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Often we seek advice from someone but are not sure who to share our personal business with. The advice of a stranger is sometimes better received than from those we love. A stranger does not know us well enough to point a finger or speak of our flaws. I am committed to helping those who seek advice. I will be fair and honest. I won't be judgemental. I'm here to help!!!
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I am a 18 year old girl, and i have been dating this 20 year old. we have been together for 2 months and when we first started talking he wouldnt let me have a day to myself, he always wanted to be around me. All we do is party or after work one of us will go to the others house and we watch movies. Now that i started school in the mornings and i work in the afternoon i get to see him twice a week. last night at new years everything was fine, i wake up this morning and everything is fine and hour after he drops me off at home he says "we need to talk" and says that i am being too clingy and that im getting on his nervous. I see him twice a week how am i clingy??!!!??? I dont get it.
Sounds like he's just trying to make an excuse not to be with you. You have other things going on and he can't handle that. Don't you dare give up work and school for such a loser. Because you are doing other things other than being with him, he's not willing to put up with you anymore. I say send him packing, there are plenty other men out here.
I have a crush who doesn't like me. He doesn't even talk to me. And I'm just too shy to talk to me. He is part of the "gang". And the gang makes fun of people, like me. My Crush won't even add me on facebook. Theres nothing really that I love about him, except that he's handsome. Not really handsome. But Joe Jonas is way handsomer. :) If my crush won't even talk to me, add me on facebook and be nice to me. Is he a good choice? Because I only like him because hes handsome. And I also want to stop liking him. There are other guys in my school who are kinder than him but not so handsome. Any ways I could stop liking him? Im really obsessed by the way. If I see a letter of his first name...I go crazy! I also tend to stare at him a lot (which was last year) but now I hardly look at him. I don't show that I like him. Just so he likes me more. But seriously I love him!!
First of all, I think you know this answer. If this guy isn't paying you any attention and treating you bad, leave him alone. Why should you chase someone like that? Have a little self respect and esteem. Love yourself before you try to love someone else.
i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...
he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks.
Give yourself time to get over him. Some people take longer than others to get over someone they love. There are plenty other guys out there for you. Take some time for yourself. The right guy will come along in due time. But whatever you do, please, stop trying to talk to your ex. Let him be.
Ok, im 18 and a girl and there is this one really cute gy that i work with, hes kinda my brothers friend but they never really hang out. he's 2 years older than me and i like everything about him especially his personality. i just dont know if he likes me or not, we recently just had a class together. he did talk to me a few times but they were about our college class, i dont really know how to tell if he likes me or not, please help
I've always liked the direct approach. If it were me, I would just ask him if he would like to go out to the movies or dinner. Sometimes the only way to find something out is to just ask.
I really need to move on from my last relationship. It's been almost 5 months and I still can't. I went out with him for more than a year, and he is over me completely while I am not.
Also, we have a baby together. He was just born, I need to know how I can meet people if I'm always stuck at home?
I don't go to public school, and I have lost contact with a lot of my friends :(
I really need to know how to meet new people, also if you have any stories at all similar to mine please tell?
Thanks
Maybe for now, you need to focus on raising your child. You are in school with a baby. Concentrate on your school work and becoming a good mother. You'll have plenty of time to meet someone. Just be patient, the right person will come to you. But you must be careful in deciding who is right or wrong for you. You have someone else to think about besides yourself now. There are a lot of sick people out here, be carefull; and please, make sure you are comfortable and know as much as possible about someone before introducing them to your daughter.
17/female
i've been going out with a guy for a little over a year. were best friends and have an amazing relationship. the only problem that i have though is that his mom is really overprotective. i haven't seen his room..ever and he has a relatively early curfew. it's frustrating for me because i hate to see her treat him like he's in 5th grade. she's really nice to me and loves having me around, but i think what she does is ridiculous. what should i do?!
You do nothing. As long as your boyfriend is at home with his mom and she pays the bills, he has to abide by her rules. Like it or not, he is not grown... yet. You should keep your thoughts to yourself unless you can provide a place for him to stay and food for him to eat.
15/f (sorry, might be long)
My b/f and best friend hate each other!!!
My b/f, Tyson, is extremely corny and sweet. He's a giant goof ball and I love him soo much! He is very good to me and is constantly talking to me (even right now through txt). I can't last a day without him.
My best friend is such a funny guy. We're always laughing when we are together and he makes me feel happy. He's a sweet heart and I can't imagine life without him.
They used to be friends two years ago and stopped hanging out (I don't know why) and this year I started dating Tyson. At first, they were fine and even trying to get along for my sake. Now, all they do when ever I bring another up in conversation is talk about how much they hate each other. It hurts to see my two favorite people fighting each other like this!
I don't know what to do, I love them both and will NOT chose between them. I wish they could see that. I know Tyson doesn't want me to hang out with my best friend, and I know my best friend doesnt want me dating Tyson (even though they haven't told me themselves, I know). I just want them to get along! What do I do?
