore so I think you should not continue to be with a guy that doesn't make you feel all good inside. Now your ex has came back into your life and yes the two of you have history but you have to ask yourself why did you and him break up in the first place? If you want to you can talk to your ex and see if he still has feelings and if it's true and you feel good about it ask him if he would like to give it another shot. GOOD LUCK!!!
Im 17/f , & I will be 18 in Nov. Michael is 16 & will be 17 in Oct. He is the youngest guy I have dated. We have been dating for 4 months. He's my first serious relationship I have had since my ex Thomas in 06'. When he first asked me out, I said yes, but I felt like I made the wrong decision cause I was scared of what people would think of him cause he isn't the cutest thing in the world, but he's sweet. I gave him a chance, cause I didn't want to be shallow & miss out on a good guy. After 2 months, I told Michael that I had an ex (Thomas) coming over to see my family cause he was really close to them, & Michael didn't care at all; he trusts me. Thomas & I sat in his truck just bringing up our past, & it brought back a lot of memories. He said he still loved me, & that when im 18 he was going to ask me back out, cause he is 21 & his parents weren't okay with the age difference. He was aware about my new boyfriend. We didn't do anything, NOT EVEN HUG. After he left, I started having mixed emotions about if i wanted to be with Michael or not, so I talked to him about it, & explained how I felt to him; days went by & I had a feeling inside me that I felt guilty, but I had nothing to feel guilty over. I finally broke up with him; I felt happier; but than again I felt as if something was missing. When I left him, he cried & was very hurt; we talked & got back together cause we both thought it was Thomas's presents that I was feeling this way; and we also thought that it was the fact that we barely hung out with each other. So we started hanging out alot more & the mixed emotions went away. We had sex once a couple of weeks later. Ever since then we have been fine until Friday; I told him I wasn't in love with him but I do love him; he said he was in love with me. My mixed emotions are coming back. I brought it to his attention again, & he says its cause Im on my period, cause last mixed emotions happen while I was on my period also. I feel as if our relationship is boring. We have tried new things, but our relationship doesn't get any better to me. When we hang its like we are bestfriends, but I know I like him as more. Looks aren't everything, hes a good guy which makes me like him more.We use to be able to talk on the phone for hours, & now I dont like talking to him any longer than maybe 10 minutes on the phone cause he irritates me. The littlest things he does gets on my nerves, & I don't understand why. I use to love to kiss him, but now I don't. I have no problem cuddling with him, but its only when I want too. I dont want to hurt him, cause he has treated me the best that I have ever been treated & he had a rough past where people would just walk out of his life & I dont want to be like that. Sometimes I find him immature, even though he really isn't. He just doesn't think before he speaks. He has tried to change himself to keep me, but I dont want him being something he's not. I know its not lust, cause we aren't all over each other, & I dont like doing sexual things with him. I just really don't know what to do.I've been thinking that maybe it's the fact that I like the idea of having a boyfriend, but Im not too sure. I don't want to break up with him, and than regret it, but I dont want to stay with him just to get him more attached to me and than hurt him more. Its like when I break up with him, I feel heartbroken & I want him back, but when I take him back, I dont want to be with him. Im lost, and confused.
Wow, um... that's a lot of stuff on your mind. Okay first I'm sorry to say that it seems that the two of you are just not meant to be with each other. You can't help how you feel and you don't need to suffer and stay with guy if he makes you uncomfortable. It would probably be a good thing first to just tell him that you need some space so you can have time to sort out your mixed feelings. Then once that is done. Get you self together and have the courage to sit him down and tell him that it just isn't working out and it never will. Yea.. he will be hurt and if you say that you feel hurt as well, well, it isn't the end of the world. You and him both will live and move on in life. You are both very young and still have much to explore. So all the things that you r telling me is saying that you might as face it and tell him that the two of you can't be because it's not right to stay with someone when you feel nothing for that person. Oh, but tell him that you don't mind about being friends it helps makes things a little easier. It should all blow over and then you can do what you wanna do. GOOD LUCK!!!