You do nothing. Both know they are important to you and should not want you to choose between the two. Don't try to force them on one another. Eventually thet will work their problems out or deal with the way things are. Make it clear that they both will be a part of your life and stand strong behind what you feel.
I am an 8th grader he is a 9th grader and he is definitely not the goodest guy to like. He smokes weed,drinks,smokes,sex and shit like that.I am not no goodie goodie.But yah what do you reccomend? stay away or what
What I think you should do is concentrate on your school work. Read a book, talk on the phone, go to the mall. You are too young to be thinking about boys, especially boys who are into weed and sex. Enjoy your childhood while you can. And watch the language next time, show some respect. You ARE a child.
16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?
First of all, you need to put the brakes on. You do not want to be the center of "locker room " talk. Sleeping with two guys that hang out together is so not cool. If you havn't slept with Brandon yet, be sure he is someone you love before you decide to. If you don't and things don't work out, you'll be looked at as a whore. Think long and hard about if you want to go there. On the other hand, you definately need to cut things off with Donald. Sex should be between two people with love, and a deep connection with one another, not just because it's convient.
Is it horrible for me to hate my sister?
We have never really gotten along before. I am 21 and she is 19. We have both had very different up bringings. I was raised by my grandparents and she was raised by my mother.
She is a very attention seeking person and will do what others tell her or do or say things to fit in a crowd.. She doesn't work, throws in all her jobs because she doesn't want to work.
She has very minor 'operations' (its just like having a pap smear) and writes it all over face book for everyone to see. She never even finished school.
where as I, I have always worked since I finished year 12. In good jobs to, first in a lawyers office now in a doctors surgery. I have also studied through TAFE.
My grandfather who raised me passed away suddenly in August. He was only 58 and was never sick before, he suffered from a stroke and was in a coma for 30days before passing.
Now the problem is my sister is putting all over face book that she 'misses and loves her poppy' Um hello... she never had anything to do with him for 4 years!!! Every time our parents told her she had to come to nanna and pops house she would make herself vomit so she didn't have to go.
She's never really had anything to do with me before either. This isn't the only things that are contributing to my feelings of hate towards her.
Should I confront her and tell her that I wont don't want anything to do with her anymore and that she should stop writing things about my pop whom she's had nothing to do with for 4 years? Other wise i'm going to end up doing something childish that I will regret!
Thank you
I think you should put all of these things behind the two of you and start from scratch. You are sisters no matter what. Family should be able to have differences but work them out. In the end, family is all you will have.
My husband and I have only been married for a few months. For about the past month we cannot get along but maybe for 24 hours. We argue over everything. We just bought a house, and can't seem to agree on anything. I feel ike I compromise constantly because he gets so angry if he doesn't get his way. For instance, he doesn't like flouresent light bulbs and I do,, but in order to avoid extreme arguments all the fluorescent bulbs have to be changed back to regular. Also, I have a 4 year daughter that calls him daddy, and he allows this to happen. When he gets mad at me he tells me that he is not her dad and he wouldn't care if we got a divorce. AFter our fights he will come to me later that night and act like everything is okay and nothing happened. He will apologize for saying dicvorce but we never work through anything. I have tried to explain to him the need to work through our issues but he refuses. I have suggested a marriage counselor and he refuses. I don't kjnow what to do and I think that I am headed toward divorce very quickly. Any advice? I don't want a divorce and I love my husband, but I can't live like this much longer.
That sounds horrible. I'm so sorry you have to experience this. Maybe you could talk to a counselor on your own. Maybe a preacher or someone in that field could help if you go to church. I don't that's a good environment to raise your daughter in. I wouldn't want her growing up thinking love is to be that way. You could try leaving for a few days and show your husband that you mean business. If he doesn't straighten up, he'd be alone. Were things like this before you got married? Marriage brings about much stress, but it shouldn't be this bad especially so soon. Good Luck!!!
My dad moved out, dont talk to him much, my mom and him have way too much drama, my sis moved like 45 min away driving. And i only see my aunts cusins on weddings. My mom is dating and im happy for her, but I just feel like I dont have family. Family is suppoosed to be a close bond. Someone you can turn to no matter what. Something more than friends and i dont have that. I want to be close to my sister and im her M.O.H but we dont seem to have much in common. I only see her like once a week for dinner and than she leaves right away. I just feel really allone like I have to build a family from scratch and it is such an awful feeling. Just wondering if anyone has any advice or anything to make me feel better =(
Try sitting down and talking to your family. Tell them how you feel about everything. You shpuld especially talk to your parents and your sister. Try setting a date and time when you all can sit down and discuss this.
i am a 17 year old female. I have recently been considering emancipation. My home life is decent finacially but as faras the relationship my mother and i have, it isnt the greatest. Shes an alcholic and is currently trying to get herself straight. She has never been a good parent. Ive been pretty much raised by my grandmother. She often lashes out at me for no reason and in always blaming me for alot. She accuses me of lieing all the time. She calls me names, and im tired of the abuse. I know you have to provide proof that you are able to tke care of yourself. I was wonder if anyone could help me out with the steps of doing that.