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
I'm sorry sweetie but I'm going to tell you right now that that is so not a good idea to stay with someone that is treating you that. That is completely wrong. You deserve better than him. He is doing this because he feels he has control over the relationship and he feels all powerful when he dogs you like he is doing and you should put a stop to it right away. Report it if you can but also you don't need to be with someone that is treating you with no respect and keeps lying to you about immature stuff. Just keep your head high and shrug it off your shoulders show him that you have control and that's not cool with you. Oh, and to everybody who has seen that site and says something to you just show them it doesn't bother you. It will be all good. Stay strong and GOOD LUCK!!!
Ok well i'm thinking of having sex with my boyfriend this weekend. I just finished my period yesterday. Im wondering how you get in the mood to have sex. And also, isnt itkind of akward when a guy has to stop to but on a condom? I just need advice on how to get in the mood and stay in the mood. This is pretty urgent.
Four play is the best way to start off. Making out and having him finger you and maybe you feel on his dick. when he goes to put on a condom if you feel like your going to loose your mood ask him to multitask and apply the condom while he continues to finger you. HAVE FUN!!!
16/f
my best friend is a guy. and we have been friends for such a long time. we tell each other everything, never holding anything back. we can be on the phone for hours, hangout alone, and have so much fun together. but i really haven't realized i had romantic feelings for him until this year, and i don't know what to do about it. he's had a string of failed relationships. he always needs to be with someone. he's now back with his ex girlfriend. they fight all the time but they continue to see each other. they aren't dating yet, they are "together" i feel like i'd be perfect for him. we never fight. i know to act around him, i know how to handle him, we complement each other. but i'm scared to tell him, because i'm afraid he'll be creeped out and not want to talk to me again. i want him to see me in that way. but i don't know how because he's with his ex again. i don't understand why he doesn't see me as a potential love interest, i know he thinks i'm pretty, he's told me before. i just don't know what do from here. someone please help!
There is always a risk when you fall for a best friend, but you will never know how things could go unless you do something about it. The main thing to do is be casual. Don't act weird or it will be weird for the both of you. If you think you can't to him about this face to face then text him. Bring things up that will hint hint your new romantic interest in him and see what he says back. Tell him how you feel about his "girlfriend" makes you feel and then somewhere in there tell him how you think that you and him should give it a shot. It's worth a try and the worst that could happen is him saying can we just stay friends and that is better than not being friends at all. You need to have confidence and don't be scared to tell your best friend anything. That is why the two of you are friends in the first place. GOOD LUCK!!!
Recently I want to buy a present for my friend,and I found a handbag on coachoutletcom.com .The first black one.but I don't know if she likes.Can anyone give me a suggestion?
well I do not know what girl would not like a purse for a present. I think your doubting it to much. I am sure she will love it and she knows it's the thought that counts... so go for it.
Is there a name for what I have?
I am so bored of my life, theres nothing exciting. I hate it, i am depressed at the fact of how boring things are. I feel stressed out with everything. Someone, please give me an answer on what to do.
It's possible that you just need change in your life style. This is called depression. The best thing to do would be find things outside of your routine. Ex. Get a new hair cut, New places to go on the weekends, different activities. All of this could help a lot. Let me know if it does work.
18f.
So I lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago. I'm on birth control and he used a condom. But still, the whole time we were having sex I couldn't stop thinking: is the condom still on? did it break?
Just things like that kept running through my mind which sort of killed the moment. Don't get me wrong, it was great but I still couldn't stop thinking about the possibility of something going wrong. Is it always like this? Or do you think it was just because it was my first time having sex?