Maybe before you think about living on your own, you should talk to other family members. Maybe someone who isn't so abusive will allow you to stay with them. It's rough for an adult with a decent job to make it out here. It would be worse for a teen. You shouldn't have grown-up responsibilities.
I have been taking birth control for about 2-3 years,for the majority of that time I was having sex.There was a period of time where I didn't have sex for probably 5-6 months and recently I had sex again.BUT ,ive been taking my birth control a little weird.Sometimes i would take it at random times in the day,sometimes i would keep it consistent and sometimes I would even forget to take it but the majority of it gets taken. When I had sex the other day,he pulled out and came on a towel but i feel as though not all of it was in that one spot.He swears he didn't come in me ,but I'm just a little worried.And today,i was having feelings (kinda like period cramps,but im in the middle of my birth control cycle) and when i went to the bathroom ,some clumps of what seemed to be period blood but was sort of brownish was there but not a lot ,only a slight amount.What's the deal here?!
First off, you should still practice safe sex(condoms) even if you are on the pill. There are a lot of scarier things out there besides pregnancy. It sounds like you should see a doctor, especially if your cycle is pretty much consistent. Better safe than sorry.
3 to 4 months and this is what happend this month on the first of december i got my period all normal for the first two days but then it got light then really dark colored and then stoped so obviously i got worried i took a pregnancy test on that thursday it came negative but i was still woried so i took another one on tuesday. that came negative. so im hoping im not or am i taking the test to early my boyfriend almost cums in me al the tiem and we have sex about 3 to 4 times a week at least. is it my birth control or me.?
Sounds like you're not pregnant. Sometimes the pill will play games with your cycle. If you get your period next month, chances are you're fine. If you are still feeling unsure, maybe you should go see a doctor to be safe.
Okay so I like this guy. We danced alot at our school's Winter Dance. And then the next day at school he wouldn't talk to me or even look at me. And he kept telling people he doesn't like me, that he likes my best friend. Should I keep trying for him or just give up?
HELLOOOO!!! Are you listening to yourself? You just said this guy likes your friend. Why would you keep after him? He was probaly dancing with you to get close to your friend. Find someone else.
I am a 14 year old mother.
Please do not judge me, i am judged enough.
I am still in school and planning on finnishing.
My story is, my friends father raped me, obviously he did not know what the word protection ment, and knocked me up. He is in prison, my parents grief every day, and people stare like they think they are God and its judgment day. It is very hard, i couldnt give the baby up, i just didnt have it in me. I am 7months and huge. I am scared, i have watched tons of videos on wat is most likely going to happen to me when the twins arrive. Yes, i said twins. One boy and one girl. My mother has called adoption agencies and etc, but i have turned them all down, truly i want to keep my children, granted the father is an asswhole. When i feel them kicking to the sound of my voice it rips me apart to think i would give them up. ANY ADVICE??!
Wow!! So sorry that you had to experience such acts, especially at your age. No one has the right to judge you, you didn't ask for this. I do admire you for wanting to take on the responsibility of motherhood. It is a good feeling having a bond with someone who isn't here yet!!! Perhaps you can sit down with your parents and explain to them you don't want to give up something that is a part of you. Ask for help and support in raising these children. But be sure this is what you want. once you decide to be a parent, it's for a lifetime. Keep me posted and good luck!!! God bless you.
Ok so I'm 14 and in 9th grade. Last weekend I met this boy at a friends party. We immediatly hit it off. I told my best friend Taylor that I liked him a lot by the end of the party. She and Bobby are friends so she told him for me and he felt the same way. And at the party he was so cute we went outside. It was raining so he gave me his jacket. And then the next day he asked me out. This was over aim. I said yes and that's that. During the weekend we talked a lot and we have so much in common. We both love horror movies, like shakespear, have most of the same friends. Pretty much we agree on everything. Monday after school I stayed after with him and we watched a volleyball game. We talked and talked and he's really great because he just keeps the Convo going. Tuesday I didn't see much of him and we didn't really talk to much today. I really like him and I want this to last but I'm worried things are going to get akward. Plus everyone thinks he's gay and whatever because he's got a lot of friends that are girls. And I'm not sure if he really likes me now or at all. I want to give this relationship a good chance so what can I do? With some friends were going to the mall so I need some advice on how to get him to know I like him. We've been going out for like 3 days when should we hold hands or kiss? Help please! :) thanks so much
You're only 14. Don't get so worked up over a relationship. You've only been talking to this guy for 3 days. If you become too demanding so soon, you'll run him off. You should not be looking for a serious relationship at your age. Live your life. You have plenty of time for a "real" boyfriend later.