Don't worry so much. I think it's because you experienced sex for the first time. The thought will always be in your mind after having sex but if you plan to continue to have sex then you should not allow these scary thoughts to affect your good time with your partner. It is a very wise thing that you are taking the necessary precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD's. Don't worry and have fun.
ok, so I have this guy friend who I have fallen hard for. He has no idea how much I like him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I'm afraid it will upset him or scare him, and he will not want to even be friends with me anymore. If anyone has a good way telling him without ruining our friendship, that would be great. Thanks in advance :) oh, and he is also a firm believer in the saying "actions speak louder than words". In case that changes anything
There can be risks to everything that you do in your life even fallen for a guy. There is also nothing wrong going for something that you really really want. If his saying is that "Actions speak louder than words", then it might be time that you did just that. Flirt with him a bit. Be as causal as possible but show him that you're not scared to show him how you really feel. If you see signs that tell you he is flirting back and may like you also then that would be the time you say something about how you really feel and the worst thing that can happen is him saying all he wants to do is be friends and except that. It better than nothing. Have confidence and all should go well. GOOD LUCK!!!
okay thankuu! :) i usally speak to him like i say hi and he'll say hey and then u ok? yh u? yh im ok and then the convo dies and goes awkward nd thats it! thankyou for your help :) i would like to spend more time with him in school with just us and no mates, how could i explain this to him?? xx thankyou hun :) x x x x
well try not to let it go awkward. All you have to do is casually ask him "Do you really like me? and enjoy having me as a gf?" Then when he gives the "yeah I do" or something to that effect then say that you would rather prefer every once in while that you and him could have some alone time with each other. The key is to just play it cool. Be sweet and maybe a lttle resistable lol.
What does it taste like? salty or sweettt?
it's warm and salty and ver very very nasty!!! almost like drinkin piss!
heya me and my bf have been 2getha for about 6 months and i really want to talk to him more in school, were both in year seven and atm we both hang around with our own mates in skool , i really wanna make a move to spend more time with him in school and i wanted help to boost my confidence , im quite quite around him and he doesnt take much notice of any1 so i wanted to get his attention aswell with this but in a normal way if that makes sense? i want to be abit more romantic with him aswellxx thankuu xxx love u peeps x please help!!!! xxx mwah x x x
the best thing you can do is if you see him in school make the move to go over there and say hey or something sexy like "Hey sweet thing!" Something that does get his attention and just start conversating. If you want to get something done you must do it yourself. Don't be scared to ask him be alone with you. Be sweet and take control. I am pretty sure he will love it.
Okay,
I know this is easy but I get confused.
I normally take my bc pill at 1;00pm
but because we moved the time forward
should I take my pill at 2:00pm instead?
or should i just keep taking it at 1?
what is the best idea?
I am sexually active, I don't want to take
chances thats why I'm trying to figure this out..
The doctor may say that you should take the bc pill at the same time everyday but its not a have to. It is perfectly alright to not take it at the same time. To keep it at one is fine, but if it bothers you than take it at two, but you don't really have to be so percise about it.
can you have sex when you are on your period?
yes you can it is perfectly normal to have sex while on your period. Some girls actually say that having sex while on your period is a lot more enjoyable, but not everyone is the same.
okay, so i'm good friends with the guy, and we were talking and we got into like hooking up and stuff.
and me giving him a blow job.
i've never done something of this sort before so i don't know what it entails.
i don't really want him like fingering me or anything like that, but does that always happen?
and what makes a good blow job?
Okay let me first just say that when a guy gives a girl pleasure he always expects something in return, so remember that. Anyways.... A blow job is really simple. Just go down on him with your mouth and go up and down. It good to roll your tongue and if you do not have a bad gag reflex then deep throat it. Guys love it. But if not then just for as far as you are comfortable going.
my boyfriend wants to kiss me and ive never kissed anyone before and im 14. he understands when i pull back but i can see him hurting inside and that annoys me that i let him down so much. he asked me if its just that im unsure or whether its to early for me but my answer is always i dunno. i really want to kiss him but 1: im not sure how and 2: i dont wanna do it wrong
like i said i really want to kiss him but im just uncertain about it all. hellppp???????? im just not sure how to and i would rather be alone with him but its a bit hard theres usually 3 othr ppl ther and he says they wont c but i dont mind if they c there my girlfriends and they know that i always chicken out with every boyfriend i have had. i just freeze sometimes. im not sure but its weird cos i do really want to but yeh. im just glad he is so understanding :)
It is good that your boyfriend is understanding but if you continue to not want to kiss him than he will lose interest. I can tell you from experience because I am seventeen that kissing will come naturally once you do it. I made the first move when I kissed for the first time and you know all guys love it when girls make the first move. Show him you are bold and confident. Start out by just a simple peck oh the mouth. There is no harm there. Then if the two of you decide to continue to (french) kiss then just slide your tongue inside his mouth and work it around his. I know it sounds weird and it will be weird at first but then it will be as if you been doing it for a long time. And if you are thinking that it will be nasty to be swapping spit and his saliva and tongue is going to taste gross, trust me when I say that you will not taste anything. Unless your boyfriend has bad breath and that's never good. But, anyways... Just calm your nerves and go for it. I promise it will be worth it and you will enjoy it. If I didn't help, then magazines and practicing with yourself helps also.
18/m
Alright, well for the past 4 months I have been completly.. (I don't think words can describe it? I don't want to say love, But I don't know) with this girl, but being me, I never said anything. Although, I'm fairly sure she knew. Well, last night I was talking to her, and she said that she wished she had dated me, Pathetically, my answer was "Thanks" I mean seriously wtf is that. Well, this couldn't have been better timing, because now she is moving 500 miles away, Tomorrow. Now, my question? well.. I don't know what I should do? Any ideas? This just sucks. I feel as though there is nothing I can do, which is killing me.
P.S This entire scenario is so out of character for me. Usually, I'd have asked her out straight away. She is just.. Different. (You know, that different which is just unexplainable?)
Okay I just tell you right now that no girl can read your mind. Not all girls can tell when a guy is silently telling them that they love them. Even though she is moving, she still deserves to know how you feel, am I right? She is moving so what is the worst that can happen? She might even have feelings for you, but you won't know unless you ask. Trust me when I say that everything will be okay. You say she is a different kind of girl and if that is true than let her know that, that is why you love her and what makes her unique. Just be calm and go for it.
okay so i like this boy brian. i want to talk to him more without seeming clingy or annoying. i'm nervous to text him unless i've been drinking. i need some help!
Why don't you just act like it's a coincidence that you and him end up speaking to each other. Like, bump into him or just be around when he is. It is alright to text a guy and not be drunk. Guys won't blow that off. Something you could do is walk by him and make eye contact for just a short second and kind of let him know with your eyes that you really like him and who knows he might catch the drift.
So I am a girl and I am bi sexual and i am with my 1st girlfriend. Well she lives with her roomate that acts like she controls her she has to watch her kids well I found out lik3 3 months ago my gf's roomate was her first like 10 years ago but theres no feelings there she dont believe in cheating they dont even talk about it. Well last night she got really drunk and I found out that back then they dated for almost a year. I was devistated and upset and she was mad and confused of why i was upset. shes like you always throw it in my face maybe i should be with her or she might be better in the bed i dont believe in cheating and i wannt be with you i dont want you to think differently im ready for us to get our own place. i still feel like wow should i just let it past cuz it was 10 years ago?
Okay this is what I would. I would let it pass, but...... I would still keep a good eye out. just loosen up on things that you are normally stressing out about. Trust is a good thing to have on a relationship and if you do not have it with her than the two of you might need to have a talk. It's okay to be jealous or curious, and sometimes that can be sexy. (ha ha), but too much of it can push her away and possibly result in a break up. So... if that is not what you want then I would suggest that you just take it down a notch and relax. God bless!